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genuineandkinky -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 9:25:44 PM)
You're right, and I do know this is part of my age. If I thought my dad wouldn't have a problem with it, it'd be much easier for me. It's just in the back of my head. I know you are all right, though.

trent667 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 9:27:34 PM)
Run with it and enjoy life - you can't live up to others expectations and be happy with yourself in the long run. It almost always backfires on you at some point in time. Just make sure you've known him long enough to understand the situation.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 9:34:14 PM)
Genuine connections are hard enough to find, even without putting meaningless parameters around them. Enjoy it while you can.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 9:36:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt Genuine connections are hard enough to find, even without putting meaningless parameters around them. Enjoy it while you can. Isn't that the truth.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 9:37:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky I'd just hate to be 'that couple' that everyone looks at thinking " wow, what a big age difference." Really? Maybe he should dump your ass. You don't exactly sound good enough for him when you talk like that.

TNDommeK -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 9:39:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky You're right, and I do know this is part of my age. If I thought my dad wouldn't have a problem with it, it'd be much easier for me. It's just in the back of my head. I know you are all right, though. That will go away with time. You'll get ballsier as your life progresses. Not saying you shouldn't take into consideration what your parents have said. Because you should, but that's all it should be..consideration. Allowing your dad to make choices for you, could turn out just fine, but you'll never know how life could have been if you don't choose for yourself. Be adult and explain(if he has issue with things) to him you have to make your own choices.

Hmaster88 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/16/2013 11:04:13 PM)
I am amazed at the importance most girls place on age. No, it is not just a number, but it has little to do with the things that are important in Life. How many 21 year old Dom's have 30 years experience at anything? How many have an I.Q. of 180 and are finishing their 2nd doctorate? How many have the security you want and need? How many have their own shelter, money in the Bank, and a car you can drive? How many travel the World playing golf with Presidents, and having beer with others? Not all "old farts" do this, but some do. And, that's the guy you should be looking for, just ask Pam Anderson. Some "old gentlemen" are like me, the son of Dorian Gray. Part good genetics, and the rest working out daily, not smoking or drinking, but eating good health food (except in India). Most friend say I haven't aged in 20 years. I still can wear the same suede sports coat that I wore 30 years ago. But, it hasn't all been "wine and roses". There have been many ups, and one too many downs. However, older gentlemen are not the gamble that young trophy Dom's are. Why repeat history? Why not learn from the 'older gentlemen's" mistakes, successes, and Life experiences. Along with the security of knowing where you live, where you bank, and what car you drive.

DarkSteven -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 1:03:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Okay, well I'm starting to feel a bit better....thank you. I think some of my friends need to grow up, too. Step out of their black box. Send one of your female friends my way. I'm 57 years old. I guarantee all the talk of the age gap in YOUR relationship will fall off their radar.

AllisonWilder -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 1:45:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky You're right, and I do know this is part of my age. If I thought my dad wouldn't have a problem with it, it'd be much easier for me. It's just in the back of my head. I know you are all right, though. Your dad is your dad and he's always going to want something different for you. No guy is ever good enough for his little girl, that sort of thing, ya know? When I was younger and dating an older man (I was 21, he was 34), my dad was livid, but mostly because he was worried that I was being taken advantage of somehow. Once he realizes that you are fine, he'll ease up and support you.

SubvsSlave -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 2:52:11 AM)
I'm 39 and my Master is 52. If I had let the age difference get in the way of our relationship while it was budding, I would have missed out on the most wonderful man. Focus on his inner characteristics.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 2:59:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky I'd just hate to be 'that couple' that everyone looks at thinking " wow, what a big age difference." Really? Maybe he should dump your ass. You don't exactly sound good enough for him when you talk like that. You sound too immature for this relationship. It's not just your friends who need to expand their thinking, you need it too. And yes, I've got that intellectually you realize a 12 year age gap is no big deal, but you need to believe that inside, where it counts. That's called internalizing -- taking what you think and making it what you believe. Great practice for the rest of your life. Start now.

chatterbox24 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 5:23:51 AM)
I married a man 13 years older then me, and wait, also shorter then me! I also thought "what will people think?" then I asked myself "WHo is living this life anyway, to heck to what others think!" We also had an extraordinary amount of like interests and he was a great caregiver which was very important to me. Together 26 yrs so far. That is what you should look at, not what others think, because trust me they will have something to say about anything. Do not let others or society determine your potential happiness, you need to do that.

Zonie63 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 6:10:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? Not that I care much about what is "socially acceptable," I've heard that the common formula used is half your age plus seven. So, if he's 34 - 34/2 = 17 17+7=24 Seems close enough to be in the realm of "socially acceptable."

Lynnxz -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 6:16:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky I've heard anything over 10 is not 'acceptable'. I didn't think 12 years was considered 'normal'. If your friends shun you because two years REALLY has their panties in that much of a bunch, then they weren't very good friends to begin with. I've always dated older men, anywhere from 5 to 20 years older. No one has really ever batted an eye.

lizi -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 6:23:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Zonie63 quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? Not that I care much about what is "socially acceptable," I've heard that the common formula used is half your age plus seven. So, if he's 34 - 34/2 = 17 17+7=24 Seems close enough to be in the realm of "socially acceptable." So at 52 I should be dating a 33 year old if I apply this formula (almost 20 years younger and the age of my oldest son), or a 90 year old if they apply it (38 years older). Not thinking we'd have much in common either way. OP, do what you like. I've always been one to stick within 5 years of my own age either way because I find more common ground with the person, but that's just me. I certainly don't look down on people for following whatever is best for them.

crazyml -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 6:30:56 AM)
Interesting! The formula I'd heard of was half your age plus 8.. but the result is broadly the same. On one hand, I'd say "What the fuck has age got to do with anything....". If a woman is smart, worldly wise, thoughtful and kinky then it doesn't matter to me. But I have found that the likelihood of someone less than half my age plus 8 being the kind of person I'd enjoy hanging with is very low indeed, to the extent that I wouldn't generally consider someone in her 20's at all really. I'm not suggesting for a second that there's not a 20 something lady who could really engage me, but it does feel like a slim chance.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 6:33:21 AM)
aww dammit

evesgrden -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 7:11:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? If anonymous people on a perverted kinky forum give you permission to do something that clearly makes you uncomfortable, then it must be ok. Kiddo, you're getting a graduate degree. Earn that sheepskin and do a little critical analysis, have the courage of your convictions and get on with life. The fact that you have to ask makes me wonder if you're too young for anyone. Use your head, use your heart, what's the risk if you don't get involved with him, what's the risk if you do get involved with him, which risk are you willing to risk. Errors of omission and comission. Which one is ok by you?

MasterCaneman -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 7:36:35 AM)
Your friends need to grow up. My first "scene" relationship had a 24 year age gap. She was 43, I was 19. Yes, I was a boytoy for a cougar before that term was invented. It didn't last, but it ended well and I grew up some from it. What you're describing isn't odd in the least. Go for it.

angelikaJ -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:39:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky You're right, and I do know this is part of my age. If I thought my dad wouldn't have a problem with it, it'd be much easier for me. It's just in the back of my head. I know you are all right, though. So you are okay with being in a kinky relationship (you don't seem to be too worried about what your dad will think...?) but 2 years outside your idea of "the norm" puts you in a tizzy? Here's the thing: if 12 years is too much of an age gap for you, then it doesn't matter what your dad thinks or what your friends' opinions are. It is either not an issue for you, or it is. But don't blame your uncertainties on other people. It is okay to feel uncertain. But better still to own it.

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