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Apocalypso -> RE: Only Positive?! (12/15/2013 12:41:00 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AmandaPeace
And what I'm saying is that it's irresponsible to create a prominent space for people to post *only* positive messages without creating a similarly prominent space for other experiences.
I can tell you exactly what would happen if you created that subforum. Genuinely important negative experiences like your friends would be entirely drowned out by things like:
* Posters who think that someone not being interested in them makes them a "fake".
* Posters who are outraged that hotgirl4u69 turned out to be a 57 year old carpet fitter called Dave.
* Posters using it to carry out vendettas against their exes and/or their exes new partners.
It would also need near 24/7 moderation to stop names being used. I'm not necessarily against the idea in principle. It simply strikes me as unworkable in practice.
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Simply put this encourages more positive reports than negative ones and makes the positive ones much, much easier to find than the negative ones.
Apart from, as people have pointed out, Off Topic is way more high traffic then Positive Experiences. Honestly, I can't remember last time I bothered reading the latter.
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Incidentally, Apocalypso "naming names" is not against libel laws. Truth is always a defense against "libel." Though I do appreciate your goth quote.
Sure, it's an absolute defense at that.
But no website has the investigatory capability to check if the allegation is true or not. That's what would lead the site to risking being hit with a libel suit. The issue is the possibility of false allegations, not true ones.
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And it's really disturbing that you're so unfazed by the idea of your community members raping other community members. I would think that would raise some kind of note of concern, but it appears not.
It's not that people are unfazed. It's that your proposed solution wouldn't, at least in my view, do anything at all to mitigate that risk. For that, you need the far less 'glamorous' solutions people have proposed like encouraging people to meet in public etc. And, sadly, even that can only minimise risk. It can't be eliminated entirely, much as I'd like it to. And that's not unique to BDSM or even meeting people online. It's equally the case if you meet someone in a nightclub.
I can genuinely understand where you're coming from. In the situation you find yourself in with your friend's terrible experiences, it's human nature to look round for some kind of solution. Apart from anything else, it feels better to at least to be trying to do something rather then feeling impotent and unable to help.
Unfortunately, it doesn't mean that any solution that you can think of is necessarily going to be a good one. And, as people have been trying to tell you, the one you seem to have latched onto just isn't one that will help stop this kind of awful experiences happening to anyone else. It's at best ineffectual and at worst actively counterproductive. I say the latter because the proposed negative experiences subforum would be equally available for a rapist to use...
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