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Rule -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 3:04:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub If any one could give me some tips it would be great. There is no reason to lie awake worrying. Have a glass of milk before you go to bed and sleep well.

DarkSteven -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 3:12:32 PM)
Are you worried you gave him a bad blow job? Hell, there is NO SUCH THING as a bad blow job! Even though he's not here now, I will volunteer mnottertail for the selfless job of providing you practice.

lilcracker -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 3:15:11 PM)
I once gave head to a Dom and yep it had been a while since I had given head....he came in my mouth and I spat the shit right back out on him. LOL....It was so thick and I was totally not expecting him to come yet. We both laughed it off....I was totally not embarrassed because I am the type that thinks take me as I am....don't take anything to seriously....and if you can't laugh you are so not worth my time. Of course it did not work out...but more due to the distance than anything...but OP please do not be sick over this....it was a blow job for christ sakes....if he is judging you merely on the ability of THAT...I'd think he is not worth giving another blow job to. I personally would practice with someone who judge me as a person not judged me on how well I can suck his dick. Sorry but way too many people are more interested in how great the sex is and can not get beyond that. If there is nothing else beyond the bedroom....the relationship probably won't last too long.

OsideGirl -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 3:39:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub Wow so many responses! Thanks for all the advice. Its a complicated situation but the reason we waited so long to meet was really all me. I wanted to wait. As for the back seat? well based on some of the feedback I have received I do no feel like being judged any more so I am just going to say its complicated and not get in to details. I think this is going to come down to communication with him about his needs and be being more secure with my self and my abilities. But here's the thing: Giving a blow job in the back seat of a car has a lot to do with your feelings of self worth. quote: ORIGINAL: lilcracker I once gave head to a Dom and yep it had been a while since I had given head....he came in my mouth and I spat the shit right back out on him. Which also makes me say to the OP: Please, please tell me you practiced safer sex and used protection.

anniezz338 -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 3:43:41 PM)
On XHamster.com, Camille Crimson has many vids on The Art of Blowjob. I picked up alot of tips from her. http://xhamster.com/movies/401490/camille_crimson_the_art_of_blowjob_white_wine.html

Toysinbabeland -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 3:46:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub I'm sorry if what I said come off as rude it was not my intention i really really do appreciate the feedback given. I just don't need to make is more complicated for my self by going any further in to details. I have read all of what every one has said and it has given me a lot to think about. Heavens no...you weren't rude! I was clarifying so you wouldn't feel bad. Relax, we're here to help! Tips? Talk! Ask him what he wants. Use your communication skills. Gosh, even a conversation about a blowjob makes a man happy! Especially when it starts with " I want to please you better..." You will be just fine. Lmao Dark Steven..... Where's Ron anyway? Shouldn't he have poked his head in on this conversation?? Badum-bump! toys

Blueswordsman -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 4:32:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub Hey, so I can not believe I am asking for help on this but I need it. I hope this is the correct spot to post this. So here is my situation, I have been talking with Sir now since October. We met on CM and then began skyping and texting and talking almost daily. This past Tuesday we finally met up in person. I was a nervous wreak and acted like a complete idiot meeting up with him. I had to drive to a part of town I had never been too and it was just a mess. Now before any one judges me this next part I was given the option after we met for coffee and after the nightmare of a drive I decided I was not going to waste any time. We ended up in the back seat of my car with me giving him a blow job. ( Yes, I had friends in place to check on me and I was in contact with them a lot during our meeting, I felt safe though so do not worry) Now it has been, not lying, over 7 years since I had given any one a blow job. Long story I don't feel like getting in to and being judged for. Any ways being that it was my first time in a long time and my first meeting with him I was well to say the least not the best at it. I did get him off twice but I could tell he was not really enjoying it. I did ask him for some feedback after I got home and he told me I should practice. I am sick to my stomach with the thought that I did not please him well enough and so now I am reaching out here for some tips and ideas on how I can give him a better blow job. What things can I work on to really really please him? I am embarrassed to be even posting this but I so badly need assistance. If any one could give me some tips it would be great. You can also private message me about it as well. Thanks Sirswtsub A "big" tip. Apologize for your poor service. Ask for forgiveness because you never saw anything that big in you life. Explain how you were overwhelmed by his magnificent manhood. He will understand and continue to offer you the opportunity to master his monster.

fantasy813 -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 4:46:12 PM)
funniest pic I've seen in a long time........thx, I needed a big smile

angelikaJ -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 5:27:32 PM)
IF he got off twice while you gave him a terrible blowjob then my observation is perhaps he has an issue with premature ejaculation... ? Seriously, you gave him oral sex and he came twice. That equals some measure of success and that he capitalised on your insecurities and negated that says something not very nice about him. It is his job to communicate to you the specifics of what he wants. It was your first time with him. Of course it wasn't perfect. If you had given hundreds of blowjobs in the last 7 years, it still wouldn't have been perfect. You had no experience with him.

