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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 8:50:13 PM   
DsCouple23


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Honestly, i've been off and on CM 3x in past 3 years, haven't seen too many thing's changed... what is the most significant change anyone has seen in past 5 years?

J

Probably the addition of video chat.


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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 10:37:18 PM   
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In my profile I've clicked the 'friends only' button. That's what I'm looking for. Within my profile I've made it clear EXACTLY what kind of friends I'm looking for.

Why should I have to click yet another button to say I'm not seeking a partner or relationship of any other kind? I've already told you that using the 'friends only' button!

Of course that doesn't stop the terminally dim-witted from messaging me on the off-chance I might be free for a bunk-up, but quite frankly those people deserve what they get

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 10:42:42 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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I can see some value in this, since whether or not you are looking doesn't single out any particular group and it would probably make a significant change in your searches.

I think it requires a little more thought though. 'Owned' would only work for subs/slaves not dominants, or tops/bottoms, or those who just don't like that terminology. 'In a relationship' is a bit too simplistic considering all the poly/open/actually cheating users out there. You could go for a simple 'not looking' but again, some people ARE looking, but just for friends rather than partners.

Also, even if it were implemented today, a large number of users never seen to look at their own profile (myself included) so realistically a lot of existing users would never tick the button.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 10:57:52 PM   
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Have you tried entering a specific search field under the 'they are seeking' category for only those looking for your designation?


Always, i filter to the max extent possible. For instance right now we are looking for a slave.

about 50% are either fakes, and or "collared/owned/taken etc" ... all i'm saying is, i know you can never filter the fakes, but you can filter being "owned" or "collared", its nothing more than a check mark.


Are you searching based on what they're seeking, or just based on what you're looking for? The site allows to search for, say, "female subs that are searching for male doms". A woman in a monogamous relationship is not going to be searching for male doms, she'll be looking for friends.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 11:02:52 PM   
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Have you tried entering a specific search field under the 'they are seeking' category for only those looking for your designation?


Always, i filter to the max extent possible. For instance right now we are looking for a slave.

about 50% are either fakes, and or "collared/owned/taken etc" ... all i'm saying is, i know you can never filter the fakes, but you can filter being "owned" or "collared", its nothing more than a check mark.


Are you searching based on what they're seeking, or just based on what you're looking for? The site allows to search for, say, "female subs that are searching for male doms". A woman in a monogamous relationship is not going to be searching for male doms, she'll be looking for friends.

I always search as specific as possible, (as i said in a previous post).

When i search "female slaves looking for a poly household or dom/dom couple", i get owned slaves, the usual 50% fakes, and "of course the whole IM OWNED HOW CLEAR CAN I MAKE IT"

lol.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 11:10:43 PM   
MalcolmNathaniel


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Status: offline 		A better answer: A looking/not-looking button.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 11:47:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just don't see what a "collared and owned" button would really do. I was in a relationship for a year before I was collared. I'm sure there are others in similar relationships. These people would continue to appear on your search list.

People look for ways to make their search easier. In the past there has been a suggestion to have a box for findommes so they wouldn't show up in a search. Others want the search criteria to include a way to more easily find kinksters who live near them, especially in the UK and Canada.

There is just no way to please everyone and make everyone happy. Everyone has their own personal agenda and wants their own search to be as precise and easy as possible. Sadly, it can't be done for everyone. This leaves the old fashioned way of looking at each profile to see if it might be a match for you. I do understand that this takes time. When you find that very special person to add to your lives the search will seem well worthwhile.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/19/2013 11:54:15 PM   
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I just don't see what a "collared and owned" button would really do. I was in a relationship for a year before I was collared. I'm sure there are others in similar relationships. These people would continue to appear on your search list.

People look for ways to make their search easier. In the past there has been a suggestion to have a box for findommes so they wouldn't show up in a search. Others want the search criteria to include a way to more easily find kinksters who live near them, especially in the UK and Canada.

There is just no way to please everyone and make everyone happy. Everyone has their own personal agenda and wants their own search to be as precise and easy as possible. Sadly, it can't be done for everyone. This leaves the old fashioned way of looking at each profile to see if it might be a match for you. I do understand that this takes time. When you find that very special person to add to your lives the search will seem well worthwhile.

Yes good point's, i'm going to have to get creative in finding this slave, i'm an extremely picky guy... this will take at least a year, most likely, i can feel it. CM wont be the only place we will be searching.


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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 4:14:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can see the value in a looking/not-looking/looking for more/looking for friends only along with top and bottom. The hide profile button is your best friend, at least you don't have to read the same one twice.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 5:25:03 AM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		I mean...the hide button works- but in sixth months that person my not be in a relationship any longer and you may still be looking and now you've hidden them away.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 5:26:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DsCouple23


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ORIGINAL: graceadieu


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ORIGINAL: DsCouple23


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Have you tried entering a specific search field under the 'they are seeking' category for only those looking for your designation?


Always, i filter to the max extent possible. For instance right now we are looking for a slave.

about 50% are either fakes, and or "collared/owned/taken etc" ... all i'm saying is, i know you can never filter the fakes, but you can filter being "owned" or "collared", its nothing more than a check mark.


Are you searching based on what they're seeking, or just based on what you're looking for? The site allows to search for, say, "female subs that are searching for male doms". A woman in a monogamous relationship is not going to be searching for male doms, she'll be looking for friends.

I always search as specific as possible, (as i said in a previous post).

When i search "female slaves looking for a poly household or dom/dom couple", i get owned slaves, the usual 50% fakes, and "of course the whole IM OWNED HOW CLEAR CAN I MAKE IT"

lol.




