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kc692 -> RE: New Mistress (7/5/2006 9:41:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: YourMistress2006

I am new to the Mistress thing. Just wondering if anyone knew of any free sites to find subs? And is Paypal ok to ask for.. I need instructions here.. LOL



It's not free, but I think you can find subs at all the corner Subways;  if you do really well, they have killer cookies too!!!!!!!



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: New Mistress (7/5/2006 10:14:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kc692
It's not free, but I think you can find subs at all the corner Subways;  if you do really well, they have killer cookies too!!!!!!!
   [sm=news.gif] Good one!    M



kc692 -> RE: New Mistress (7/6/2006 6:15:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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ORIGINAL: kc692
It's not free, but I think you can find subs at all the corner Subways;  if you do really well, they have killer cookies too!!!!!!!
   [sm=news.gif] Good one!    M


Not to beat it to death(pun intended, smiles) but I think they have a "Sub of the day" special where you don't even have to think of what you want, depending on the day of the week!!  Seriously, those macadamia nut cookies are the BOMB!!!

Edited to add:  Good to see you M!!



janiceleeinsc -> RE: New Mistress (7/6/2006 7:25:27 AM)

I don't want to scare you off, but you really need to listen to the others here.   I don't recall seeing Mistress thingy in any forum. 
If you want to play cam for sex, you can look on the net for sites that do that.  They are out there.   Being a professional Domme is an artform in itself, and not something one can learn by looking on the net. 

Respectfully,

Mistress_Jan



Wickad -> RE: New Mistress (7/9/2006 12:27:46 AM)

And people wonder why "ProDomme's" get confused with 'whore' and 'prostitute'. 

Sad, really, really sad!!

Wickad



KarbonCopy -> RE: New Mistress (7/9/2006 12:29:41 AM)

I cant say it enough.


TOO MUCH TV!



kc692 -> RE: New Mistress (7/9/2006 12:53:26 PM)

That or just too much cheap porn.



MistressTexas -> RE: New Mistress (7/10/2006 10:07:33 AM)

Yourmistress2006,
I've been taking some time to think about this thread, because I am a new, young Pro Domme. I think the question is; what can you bring to the table that sets you apart from just a bitchy escort playing dress up. Any hooker can put on a corset and scream at people, what is it that makes you a Domme. I for instance, am a certified emergency medic. That training allows me to pursue more intense forms of play because I know the medical consequenses, as well as how to react if anything goes wrong. I also strip when I get bored haha. But that means I have a large collection of costumes already at hand for different scenes. I'm not sure if this is making sense so far, but my point is that I have skills from my vanilla life which allow me to be a Pro Domme. Simply demanding paypal is not only slightly presumptuos, but a bit rude as well. Especially since you don;t even claissfy yourself as a Pro Domme. Your profile proclaims you are the "one true goddess," and yet your first post says straight out that you are "new to the Mistress thing." There are many more experienced, knowlegeble and wise Dommes who don't make that claim, so what gives you the right? I'm not trying to flame, just trying to provoke thought with questions. What types of play are you experienced in? How do you want to be served? What do you expect from your subs/slaves? Perhaps your profile needs to explain more about why you deserve to be treated as a Goddess instead of just proclaiming to be Her.



YourMistress2006 -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 1:08:24 PM)

Who is to say that I am not consenting. And Im not as new as you may think. My mother has been in this for 5 years and I have been around it. So, no I don't believe I should take lessons. I've had my fair share of lessons.



MistressOfGa -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 1:27:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: YourMistress2006

Who is to say that I am not consenting. And Im not as new as you may think. My mother has been in this for 5 years and I have been around it. So, no I don't believe I should take lessons. I've had my fair share of lessons.

YOU are the one who said you were "New to this Mistress thing". The responses you received were based on that information.



Gemslittlebear -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 1:31:16 PM)

puts in my two cents worth. Your a new to the lifestyle i am guessing here.
It is not something You can walk in on and say Ta Da I am a Domiant etc. I would suggest that You should take all the good advice that has been offered and read a bit more on being a Dominant as well as finding a Mentor. Local Mentors would be best or Online who has experiance in the field of being a Pro Dominant.  Especially in the field of the lifestyle that You are looking upon. It is not a " walk in the park"  Its not a get rich quickly kind of thing either. Plus there is always no matter what form of relationship with in the lifestyle as well as outside a building of trust. I agree with DiurnalVampire Ma'am You should try and get experiance first before rushing into something You know little about. You also have been given exceptional advice from many of the Pro Dominants and even those that are Dominants of the lifestyle, I again urge that You should look further into the lifestyle by getting a True Mentor to guide You and to get You to understand more what this lifestyle has to offer. Reading material is good but hands on experiance is better while of cource being monitored of cource. You have to know that it is not just about Your needs as it is also about the needs of the subs/slaves. You have to know Your limits and You must know the limits of the subs and slaves as well as pets etc. Everyone has limits. You must also remember that it must be concenual. Two consending adults. there is also sacrafises that have to be made not just by you as the dominant but by the submissives as well for any form of relationship to be made or worked out even as a Pro Dominant. If im not mistaken, Which i do not think i am.

but again that is just my two cents and thank You all for allowing me to add my input

GemsLittlebear

"Im sorry but the position for annoying talking animal has been
taken"



CuteIrishM4F -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 2:42:58 PM)

Mistress,
          i am fairly new, but i welcome You. i hope You find what You are searching for. Have a wonderful day Mistress.

althalus.



