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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 2:28:07 AM   
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You're in Charleston and you're attractive. Have you just gone out to the local munch, public dungeon etc. I once had a slave leave in a huff. I had grown very attached to her and she left a gaping hole in my life. I found a replacement 3 days later at the local dungeon and it worked quite well for us both. We filled each others needs and were quite happy for many months.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 3:20:14 AM   
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There's a child involved in this situation too.

OP if you are in as much psychological distress as you state, you MUST seek help from a professional immediately. If you're too distressed to breathe and eat, then you can't possibly be giving your child the care he or she needs.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 6:20:17 AM   
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It's funny you say that.. Because I feel like a substitute master someone to take the place of the air he was to me would help... But were do you find a good non abusive master on short notice? Thank you.. A lot.. Was oddly what I feel I need too..xoxo


Many people have been in relationships that have ended for one reason or another. May I suggest this book: How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Professional assessment would be appropriate.

And time. Time is a powerful thing.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 7:14:28 AM   
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3. There's also the option of dissociative strategies. These could be positive or negative, so I list them last. One negative example would be turning to substances as an escape. One positive example would be keeping yourself extremely busy so yo don't have time to think about it ... and that's actually even more helpful when paired with #1 or with some goal or sets of goals you can complete which will make you feel good about yourself / accomplished.


I've done this twice - when my marriage ended, I became a full time volunteer at a yoga retreat center, so I had all new people, work, and routines to keep me busy. When I ended another relationship, I joined the USAF.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 12:25:27 PM   
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3. There's also the option of dissociative strategies. These could be positive or negative, so I list them last. One negative example would be turning to substances as an escape. One positive example would be keeping yourself extremely busy so yo don't have time to think about it ... and that's actually even more helpful when paired with #1 or with some goal or sets of goals you can complete which will make you feel good about yourself / accomplished.


I've done this twice - when my marriage ended, I became a full time volunteer at a yoga retreat center, so I had all new people, work, and routines to keep me busy. When I ended another relationship, I joined the USAF.


There is always the old school approach. Drink heavily and then have a bad enough hangover the next day to make you forget everything else. This has helped many of person! Tried and true :)


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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 1:01:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I first read the post, all I could see was self-important drama. Then I thought maybe I was being too harsh. But I decided no, drama lama in the building. Especially all that super secret mind melding bullshit.

However, OP, I am sorry you are feeling so awful. The end of a relationship, especially if you don't see it coming is hard.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 1:47:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ehhhh.... my take: First step of grieving is denial.  Why me, Lord?

Notice that we have NO indication of why he abandoned her......?
Was she a "Bad slave, bad"? or was he sick of trying to solve her mental illness? or (probably what he told her) he had a top secret assignment and couldn't communicate any longer.

Actually, I'm on the side of the "needs professional help" folks.  BUT!  I'm also on the side of the "drama llama"  folks.

You see, the best definition for a mental illness that I've ever found is simply:
The subject's view of reality is not consistent with that of the vast majority.
(Covers both physical and emotional versions of mental illness.)

So, IMHO she needs professional help, but mostly with getting a firm grasp on reality.
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The main take-away is "I'm your Master, not your psychiatrist."  Here we have a guy who tried to help - by whatever means he thought best - and finally realized that he was WAAAAaaay over his professional boundaries - and just left her since he couldn't have a colleguage "take the case" since his involvment would obviously be revealed.




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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 2:01:48 PM   
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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 2:17:36 PM   
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I thought it was a civilian shrink who consulted colleagues on how to undo the work of the PSY OPS guy?


It will be rewritten when the movie comes out anyway.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 4:42:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		People knowledgeable on the topic are quite familiar with the old trick of 'secret details' that 'can't be revealed'.

The correct medical/psychiatric term for them is 'red flags'.