Yes, because even though owned they are looking to add to their current household. Of course they would show up in your search.

Support is primarily a volunteer staff here. Keep that in mind. Also, being a free site, they want to keep their costs down, which means not likely willing to pay for extra coding.

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 5:28:33 AM   
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I just don't see what a "collared and owned" button would really do. I was in a relationship for a year before I was collared. I'm sure there are others in similar relationships. These people would continue to appear on your search list.

People look for ways to make their search easier. In the past there has been a suggestion to have a box for findommes so they wouldn't show up in a search. Others want the search criteria to include a way to more easily find kinksters who live near them, especially in the UK and Canada.

There is just no way to please everyone and make everyone happy. Everyone has their own personal agenda and wants their own search to be as precise and easy as possible. Sadly, it can't be done for everyone. This leaves the old fashioned way of looking at each profile to see if it might be a match for you. I do understand that this takes time. When you find that very special person to add to your lives the search will seem well worthwhile.

Yes good point's, i'm going to have to get creative in finding this slave, i'm an extremely picky guy... this will take at least a year, most likely, i can feel it. CM wont be the only place we will be searching.





It will probably take far longer than that if you are only seeking online. Denver has an active community. You probably present better in person than you do online, particularly with a pretty empty profile. You aren't the only couple seeking to add to their household. Unicorns have their pick of the cream of the crop.



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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 5:43:59 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I'm lost here. "Owned" is not synonymous for "not looking". However, the "looking for friends" designation IS exactly what you seek, and it can be searched upon already. So why would you want something that does not represent what you're looking for, when what you ARE looking for is already available?

All you want is to search for sub women or slave women, looking for couples, either in Colorado or else willing to relocate. Easy.

That said, I'm the Dom male in a Denver couple that's been looking for a while on and off. We've had by far the best luck in simply meeting folks at munches and play parties than online.

Edited to add: and I don't agree with the Block button idea. People get owned, and later become unowned. Blocking removes the ability to see whether they're free again.

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 12/20/2013 5:45:01 AM >

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 8:33:23 AM   
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Why not have an "owned" button for slaves, subs and or switches?


Sure, right after we add a "Married and cheating" button.


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Are you searching based on what they're seeking, or just based on what you're looking for? The site allows to search for, say, "female subs that are searching for male doms". A woman in a monogamous relationship is not going to be searching for male doms, she'll be looking for friends.


^^^^ This. I have only looking for friends and my profile says that I'm just here for the forums. But, people ignore those and still email me. (Adding a picture of Master seemed to slow down the number though)


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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 8:34:20 AM   
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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 9:29:36 AM   
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When i search "female slaves looking for a poly household or dom/dom couple", i get owned slaves, the usual 50% fakes, and "of course the whole IM OWNED HOW CLEAR CAN I MAKE IT"



An owned female can be looking for poly.

Looking for poly isn't only a single looking to join a group, it can be part of a couple looking to have a single join their existing group.


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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 10:37:15 AM   
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Yes good point's, i'm going to have to get creative in finding this slave, i'm an extremely picky guy... this will take at least a year, most likely, i can feel it. CM wont be the only place we will be searching.




It may take much longer. It may never happen that you find that perfect person who is a perfect fit with you. However, you have a great relationship already. You don't "need" another person to make you happy as you are already happy. So relax. If it happens it happens. It it doesn't, it is just not meant to be.


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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 11:35:14 AM   
DsCouple23


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I just don't see what a "collared and owned" button would really do. I was in a relationship for a year before I was collared. I'm sure there are others in similar relationships. These people would continue to appear on your search list.

People look for ways to make their search easier. In the past there has been a suggestion to have a box for findommes so they wouldn't show up in a search. Others want the search criteria to include a way to more easily find kinksters who live near them, especially in the UK and Canada.

There is just no way to please everyone and make everyone happy. Everyone has their own personal agenda and wants their own search to be as precise and easy as possible. Sadly, it can't be done for everyone. This leaves the old fashioned way of looking at each profile to see if it might be a match for you. I do understand that this takes time. When you find that very special person to add to your lives the search will seem well worthwhile.

Yes good point's, i'm going to have to get creative in finding this slave, i'm an extremely picky guy... this will take at least a year, most likely, i can feel it. CM wont be the only place we will be searching.





It will probably take far longer than that if you are only seeking online. Denver has an active community. You probably present better in person than you do online, particularly with a pretty empty profile. You aren't the only couple seeking to add to their household. Unicorns have their pick of the cream of the crop.



In dating Vanilla, i once had a stretch of dating 40 girls in one year, all 7.5's or above. You are correct i do present better in person.

I'm not a community guy either, due to my profession i cannot be known. It is what it is.

J

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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 11:38:28 AM   
DsCouple23


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Yes good point's, i'm going to have to get creative in finding this slave, i'm an extremely picky guy... this will take at least a year, most likely, i can feel it. CM wont be the only place we will be searching.




It may take much longer. It may never happen that you find that perfect person who is a perfect fit with you. However, you have a great relationship already. You don't "need" another person to make you happy as you are already happy. So relax. If it happens it happens. It it doesn't, it is just not meant to be.



Thing is, it has to happen, i have a lot of aggression, and i prefer to take it out on a slave etc... and i am through just play partnering... i need and love to train, and i want to paint my own picture on the right canvas. Because once i'm in , i give it all.



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RE: Why no "owned" button - 12/20/2013 12:10:43 PM   
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Thing is, it has to happen, i have a lot of aggression <snip>

This, alone, has got to be THE absolute worst reason for wanting/having a slave.

If I were a slave reading this post, I'd be running a mile in the opposite direction.

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