LadyHugs -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 5:24:37 PM)

Dear YourMistress2006, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I've been in the lifestyle for three decades, and I never stop learning. 
 
Once there is an attitude that you don't need to learn anymore after watching your mum for five years, you're just cheating yourself more than committing fraud upon others.
 
Now we'll watch a dual screen name create a false 'relationship' as to make it all sound 'real.'   How many repeats of this have we seen ladies and gentlemen?
 
Just a thought...
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



TeeGO -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 5:28:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kc692

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourMistress2006

I am new to the Mistress thing. Just wondering if anyone knew of any free sites to find subs? And is Paypal ok to ask for.. I need instructions here.. LOL



It's not free, but I think you can find subs at all the corner Subways;  if you do really well, they have killer cookies too!!!!!!!

The thing about subway is you can not only enjoy your sub there, but you can order T'go.  [;)]



MissAlison -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 5:36:13 PM)

Perhaps Im wrong....I rarely am, but anything is possible....
I dont see where she says she wants to be a prodomme, just a Mistress....there's no difference?


quote:

ORIGINAL: YourMistress2006

I am new to the Mistress thing. Just wondering if anyone knew of any free sites to find subs? And is Paypal ok to ask for.. I need instructions here.. LOL



joyinslavery -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 5:39:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissAlison

Perhaps Im wrong....I rarely am, but anything is possible....
I dont see where she says she wants to be a prodomme, just a Mistress....there's no difference?


quote:

ORIGINAL: YourMistress2006

I am new to the Mistress thing. Just wondering if anyone knew of any free sites to find subs? And is Paypal ok to ask for.. I need instructions here.. LOL



The Paypal thing might be a clue (?). 



MissAlison -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 5:47:35 PM)

Whereas I do agree the paypal is a tip off to some extent, its also true that some Domme's require some finanacial liability from their subs/slaves, no? As an example, I have always required my subs/slaves, when collared, to pay for their first collar as a sign of devotion to Me. Perhaps I am sticking My nose where it doesnt belong, speaking completely out of turn, just expressing an opinion. Its entirely possible that Y/you are all right on the money, no pun intended in this case, and I just dont know how to read between some peoples lines is all. Smile, much worse things could happen. [;)]



joyinslavery -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 5:55:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissAlison

Whereas I do agree the paypal is a tip off to some extent, its also true that some Domme's require some finanacial liability from their subs/slaves, no? As an example, I have always required my subs/slaves, when collared, to pay for their first collar as a sign of devotion to Me. Perhaps I am sticking My nose where it doesnt belong, speaking completely out of turn, just expressing an opinion. Its entirely possible that Y/you are all right on the money, no pun intended in this case, and I just dont know how to read between some peoples lines is all. Smile, much worse things could happen. [;)]


I think the sub could purchase their own collar if required.  Cash or a credit card work pretty well in that situation.  Then again, I think if a Dominant asked ME to pay for my own collar, I'd shake my head and walk away.

But, that's just me.



MissAlison -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 6:05:20 PM)


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Then again, I think if a Dominant asked ME to pay for my own collar, I'd shake my head and walk away.

But, that's just me.
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I have run into that quite a bit, and that's fine. I dont force anyone to do anything, but if a sub or slave is commited enough, a purchase of a collar is not a lot to ask, and I did say the FIRST collar. But anyway, to the OP, I hope you find what you seek, to A/all that replied, there was a lot of good advice hidden amongst it all. [:)]



joyinslavery -> RE: New Mistress (7/30/2006 6:18:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissAlison


 

Then again, I think if a Dominant asked ME to pay for my own collar, I'd shake my head and walk away.

But, that's just me.



I have run into that quite a bit, and that's fine. I dont force anyone to do anything, but if a sub or slave is commited enough, a purchase of a collar is not a lot to ask, and I did say the FIRST collar. But anyway, to the OP, I hope you find what you seek, to A/all that replied, there was a lot of good advice hidden amongst it all. [:)]


Hey, whatever works for you but I think for most in this lifestyle, a collar is a pretty big thing and symbolic of the bond between the Dominant and their submissive/slave.  I think it's generally considered an honor to wear a collar and being asked to 'bring your own', IMHO, cheapens it.  It's the Dominant that gives the collar.  The submissive/slave (hopefully) earned it.  If it works for you then great, but I sure would want my Dominant to put a bit more effort into something so important.  To me, it's no less than the equivalent of the vanilla engagement ring/wedding band, and I damn sure wouldn't expect my fiancee to purchase her own ring.  Kinda tacky.  But again, whatever works for you. 



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