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Redmagic1 trust me when I say you do not know as much as you think you know and this has nothing to do with making a muncharian candidate I provided enough in my post for only people knowledgable on the topic which there is not many to comment or private message you are not one of them so please refrain from posting comments as your advice does not relate to this



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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 4:55:42 PM   
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When I first read the post, all I could see was self-important drama. Then I thought maybe I was being too harsh. But I decided no, drama lama in the building. Especially all that super secret mind melding bullshit.

However, OP, I am sorry you are feeling so awful. The end of a relationship, especially if you don't see it coming is hard.


It is very hard.

I can imagine feeling as though I might die.

But!
the OP lists having a child in her profile and coping well enough to tend to those responsibilities is a necessity.

edit: word choice for clarity



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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 8:32:42 PM   
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I hate not giving people the benefit of the doubt, but...

What sealed the drama llama vote for me was the unwillingness to share details in public lest this super secret Jedi mind trick knowledge should fall into the wrong hands...yet OP seemed perfectly willing to sing like a canary once you got into PM with her. Doesn't seem like a very effective security screening process in my honest opinion.

Break ups suck. No doubt about it. It's painful, disorienting, and agonizing. But a person has to move on on their own, not look for another branch to cling to like a monkey in the middle of a monsoon. If you've got a kid, it's especially important to boot yourself in the ass, get up on your feet, and begin the work of healing.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/7/2014 9:07:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

I thought it was a civilian shrink who consulted colleagues on how to undo the work of the PSY OPS guy?



No no no....the PSI Corps was created as part of EarthForce by Earth Alliance to protect telepaths, but also to identify and control them and use them. But the Vorlons enhance Lyta Alexander's abilities and she could take on anyone in the PSI Corp (Babylon 5 series) :)

Edited to add that all things are possible and she could have had a bad break up as stated. But I have been around the block once, twice. The story ranks up there with the kidnapped and posting to this forum for help from a cell phone (do you remember that thread?)

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/8/2014 9:24:25 AM   
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No no no....the PSI Corps was created as part of EarthForce by Earth Alliance to protect telepaths, but also to identify and control them and use them. But the Vorlons enhance Lyta Alexander's abilities and she could take on anyone in the PSI Corp (Babylon 5 series) :)
<snipped>
Coffee snort ==> you owe me (and probably lots of other folks) a new key-board.


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Edited to add that all things are possible and she could have had a bad break up as stated. But I have been around the block once, twice. The story ranks up there with the kidnapped and posting to this forum for help from a cell phone (do you remember that thread?)
You refer, Sir, to "tap, tap, tap." Somebody has it pinned in their sig-block.  It also makes an annual appearance on the birthday of ____?____.






edited to straighten out snips and quote marks

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/8/2014 2:26:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mummyman321
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No no no....the PSI Corps was created as part of EarthForce by Earth Alliance to protect telepaths, but also to identify and control them and use them. But the Vorlons enhance Lyta Alexander's abilities and she could take on anyone in the PSI Corp (Babylon 5 series) :)
<snipped>
Coffee snort ==> you owe me (and probably lots of other folks) a new key-board.


Interestingly enough the OPs statement are very close to the story line of Babylon 5's Psi Corp it. Name and all. Somethings just make you wonder.


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Edited to add that all things are possible and she could have had a bad break up as stated. But I have been around the block once, twice. The story ranks up there with the kidnapped and posting to this forum for help from a cell phone (do you remember that thread?)
You refer, Sir, to "tap, tap, tap." Somebody has it pinned in their sig-block.  It also makes an annual appearance on the birthday of ____?____.


No, this was the "Girlfriend abducted near Atlanta Georgia being kept as a sex slave noncensually, please help.
The Kidnapped girl was calling him (the boyfriend) daily via a phone and he (the boyfriend) was posting for help the in the forums.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4119435/mpage_1/tm.htm




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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/8/2014 7:03:01 PM   
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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/8/2014 8:56:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Best thing for anxiety attacks, coming from a professional:

Decrease your body temperature. Don't go crazy, just run cool water over your wrists and place a cool washcloth over your neck. Some people find relief by lying on tile or linoleum, or taking a tepid bath. When you have an anxiety attack, you're having a physiological response to a psychological issue, and it's important to take care of those physical symptoms as they occur.

