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How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 7:19:27 PM

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I am for real I am a full on devoted lifestyle seeker tomsissification sissy maid slaverry but no one is serious like me

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 7:30:15 PM

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Do you really think you come across as serious when your profile pic shows off nothing but your anus?

Do you really think that's what a dominant partner wants to see FIRST of you?

No, they want to see the human being with whom they're going to have a relationship.

And that doesn't begin with your anus.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 7:41:32 PM

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When all else fails... follow the directions:
Ask A Mistress FAQ - READ THIS FIRST

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 7:48:33 PM

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What's best mistress I need to get chastitized and start hormon training under a mistress

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 7:59:09 PM

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You don't need a Domme. You know exactly what you want done to you and for how long and are not shy in telling exactly what the Domme is to do to and with you. You just need a submissive willing to do what you say you want done. Subs are much more willing to obey your orders than a Domme might be.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 8:08:59 PM

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I am for real I am a full on devoted lifestyle seeker tomsissification sissy maid slaverry but no one is serious like me

No, you're not. You're some guy who's watched a whole bunch of femdom porn. You're complaining that nobody else is serious...

You have some preconceptions about what the lifestyle is like from porn. And you're finding that reality is not like porn. So your conclusion is that the women are not serious.

Nope. Reality is NOT porn.

You're looking for a woman to sissify you and put you on hormones. The problem is that the women here want men to have dinner with, go to movies with, and have conversations with. If they like you enough, they'll indulge your fantasies.

First, make sure they enjoy talking with you and being with you.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 8:44:16 PM

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I am offering my beautiful body life sexy athletic ovlive body with full surrendore and submission foreve chastity

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 8:52:09 PM

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I just read your profile and well, your expectations are unrealistic and where in any of that is what you are willing to do for HER. You want a fetish delivery system and you aren't likely to find that here. Your demands are pretty much wank fodder and not in the realm of the real world and what most Dommes are willing to go through. Just because the people here don't want to cater to your every fantasy does not make them not serious.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 9:07:00 PM

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I know that just giving them a idea of wat I am into I am open to theirs and understand that

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 9:08:38 PM

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By your profile narrative and what you post here, it's clear you suffer from a fatal case of porn-contamination. Btw, women are funny about pictures. You show 'em an asshole, they think you're an asshole.

Learn some stuff about how this works in real life, get a clue about approaching dominant women as people first and not as your free fetish delivery system, and come back when you have something worthwhile to add to the boards. We'll be happy to discuss the finer points of actual lifestyle participation with you then.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/12/2013 9:24:18 PM

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I know that just giving them a idea of wat I am into I am open to theirs and understand that

Then you really need to look over your profile, you repeat yourself several times about what you want and what you need and it makes it seem that you are very 'me me me' with unrealistic expectations. There is not one bit of non fantasy in your profile and it makes you seem like a do me sub with no realistic expectation or the ability to see their partner as more than someone to fulfill their every fantasy. If this is not what you want to project you really need to re vamp your profile.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 2:18:47 AM

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Have you considered putting more stills from porn movies in your profile pictures? That might help.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 2:27:19 AM

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Have you considered putting more stills from porn movies in your profile pictures? That might help.

Indeed! It's the mark of full on devoted lifestyle true sissy maid slaverry.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 3:16:07 AM

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I am offering my beautiful body life sexy athletic ovlive body with full surrendore and submission foreve chastity

But no ability to listen and comprehend. That's a hard limit for Dommes around here,

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 3:34:08 AM

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The serious ones that you're looking for.... get paid.
Then they'll do all the things you want them to do.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 4:03:56 AM

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is thier eny mistress that could help me find a real ne in victoria to take me for at least a week top trial me plz i need help i cant wait eny longer

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 4:07:15 AM

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is thier eny mistress that could help me find a real ne in victoria to take me for at least a week top trial me plz i need help i cant wait eny longer

Basically: no.

That's what everyone's trying to tell you.

If this thread finds you anyone who could help you find a week's trial with a real mistress in Victoria I will eat my hat.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 4:26:28 AM

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Although your subject line is 'how to find the real deal' you are not listening to our answers. Male wannabe subs who are lost in pornography, needy as all hell, and willing to allow anyone to dom them are literally a dime a dozen in this venue.

All of the above says you want a fetish delivery device, you could care less about the person, you only care about YOU. Not very subbie, but then you don't know that. You are ignorant beyond belief. You think offering your body is a big deal, when it's laughable.

Your needs are not 'life for you' -- you've become addicted to porn and your own personal fantasies. This puts you at the bottom of the sub list, and it's a very, very long list. The only 'doms' you will attract are scammers and those interested in your wallet.

Please seek help for your porn addiction.

Oh and welcome to the CM forums where we tell it like it *is* and don't buy into your fantasy bullshit.

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 4:45:08 AM

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thatthethigidontwat porni want this feelingof being chastitized foreva i feel like a girl u dont understand i want to be sexy

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RE: How to find the real deal - 10/13/2013 4:48:35 AM

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is thier eny mistress that could help me find a real ne in victoria to take me for at least a week top trial me plz i need help i cant wait eny longer

I will be your Mistress for the next week. Unfortunately it will be online only, but that's ok because you're not ready for in-person anyway.

Your orders:
Look at the non-fiction section of this book list: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm
Pick any three and read them, cover to cover.

No porn for the week. That is, no videos, no dirty pictures, no erotic stories. You may read the forums here, but no asking people for play.

Do some serious research about what 'hormon training' actually is. Write me a 500 word summary which covers the steps you would need to take to get the hormones on prescription, the effects and side effects, the different stages of treatment and the impact you imagine it would have on your life. Show that you have considered how this will impact your family relationships and friendships, your work environment and your mental health. Post it in this thread.

Write me a second 500 word summary of what you imagine a D/s relationship would be like. Include a sample daily routine. Show me that you have a grasp on reality. If you write 500 words of hot sex fantasy, I will know you haven't done the above steps. Show me that you understand emotional connection, serving someone else's desires (not just your own hard on) and the fact that everyday life must go on in between the kink. Post it in this thread.

Spend at least an hour every day working on a practical skill that you think would be desirable in a partner. Nothing to do with sex. Maybe you learn to cook. Maybe you learn new cleaning techniques, start growing a herb garden, practice a musical instrument or take an online course in bookkeeping. You won't be able to perfect anything in this time, but self improvement is valuable in a sub.

Re-write your profile. Take down all the pictures which aren't of you. Take down any pictures with genitals in them. Put up one or more photos of you, fully clothed. You can blot out your face if you prefer. Take out all of the text and re-write the profile in this format:
-One paragraph about who you are as a person. About 4 sentences. I suggest you include vanilla hobbies and skills, personality traits and why I might want to date you.
-One paragraph about the relationship you want. Specify if it's play only, 24-7, kink in the bedroom and equals out of it etc. What type of woman do you want to meet? NOT about how kinky she is or what she will force you to do. Age range, personality etc.
-TWO SENTENCES - and no more - about your kinky interests. Right at the end.
You are not allowed to use the following words: goddess, cock, ass (or any word that refers to your private parts)
You must run it through spell check.

After you've done all this, I'd like another post here explaining what you've learned this week and whether you think you have benefited.

You may complete and and all of these tasks in lingerie, if that helps.

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