RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex?

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What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex?

Once tied up, we almost always have sex

43% (43)

Once tied up, we sometimes have sex

26% (26)

Once tied up, we rarely have sex

11% (11)

Bondage is foreplay - we have sex after

11% (11)

Bondage destroys the mood

3% (3)

Sex is never involved with bondage

4% (4)

Total Votes : 98

(last vote on : 1/11/2014 8:34:57 AM)
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MasterCaneman -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/18/2013 1:39:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman Married and otherwise faithful to her husband, she had this 'need' to experience being held prisoner for a spell. Just that, no sex or any physical abuse, just being tied up, chained, or otherwise restrained, fully clothed, no exceptions. I don't find that weird at all. I have the same need for physical restrictions you describe her having, and could very easily find fulfillment for that need by just being restrained, fully clothed, without any other form of play. In fact, doing just that is my absolute favorite way of playing period. Even though it doesn't happen that often because the Top usually wants to play once they've got a restrained subject at hand. However, my need for being restrained supersedes all other intimate needs I have of a partner, including sex. Perhaps "weird" was the wrong word to use. I was younger then, and still finding my center of gravity. At first, it was a bit frustrating for me, because I'd become used to having relations with my captives, but as I said before, I learned early on to think with my big brain, and used the experience for what it was.

Kana -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/18/2013 1:42:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petitespot Bondage was always foreplay. There was always sex involved and always pain. If I saw the ropes come out I knew I was going to get hit hard and fucked even harder. With a few exceptions as outlined above, this pretty much encapsulates how it works with me

Dyfrynt -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 8:23:08 AM)
Sex. Absolutely sex. Not that there are not other concepts to think about either along with or without sex. Bondage is excellent for mind fucks, especially if your submissive has a fertile imagination. It can be as simple or as complex as your devilish mind can devise. The simple. This is mind fuck 101, and still effective. Once I blindfolded and bound my naked slave to a chair. Told her I would be 'right back', opened and closed the door without leaving and sat down to watch. She remained patient for a good long time, but eventually she began to start testing her bonds. She was obviously listening carefully and I can only imagine what she might be hearing. (This was done outside on an enclosed screen porch). Eventually she was starting to become nervous and her struggles increased. She knows I would never leave her unattended bound thus; what the hell was going on? After I had her in a wonderful lather, I leaned very close and whispered softly in her ear "Do you really think you are alone?" She jumped so high she practically lifted the chair right off the ground! Then she started laughing. Point made in spectacular fashion!

sunshinemiss -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 10:59:52 AM)
I notice there is no 'bondage destroys the mood' option...

VideoAdminChi -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 5:04:25 PM)
Added!

LadyPact -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 6:05:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan Wait...I thought the point of bondage was so the sub can't get away while I do painful things to them. What does sex have to do with that? Doin' it rong. Again. Crap. [sm=doh.gif] Ding! We have a winner! Consider a third in agreement.

directiveerror -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 6:36:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss I notice there is no 'bondage destroys the mood' option... yep that one gets my vote

ResidentSadist -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 6:42:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan Wait...I thought the point of bondage was so the sub can't get away while I do painful things to them. What does sex have to do with that? Doin' it rong. Again. Crap. [sm=doh.gif] Ding! We have a winner! Consider a third in agreement. I agree too . . . but quite often, the painful thing I like to do to them is sex.

Epicurus341BC -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 7:13:58 PM)
For the release of surrender it provides. For the sake of a good tease. Even, simply, for the dominant to express their power over the sub. There are many reasons why bondage without sex can be fun and useful, which is why I'm such a fan. Sex is rarely a bad thing, though.

mummyman321 -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/19/2013 8:19:59 PM)
Bondage without sex oh my. The joys of tease & denial, sensory deprivation, mind fucks.......what's a few minutes of sex compared to the hours and hours the bondage fun can bring? Edit to add: Nothing like time to blur the reality between pleasure and pain. After 8, 10, 12, 18 hours of bondage, are those screams of pleasure or pain? :)

sunshinemiss -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 5:22:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi Added! Hey, thanks!

Dyfrynt -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 10:42:22 AM)
Bondage destroys the mood? That is certainly an interesting perspective. Not one I can really wrap my mind around. If you are willing I would be very curious for an explanation of this mindset.

shivermetimbers -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 12:47:17 PM)
It really depends on where they or I am physically in space. It's pretty hard to have sex with someone bound straight up to slats in a wall and it would require a footstool or something to get at the correct heighth, the access isn't quite there. But it's a great position to torture or be tortured!

sunshinemiss -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 1:17:59 PM)
Lots of people don't like bondage. If,you hate it, and someone ties you up, you aren't gonna really feel frisky, are you? And from a formatting pov, if you are going to have a poll about gradations of something, the lack of that is also usually one of the options.

meomymaid -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 1:33:36 PM)
not sure why people are on a BDSM site, if they think this is about sex in the first place. Guess the subject is being high jacked by swingers and sex addicts that shouldn't be here in the first place.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 2:06:31 PM)
So because people like to have sex with their kink they're sex addicts? You do realize that the very definition of "fetish" is an abnormal sexual focus on something that is not by itself sexual, right? So how on earth would you assume that BDSMers shouldn't be on a BDSM site if and when they mix their kink with sex?

meomymaid -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 2:11:15 PM)
matter of priorities

Blonderfluff -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 2:11:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meomymaid not sure why people are on a BDSM site, if they think this is about sex in the first place. Guess the subject is being high jacked by swingers and sex addicts that shouldn't be here in the first place. ^^^^^ the question was about SEX or no SEX combined with bondage. How is that high jacking the thread?

meomymaid -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 2:13:34 PM)
Bondage, discipline, Sado, Maso misses a letter to come to sex "X"

sunshinemiss -> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? (11/20/2013 2:19:18 PM)
Meomymaid, You have a list of likes on your profile. Amongst them, you listed Orgasm Control as something you live for. I am pretty certain that is related to both sex and BDSM. good luck, sunshine

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