Force yourself to bathe and change clothes. Fear sweat is different than normal sweat, and you don't want to keep yourself exposed to the stank. Besides, doing everyday things will ground you. It is a responsibility to do these grownup things- embrace that responsibility. We are all slaves to it.

Sit down. Close your eyes. Breathe slowly, in through the nose, count to one, two, three, out the mouth. Deep, cleansing breaths.

These are what I recommend to someone having an immediate panic response. In your situation, I cannot express enough how important it is to get to a crisis center for short-term inpatient care. There, you can tell a psychiatrist (who is a medical doctor) what you're experiencing and if needed, they will prescribe a medication. Your blood will be checked daily to see how well the medicine is working and there will be people to talk to at all hours. You'll only stay for three or four days (unless you need more time) and upon leaving, you'll be given support. If you can't dedicate that much time, you can also seek outpatient treatment at the same facility.

The best way to get into a crisis center is through an emergency room. Some hospitals have psychiatric emergency rooms, and others don't. What you do when you get to the front desk is show them what medication you might already be taking and telling them that you need a referral for inpatient psychiatric care, you don't have a current physician, and it's an emergency. Be honest with them; honestly, with all the random household objects they extract from butts all day, nothing you tell them will be shocking.

What you're describing seems further than the loss of an important relationship and makes me wonder if it might have triggered a depressive episode. You might have deeper psychological problems than just this, and that's okay. It's no different than having a physical ailment that you need treatment and medication for, and the only shame in it is not getting help.

Just remember: Life isn't like this. My situation is making things seem worse than they really are. Other people can be happy, it isn't impossible for me to be as well. My mind is lying to me right now. If you feel like hurting yourself, keep repeating that over and over, because it's the truth. And please, remember what I said about getting care.

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/8/2014 9:10:57 PM   
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No no no....the PSI Corps was created as part of EarthForce by Earth Alliance to protect telepaths, but also to identify and control them and use them. But the Vorlons enhance Lyta Alexander's abilities and she could take on anyone in the PSI Corp (Babylon 5 series) :)

Edited to add that all things are possible and she could have had a bad break up as stated. But I have been around the block once, twice. The story ranks up there with the kidnapped and posting to this forum for help from a cell phone (do you remember that thread?)


Wait, wait, wait ... She was dating Mr. Bester? No wonder her head is a mess!

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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/8/2014 9:15:59 PM   
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It's funny you say that.. Because I feel like a substitute master someone to take the place of the air he was to me would help... But were do you find a good non abusive master on short notice? Thank you.. A lot.. Was oddly what I feel I need too..xoxo


You don't, because anyone who was willing to jump in and make life decisions for a virtual stranger with (by her own admission) a serious mental health crisis in full swing would be definition be either abusive or a clueless idiot.

Even if Mr Wonderful was reading this now, wanting to help you, he wouldn't be able to create a healthy power exchange dynamic until you get yourself sorted out, and even then it would take time. Anyone who thinks they can swoop in and save you with their awesome domliness is a very dangerous person. And who's betting some of the 'helpful' private messages you have had are offering exactly that?


Completely agree with Athena. And OP, I'll ask you why you would trust a complete stranger whom you solicit from a BDSM website over a licensed professional (ID'd as kink friendly or not) to help you with your issues?

(That's not a snarky question - it's a true desire to understand why you wouldn't seek professional help first before seeking a stranger on the internet.)


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RE: Need immediate HELP!! Psychologist counslers please... - 1/9/2014 1:10:54 AM   
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OP, I'll ask you why you would trust a complete stranger whom you solicit from a BDSM website over a licensed professional (ID'd as kink friendly or not) to help you with your issues?

Consulting a professional would result in sharing the secret information with someone who is not qualified to know about it.

Here she has a better chance to find someone who is familiar with the issue, and therefore qualified, but even so the chance is very small.


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