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Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 9:24:06 AM   
David92506


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Status: offline 		There are so many Dommes on CM that require a payment (paypal) before meeting them. I've never done this because on the top of the page is a WARNING not to give money to anyone for any reason. I was wondering if anyone has given them money before meeting, such as transferring money into their paypal account? If so, did she show up for the meeting?
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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 9:35:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: David92506
There are so many Dommes on CM that require a payment (paypal) before meeting them. I've never done this because on the top of the page is a WARNING not to give money to anyone for any reason. I was wondering if anyone has given them money before meeting, such as transferring money into their paypal account? If so, did she show up for the meeting?

Let's assume that most fin-dommes will, in fact, show up for a meeting if you pay them. But is that what you're looking for? Were you hoping for a dominant girlfriend for a professional escort?


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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 9:35:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't give money. Rather, I would go to www.fetlife.com and search your city and the closest large cities. You will likely find many events such as munches where you can go meet real people who approach this as a lifestyle rather than a profession.

Go meet some real folks. Be interesting, be courteous, ask questions, make friends. Repeat

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 9:42:44 AM   
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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 9:43:03 AM   
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I wouldn't give money. Rather, I would go to www.fetlife.com and search your city and the closest large cities. You will likely find many events such as munches where you can go meet real people who approach this as a lifestyle rather than a profession.

Go meet some real folks. Be interesting, be courteous, ask questions, make friends. Repeat


kerching! Spot on.

To the OP;

While there continues to be a passionate debate over whether Pro Dommes or Fin Dommes are "acceptable", there's no doubt that there are LOTS and LOTS of scammers out there.

I suspect your instincts are right on this one...

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 10:29:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		The others have answered the way I would have so I won't add that again here.

However, you need to change your profile. In it you say you are willing to pay weekly. The scammers are just loving that statement and figure you for an easy pay piggy.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 10:31:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: David92506

There are so many Dommes on CM that require a payment (paypal) before meeting them. I've never done this because on the top of the page is a WARNING not to give money to anyone for any reason. I was wondering if anyone has given them money before meeting, such as transferring money into their paypal account? If so, did she show up for the meeting?


I would say, unless they are clear and honest about being a pro and not meeting for personal reasons, to not do this. In a social situation and the two of you wish to include money in your interactions wait until you're face to face. Same for any other gift.

Just as you worry, they may not show... or you two don't like each other face to face... or they're really a male... or they used a fake picture... or all kinds of things people do online to folks.

< Message edited by RumpusParable -- 11/5/2013 10:32:51 AM >

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 12:14:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a Fin Domme I do require a tribute prior to meeting me. It shows the sub is real. And in case they don't show. However I'm very vocal about being a fin domme and what I expect from a potentially submissive . So if you're dealing with a fin or pro it's pretty normal but if you just meeting for a nice lunch to get to know each other then don't

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 2:51:30 PM   
bearcatw125


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Status: offline 		Yeah, my thing is that I don't pay tribute to get a meet and greet with any sort of Domme. However, I'm will to pick up her part of the tab since I asked her out.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 4:44:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Then you may wanna not talk with fin dommes, bc nine times out of ten, they won't meet you.

But kudos for knowing you should pick up the tab.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 4:46:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

As a Fin Domme I do require a tribute prior to meeting me. It shows the sub is real. And in case they don't show.


It's also quite nice to have more money, eh, Kali? Myself, I quite like it when people give me money, anyway. Money is good.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 5:47:44 PM   
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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/5/2013 5:47:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: David92506

There are so many Dommes on CM that require a payment (paypal) before meeting them. I've never done this because on the top of the page is a WARNING not to give money to anyone for any reason. I was wondering if anyone has given them money before meeting, such as transferring money into their paypal account? If so, did she show up for the meeting?


I always go with whatever the top of the page says.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/8/2013 9:08:31 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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I've never done this because on the top of the page is a WARNING not to give money to anyone for any reason. I was wondering if anyone has given them money before meeting, such as transferring money into their paypal account?


Do you think that warning was put there on a whim?

If I were forced to bet, I'd bet that at least 35% of the profiles for 24 year old "findommes" demanding that submissives "prove they're real" by sending them money before any other contact is made were created and are managed by people who are not much younger, not much thinner and not much less male than I am.

In fact, of all the 3,548,692 "findomme" profiles on CM, the only one that I would bet is an honest presentation of herself is that of The Person Above The Person Above Me.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/10/2013 2:43:17 PM   
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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/10/2013 3:23:15 PM   
igor2003


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ORIGINAL: David92506

There are so many Dommes on CM that require a payment (paypal) before meeting them. I've never done this because on the top of the page is a WARNING not to give money to anyone for any reason. I was wondering if anyone has given them money before meeting, such as transferring money into their paypal account? If so, did she show up for the meeting?


If you are worried that they may not show up, then use the same tactics that they use...ask them for a tribute to "prove" they are real. After all, what's good for the goose, etc. etc. Right? But you can, in all likelihood, expect to receive no money, which is the exact same amount I would recommend that you send.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/10/2013 7:14:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, you need to ask yourself if you are looking for a relationship with a findomme, or a prodomme to give you the findomme experience... The latter is running a business, so if you want their professional time, it's normal and reasonable to pay a deposit or booking fee, just like if you want to book an appointment with a wedding photographer or something, right? But if you are looking for a relationship with a findomme, then what you need to do is prove you will turn up to meet them because there is nothing more annoying than going to meet someone who never intended to turn up! And I think if you don't trust them not to just take your money and disappear forever, then she wasn't the right one for you?

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/12/2013 3:42:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't imagine the findomme experience being healthy. Seems like the wrong way to go about it, to me, anyway.

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/12/2013 3:43:39 PM   
Lisfor


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Status: offline 		To each their own... There's a lot of people that say the same about everything else we do too lol

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RE: Dommes That Require Payment Before Meeting - 11/12/2013 6:14:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you're willing to fork out the money, do so. If you don't want to then don't. We're all supposed to be adults, whatever floats your boat. Now ain't that easy?

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