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kiwisub12 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 3:26:47 PM)
The man who introduced me to the lifestyle was 11 years older than me, and apart from the fact that I thought he looked like an old coot when I met him for the first time, his age never bothered me. He was ............... the first real love of my life and his age had nothing to do with that. He was taken from me way too soon, and that too had nothing to do with his age. However, after he died and I was looking again, I refused to look at men that old, because I didn't want to have to watch someone I loved died again. And being that much older than me made it more probable.

ShaharThorne -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 6:49:20 PM)
Lets see...Bo is 15 years older than me and we have a child (now 18) together. We had no problem with the age gap...some of his friends were envious that he had a woman (I am taller than him and heavier in the chest). I had me a chef and I did the housework and laundry....he did the cooking and dishes. Age ain't nothing...

Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 7:07:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky I've heard anything over 10 is not 'acceptable'. I didn't think 12 years was considered 'normal'. Well if you're twenty and he's 8 then yeah it is not acceptable and I would say enjoy jail but 34 and 22 are fine.

genuineandkinky -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 7:57:35 PM)
Sorry, I checked that account really fast. One of my houses is in Las Vegas, so I go there a lot. It's important to me that I find a Jewish man (the guy I'm with right now is). I thought creating an account with that title might give me better luck in finding someone Jewish--just trying to use my resources. I do not mean to be dishonest.

genuineandkinky -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:01:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP At 20, it's a huge difference. If you were 45 and he was 57 though, no one would even blink an eye. If you are involved with your family and this will be a problem, then it won't work for you. However, you aren't obligated to bring him home for Thanksgiving. If you're just dating, then they don't need to meet him. If you're talking about marriage, that's a different story. But you may want to have a discussion with your father telling him that he should have nothing to do with whom you're having sex with and he needs to accept that. That either he trusts you to not catch a disease and become pregnant or he doesn't, those are his only options. I know that is my reservation is my current age right now. In my early twenties it is 'not okay' to date someone so much older. Yet, even if I was 25 I feel it'd be more acceptable. Just stupid really. Might as well be happy and do what makes me happy right now than wait a few years just for it to be more 'acceptable' in others' eyes.

MerlynEmrys -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:06:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? Remember the dating golden rule. Younger than 1/2 your age + 7 is creepy. Look it up on the internet - it is a golden rule

genuineandkinky -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:07:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MerlynEmrys quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? Remember the dating golden rule. Younger than 1/2 your age + 7 is creepy. Look it up on the internet - it is a golden rule Sometimes rules are ignorant. I do not follow blindly.

MerlynEmrys -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:09:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky quote: ORIGINAL: MerlynEmrys quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? Remember the dating golden rule. Younger than 1/2 your age + 7 is creepy. Look it up on the internet - it is a golden rule Sometimes rules are ignorant. I do not follow blindly. At your ages it is perfectly acceptable. Plus the rule is really meant as a joke anyway.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:10:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MerlynEmrys Look it up on the internet - it is a golden rule Everything on the internet is true.

MerlynEmrys -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 8:12:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: MerlynEmrys Look it up on the internet - it is a golden rule Everything on the internet is true. I read that somewhere on the internet. See :P

heartcream -> RE: Age Gap? (10/17/2013 9:28:08 PM)
If you click then the age thing might fade. If you dont click then the differences will be more of an obstacle. Some people say age is just a number but I dont say that. I dont mean to but I tend to be dating guys younger than myself. The last guy I dated 8 years younger. It bugged me. I didnt like it. It is personal, your experience, how you feel, continue to feel. It will work out or it wont. I know, I am a freakin genius with my observations.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Age Gap? (10/18/2013 4:11:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky He's 34, I'm 22. My friends might think it is weird. My father might have something to say about it. I'd think I'd get some looks. I do not care, but also, I hate that it's not 'accepted' by society. Is your father 34? If not...chill.

