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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

It wouldn't matter if you were six foot and weighed 88 lbs. Someone would call you a fat, worthless whatever. See, it's not about whether you are or are not overweight. It's about poking at peoples' insecurities. Since you mention your size (sort of) in your handle, that dork wad felt it was ok to call you out on it. (It's not.)

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Okay darlin, don't let that crap get to you. I'll clue you in on a secret, all men are attracted to different women, there is no standard mold that we all agree upon, but what we CAN and DO agree on confidence. If you are happy with your body image, that confidence in you is going to shine through, and confident is feckin sexy!

I'm in total agreement with you, accept you for who you are. However, if you haven't accepted it... "I'm trying to get healthier", you cannot expect your potential partner to accept it.

I would encourage you to really soul search and set realistic goals for your health, weight, and all else you are wanting to improve, look at that goal and make sure that the target is where your happy sits. Take a step toward it and let us help you with all the encouragement we can give you here. You could go so far as to lay out your goals in your journal and do updates there as well. But I would only do this, if you aren't happy with where you are. Don't do it for someone other than yourself, or because some asshole sent a nasty note.

Exiled

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ORIGINAL: fluffyprincess

I'm just fed up with being seen as a fat woman...when that's not how I view myself. I view myself as sexy. It's taken me forever to realize it...but I am happy with the way that I am. I don't want to lose weight, I want to be eat healthier, and have a better body on the inside...that's all.

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I've accepted that I am a bigger woman...I don't ever see myself as ending up being skinny...I just have depression, so I come off as if I don't love myself....when I do love myself.

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ORIGINAL: joybaby

There's a guy who keeps sending me nasty messages...i know i can block him, but i don't for a few reasons. One, i don't want him to think that he is even that important that i'd take the time to do it. Two, i want him to think that it isn't bothering me in the least-after all, if it bothered me, surely i'd block him! And three-he keeps making up new profiles anyway, so it probably wouldn't matter.

The thing that is strange is, he will write and say something really nasty, and then, as if he doesn't remember doing that, he'll write a very nice message a short time later. If only he was smart enough to change his location and stats with each new profile, i might just fall for it

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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

Joybaby if he's coming across with different profiles, and harassing you under the new ones block and delete. Then report what he's doing to support. It's at the bottom of the page on the other side.

There is absolutely no shame in blocking someone who is bothering you. That's what the button was put there for. I use it, less frequently now, but I also get less mail. I had someone c-mail me recently who'd been banned over 4 years ago. Came back and sent me a msg right away. Block, report, not a word since.