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Esinn -> RE: Age Gap? (10/21/2013 3:05:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dawnspirit quote: ORIGINAL: zerogirl I consider anything under 15 years to be within the "radar". I'm with zerogirl on this; in fact I think 10 to 12 years is the perfect age gap. Don't forget that the older you get, the less the relative difference between your ages. Earlier this year, I was approached by an 18 year old sub who was very interested in a relationship - now, given that I'm 67, that IS a bit of an age gap. You are too old to be thinking about sex aren't you, brother?

garyFLR -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 6:05:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Okay, well I'm starting to feel a bit better....thank you. I think some of my friends need to grow up, too. Step out of their black box. Send one of your female friends my way. I'm 57 years old. I guarantee all the talk of the age gap in YOUR relationship will fall off their radar. DarkSteven, you're kidding, I could have sworn you were in your mid 30s! If the relationship works & you are both fulfilled, then age or any other so called social barrier counts for nothing.

tammystarm -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 7:57:31 AM)
Try eighteen years difference. They might think "daughter" until they see the collar worn in public and even to dinner. HIgh heels, short skirt, heels, collar. It's all good.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 10:31:55 AM)
Just got back from a vacation in Savannah with my 49 yo slave/wife and my 72 yo ex. We were affectionate with each other, obviously "together" and several waitstaff and salespeople thought nothing of it. In fact, the only thing that surprised anyone was that my current wife got on so well with my ex wife.

Esinn -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 7:45:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist Just got back from a vacation in Savannah with my 49 yo slave/wife and my 72 yo ex. We were affectionate with each other, obviously "together" and several waitstaff and salespeople thought nothing of it. In fact, the only thing that surprised anyone was that my current wife got on so well with my ex wife. Ok grandpa

tammystarm -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 10:23:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? ..

NoBimbosAllowed -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 10:52:17 PM)
my favourite ero-moment was me=24, her=36 and if she'd have been 46, or 56, it wouldn't have mattered a JOT.

Extravagasm -> RE: Age Gap? (10/26/2013 11:20:19 PM)
As Miley Cyrus suggests, its my mouth I can sing what I want to. Society has no business stressing over unlikely pairings, since the percentage is small enough to be inconsequential. But society loves to do so anyway. Felt it for over 40 years ;) Special care is needed for theaters, where people make the false assumption you're familial, in the ticket line. They begin squirming when the lights go off LOL

kiwisub12 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/27/2013 8:42:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. This statement doesn't make sense. Either you think its ok, or you don't. You can't have it both ways. And if you mean that you think society doesn't accept it but you do, then why do you care? Are you really willing to allow "society" to dictate how you run your life? On a really basic level that could mean you never cut your hair short, don't wear skirts shorter than the knee and don't show boobage. You also would be a virgin until you marry. Those are all societal norms where I grew up - and since I was a relatively well rounded individual, I chose which norms I would adhere to ... and which I would completely disregard. The thing about societal norms is that they are always changing. So , basically, you need to put on your big girl panties and decide to do what you want to do. There really isn't any other way to be authentic to yourself - and the "friends" that are giving you grief? Well, decide if these are friends you need, and if they are, you need a nice way to tell them to back off.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Age Gap? (10/28/2013 9:01:47 AM)
"grandpa" . . . I long for the day when I am finally old enough that fucking a young girl is hot and kinky just because the age difference is taboo. The problem is that age perception has a lot to do with your demeanor. If you dress fashionably, have spunk, a good youthful attitude, you are sexy, confident and have swagger . . . well, people don't perceive you as being old because you don't look or act old. I fear it will be a long time until I am ever that old. To the OP & all, About 4 & 1/2 years years ago I was 53 and I was dating an 18 yo. I never got odd looks or had people make a comment. When we went out, a lot of times I was dressed like a native beach bum in my jeans and boots. We had a carefree attitude and we were engrossed with each other. We were having fun and she was confident, carefree, romantic and happy. We would order wine with lunch and make the most out of our adventures no matter what we did. The only questions we got were sometimes people asked what we were celebrating because we were so happy or having so much fun. Seriously, if you are a curmudgeon, an old man in golf pants, clip-on sunglasses sporting an old man attitude and you are with a nervous young girl that does not display confidence and romance towards you, it might strike people as odd. But if you and your partner are emitting great vibes and appear to be having good romantic time, no mater what the age difference, people will not be struck wrong by it. Whether your partner is 18, 49 or 72, if you emit that confidence, carefree attitude, happiness, swagger and romance, people will accept you as a couple. Unfortunately, the OP may have self doubt which is why they had to ask in the first place. The first step to a carefree attitude is not to care what other people think about you or if they think your age difference is socially acceptable. quote: ORIGINAL: Esinn quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist Just got back from a vacation in Savannah with my 49 yo slave/wife and my 72 yo ex. We were affectionate with each other, obviously "together" and several waitstaff and salespeople thought nothing of it. In fact, the only thing that surprised anyone was that my current wife got on so well with my ex wife. Ok grandpa