RemoteUser -> RE: Age Gap? (10/19/2013 8:37:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? Society is a collective illusion of popular belief, not correct belief. I don't concern myself with the 13-year gap between my girl and I. We're good for each other, and the age plays into it to some degree, considering our dynamic, but doesn't define it.

HoustonDC07 -> RE: Age Gap? (10/19/2013 9:15:47 PM)
If this older man treats you with respect, and is caring and nurturing towards you, then that's really the foundation everything else comes from. My gf is 23 years younger (47/24). Was 45/22 when we first started dating. Her mom is happy for her, and sees that she's happier now, more at peace and content, than she has ever been. Her (biological) Dad's really not in her life (I know, I know... Daddy issues). My friends have all been accepting and supportive; besides them, we live in a city of 3+ million people. I don't pay the slightest attention to whether anyone even notices us when we are out & about together. I'm told I look in my 30s; maybe that's relevant, I don't know. Do what makes you happy.

mnottertail -> RE: Age Gap? (10/19/2013 9:17:54 PM)
Is this where I am supposed to say...........Houston, we have a problem.............?

Baroana -> RE: Age Gap? (10/19/2013 10:56:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky Is a 12 year age difference socially acceptable?.. I feel it's not socially acceptable, even though in my mind it is. I know, people say I shouldn't care. However, what are your thoughts? If anonymous people on a perverted kinky forum give you permission to do something that clearly makes you uncomfortable, then it must be ok. Kiddo, you're getting a graduate degree. Earn that sheepskin and do a little critical analysis, have the courage of your convictions and get on with life. The fact that you have to ask makes me wonder if you're too young for anyone. Use your head, use your heart, what's the risk if you don't get involved with him, what's the risk if you do get involved with him, which risk are you willing to risk. Errors of omission and comission. Which one is ok by you? That's exactly what I was thinking, but you said it far better. Someone that can't think or make decisions for herself is not a submissive, just helpless.

dawnspirit -> RE: Age Gap? (10/20/2013 6:29:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zerogirl I consider anything under 15 years to be within the "radar". I'm with zerogirl on this; in fact I think 10 to 12 years is the perfect age gap. Don't forget that the older you get, the less the relative difference between your ages. Earlier this year, I was approached by an 18 year old sub who was very interested in a relationship - now, given that I'm 67, that IS a bit of an age gap.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Age Gap? (10/20/2013 8:09:29 AM)
If it's a non-sexual D/s relationship, as many of U/us have going, age difference isn't as much of a problem, nor is sexual orientation. I'm far more concerned with the level of MATURITY of the younger person. Even though the legal age of adulthood is attained, it doesn't mean that person behaves or even COMPREHENDS/REACTS to things as an adult. Maturity comes with experience (and I suspect raging hormones have a lot to do with it as well). You might be interacting with a chronologically 22 year old, but in actuality the person interacting with you is still a "teen". Vast age differences used to really bother Me, but now after seeing some relationships with seemingly impossible age-odds prove successful over time, I'm not as concerned with it.

ante -> RE: Age Gap? (10/20/2013 1:02:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger Do you have your ages tattooed on your foreheads? You cold be 29 and 26 for all random people looking at you can tell. That was exactly what I was thinking. Unless you introduce him as "this is Tim, my boyfriend who's 12 years older than me" how will people know unless you draw attention to it? I have had a boyfriend much older than me, which was very obvious, and sure, made people look, but I was happy with him and couldn't care less what others thought about it. Unless you yourself have an issue with it for some reason, I don't see why you would make it out to be a problem.

Esinn -> RE: Age Gap? (10/21/2013 3:04:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: genuineandkinky He's 34, I'm 22. My friends might think it is weird. My father might have something to say about it. I'd think I'd get some looks. I do not care, but also, I hate that it's not 'accepted' by society. What is your fathers number? I will call him up, talk to him for you and settle it right up. I am about 34ish. I can't imagine dating a gal so old - 22. 19 is more like it. Sorry - never mind. I do not know what I am talking about.

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