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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
there is so very much wrong with that that I can't even start to explain why it's so wrong.

top tip to really ill people; don't be so self centred, and so damn selfish unless you know that is how your family want it. you get to die and that is that, but you leave behind a load of people forever asking themselves questions. don't project on to them what you think is best for them to deal with. try talking to them first, because that bullshit above is the fucking living pits to go through.
needles

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Don't you guys get like damn irritated being asked by everybody everyday, "How are you doing?"

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

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Don't you guys get like damn irritated being asked by everybody everyday, "How are you doing?"

Certainly not. I'm far more comfortable than that. I take it as the good wishes it's intended to be, and I'm grateful for a world of caring people.

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How can a true family do its job if there are walls put up between each person?

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ORIGINAL: TheWillToThrive

I don't expect very many to believe as I do but I hold these beliefs strongly.

Truth is always right. Lies are always wrong. Privacy is something that should only apply between strangers, not family. How can a true family do its job if there are walls put up between each person? Are you that fearful that your true self is so different it will be found disgraceful by your family? If you are not true to your family you are certainly not true to yourself. Maybe its time to stop placing such value on privacy and start placing it in being yourselves, whoever that unique and amazing creature is. When did we start hating ourselves so much we stopped being ourselves? I find the thought of people wearing their politically correct hat and their privacy suit truly repugnant. Enough is enough just be whoever you are and don't throw a fit when other people are different.

Transparency is only a fancy word for truth. Truth is binary it is or it isn't. If your not 100% transparent your not truthful. Your truth may hurt your partner but lies hurt you both. Dealing with the truth is always better than living a lie. If the truth kills a relationship then it served a noble purpose, maintaining the integrity of all of the involved parties.

I will never understand how people claim that lies make anything easier. Lies are complicated and take on a life of their own. The owner of the lie must continue the masquerade and this requires effort. The one who is lied to must continue living in ignorance which might be blissful but its FAKE. I'll take the red pill and live in the real world thank you very much. I might or might not be able to deal with a truth but I certainly will not deal with a lie.

The excuse of we are only human is a poor one. Humans are hard wired to believe everything they hear until proven otherwise. We are hard wired to perceive the world as truth. Weakness of an individual to except the burden of themselves or their failures are why lies exist.