Blonderfluff -> RE: Age Gap? (10/28/2013 9:50:30 AM)
I know that at 22, it is difficult to be the one who is "different ". This will matter to you less and less as you get older, and more comfortable in your own skin. Look to your BF for some help with this. It should, ideally, only matter to you and Him. Your 20's are about exploring. 30's about growing. 40's about self acceptance. I'll let you know what the 50's bring when I get there!!

Extravagasm -> RE: Age Gap? (10/29/2013 6:33:41 PM)
quote: Bonderfluff post 91: Your 20's are about exploring. 30's about growing. 40's about self acceptance. I'll let you know what the 50's bring when I get there Ain't it the trute. You've answered the question in a wonderful new direction.

garyFLR -> RE: Age Gap? (11/2/2013 2:46:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Extravagasm quote: Bonderfluff post 91: Your 20's are about exploring. 30's about growing. 40's about self acceptance. I'll let you know what the 50's bring when I get there From first hand experience, the 50s don't bring a lot, I can tell you [:(].

mavrik310 -> RE: Age Gap? (11/2/2013 5:43:21 PM)
I am 52 and my last sub was 30 and it was an awesome combo! I have dated subs in there 20's as well... it is a matter of chemistry, honesty, communications, and mutual interests.

WorshipTheDragon -> RE: Age Gap? (11/4/2013 9:54:29 PM)
As long as there is no abuse, its consensual, healthy, happy and both parties are getting their needs met no harm done. And as long as s/he isn't underage.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Age Gap? (11/4/2013 11:31:24 PM)
There are a 20, 17, and 9 year age gap between myself and three of my subs. Age is a number that sometimes doesn't matter.

spankmerose -> RE: Age Gap? (11/9/2013 9:02:12 AM)
hi my hubby is 14 years younger than me im 49 hes 35 we have been together 1o years

Arturas -> RE: Age Gap? (11/9/2013 2:04:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? It is socially acceptable. What you are concerned about is your acceptance, twenty two is early for a woman to accept anything over 5-7 years. As you mature to your early thirties this will seem insignificant. Well wishes. P.S. there is a seventeen year difference between star and myself. I think people stare at her on my arm not because of our age difference but because of the short skirt, four to six inch heels and especially when she wears a collar to dinner.

MasterRazz -> RE: Age Gap? (11/12/2013 10:18:45 AM)
At the risk of being shot for blatant self promotion I offer this Ode to a 15 year age gap. Bottom line: people are going to stare, question and offer an opinion. I've been at both ends of the spectrum - the toy boy and the "daddy" - and it never ceases to amuse me the reactions that I and my partners have had. The strength of the relationship comes from ignoring all that hassle the world thinks and just getting on with being into each other.

CrimsonSelene -> RE: Age Gap? (11/12/2013 2:35:14 PM)
If you're that worried about what other people are going to think about your partner, you're wasting their time and yours. Speaking as someone in a loving, long term, in person D/s relationship with someone 30 years my senior, I can tell you that with a significant age gap, you'll get funny looks and rude comments sometimes. You're friends and family may not approve or understand right off the bat. But if they love you and truly have your happiness in mind, they'll come around.

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