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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 12/21/2013 6:27:43 AM

Kana

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Get their ID number and look it up on the Dom registry.

Oh man.Now you've gone and done it. You are so gonna be excommunicated. Why spill the beans about the Registry?

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 12/21/2013 12:44:51 PM

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I warned you guys not to pull my membership.

Hey-we gave you multiple chances-The official title is "One Twue Dom Union"and you were made highly aware of that fact...but you, you just hadda be different, keep calling it "Aleph Twue Dom Union..."

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 12/21/2013 10:27:03 PM

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A quick way to to determine if a dom is for you is to count his former slaves limbs. If it isn't N=4S where N is the number of major limbs and S is the number of slaves you should be concerned.

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 12/21/2013 11:18:27 PM

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Define 'major limb'

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 12/22/2013 3:20:16 PM

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check their credit score

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 1/20/2014 7:22:41 PM

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Time is your best friend always..there is no hurry..get to know them..here is a great blog I love to read ..http://dennisnajee.blogspot.com..i hope you like the blog as much a I do

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 1/20/2014 10:37:39 PM

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secret decoder ring, and a double horseshoe engraved under his foot.

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 1/20/2014 11:37:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: effierose

As a females just trying to get seriously involved in this lifestyle what can I do to be careful and safe? I am unsure of how to tell someine who is real or just well read.

The fact that I'm yanking your hair to the point you think your neck will break while working your ass over good with a cane could indicate that I'm a very bad D, if your not into that sorta thang. However, it may make me the stellar Domstar of your dreams if that's your thang ;)

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Ah...you had me at the yanking of hair. Good Dom!

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RE: How can you tell a good Dom from a bad one? - 1/21/2014 12:41:34 AM

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Hi,

A subby once proposed to me, saying that I was one of the best Doms she had even known. I was humbled, believe me, I really was.
So the OP here made me think....why did she think I was any different from any other Dom off the shelf.

So here's my 2cents worth - and it is only my thoughts.

I treated her from day one of meeting (met via Fetlife) like a person. A human, with interests, emotions and all that jazz.
I took time to learn what she liked, both in vanilla life and in D/s. We genuinely connected on many things outside of D/s.

I treated her as an equal...now this is the bit that many Acme Instant Doms just don't understand. A submissive woman is NOT a slave, not a slut, not a captive. She is a person and demands exactly the same respect and treatment as any other person on the planet.
The difference between a submissive woman and one that is not; is that the sub has chosen to allow you, the Dom to take some control away from her for a set period of time. She has trusted you with her mind and soul, her body and her emotions.

If your Dom's opening conversation line is all about how he's going to stick this up there and tie that around the other bit...all can seem good, but will he be understanding when you feel like crap and just want to talk.
It should never be all about the Dom, a Dom should be able to take a sub to her subby space and be there when she comes back to earth...with his trousers on!!

In my opinion what makes a bad Dom....getting down to discussing sex from day one!
Would you seriously trust a man with your life when the only bit you know about him is the size of his pork sword? A sub in your control is one of THE most precious things to have, I'm not talking just love and romance but even a pro Dom in a session with a sub, has something special.
He has been given her soul to handle with care, to explore and to treasure, even if just for an hour.

This, in abundance.

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