MisterP61 -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 5:32:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub I did get him off twice but I could tell he was not really enjoying it. He must be a dam good actor to have gotten off twice on a "bad" blow job. Just sayin.

littlewonder -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:06:38 PM)
1. I don't think the op is widowed. She just doesn't come off that way, but op, if you are, feel free to mail me on the other side. When I was widowed, for the first few years all I did was sleep around with any man I could get my hands on. I didn't want a relationship with them. I just wanted to feel something, anything again because I was numb. But after awhile I realized I was harming myself and was not working on my myself or grieving. I was hiding. 2. I'm going to assume he's married and the back seat was really all he was looking for. I have a feeling you will not hear from or see him again. He got what he wanted. If you do hear from him and you two go out again, why not try holding back this time? That means no sex, no playing and yes, blowjobs are sex. Instead let him woo you. Take your time! But please, make sure he's not married, which is another reason why I say to wait. He's a complete stranger to you no matter how long you two have skyped, emailed, chatted, etc...

LafayetteLady -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:16:26 PM)
Listen, you are only 27 so apparently your last relationship, you were all of 27 years old; basically still a kid with little relationship experience as an adult. Not trying to bash you or make you feel bad, just stating a fact. I'm sorry that you are offended by those of us significantly older and more experienced trying to help you by telling you that "good" guys dont look to get BJ's in the back seat on a first face to face meet. Ok, sure every guys wants a BJ in the back seat whenever a woman will give it to them, but a good guy who wants a real relationship has the courtesy to hold back. As Steven said, there is no such thing as a "bad" blow job, there are only better blow jobs, but all are good.. so a guy who gets off twice from getting his dick sucked by a woman he has just met, who admittedly had a tough day, and then that guy has the unmitigated gall to tell this woman who is already nervous and unsure of herself, and who waited 3 months to even meet, that the blow job was less than stellar? He acted innappropriately. I'm sorry but you admit to feelings of insecurity and low self esteem. Do you think continuing to see this guy is going to improve it? Please don't take insult so easily from those who are trying to help you. Learn to be indignant to men who are too selfish to appreciate what you have to offer. I honestly can't see this man ever appreciating any effort you put forth. He doesn't even want to work with you on it, rather tells you to practice on your own. Did you give him the most mindblowing oral sex of his life? Probably not. But if he can get off TWICE and think you gave a shitty blow job, and you agree, you are both being unrealistic. Think about this...would you ever consider oral sex from a man that provided you with more than one orgasm to be bad oral sex? Isn't the main point of you sucking him to get him off? Well, then, obviously you dick sucking abilities are adequate. I would advise you to tell him that you acted impulsively that first date and that you need to return to the taking it slow status you began with. You can't unring a bell, but you can take your time before you ring that bell agin. Slow down and see what HE has to offer YOU before engaging in any more sexual activity. If he really is a good guy and aaspires to be a decent dominant he will respect your wishes. If he can't, then he isn't worth your time. I realize 7 years without someone and without sex is a long time, but you need to see yourself as worth the wait, andrealize that any guy worth having isn't going to make you feel bad about yourself. One other thing...no matter how "complicated" you think the whole story is, its unlikely something we all haven't heard before. Think of us like BDSM doctors in the way, that we've heard pretty much everything.

sexyred1 -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:28:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt I have to ask, why on earth did you get in the back seat with this man? Is he married? I have no problem with you jumping into a sex act with him, if that's what YOU wanted. I'm just not sure it is. I think you put out b/c you felt you had to. Let me ask you, how many times did you get off? In my opinion you just told this man your worth, which is someone to go to for a blowjob, and someone with so little self respect he gets to humiliate you about how 'good' it was. Practice indeed. How about practicing having some self confidence and self esteem? Holy crap, I was just going to write this exact thing. To you younger ladies, please, for the love of god, stop doing this crap. You say you are bad at blow jobs? He got off TWICE, so HUH? Puleeze, just stop putting yourselves down. No one is "good" at sex. You are only as good as the one you are with and the chemistry that two people have between them. And communication. And reciprocation. Then you have the mind blowing, earthquake shaking kind of sex that we love. You don't have it in back seats of cars. Maybe in a king size bed, with a high thread count sheets would be better. As for how to give a good blow job, if you like the guy and he likes you, it is pretty much a no brainer. Use your tongue like a hummingbird, it worked for me since my first one. Oh, and deep throat 'em if you want, that is good too.

Rawni -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:35:15 PM)
Bravo ladies. Few will value you, until you value yourself. Just ask the ladies that have long standing partners, that are pleasing these men. Did their dominant value them? Did their dominant consider their well being? Or... did their dominant tell them to meet somewhere further away for her... not worry about how she struggled in the meeting and then expect to climb into her car and give a blow job twice with good results and then disrespect her and her abilities? Guess which you will hear from? The one's that actually GOT the dom, because he really was a dominant and treated them as a good dominant would. Women playing clueless... get nothing but used.. in a sad way. They are not victims of others, but of themselves because they allow men to treat them in such a way.

LadyPact -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:39:27 PM)
OK. Have to say this first. Yes, there really is such a thing as a bad blow job. HOWEVER, that's not the kind of blow job that any guy gets off on TWICE. Seriously? And dude says you need practice at it?????? That probably would have been enough for Me to tell the guy to fuck off right there.

PeonForHer -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:39:39 PM)
Many moons ago, I used to contribute to a forum that was meant to discuss issues relating to sex. Possibly the most common question from (especially young) females was 'How do I do a good blowjob?' Honestly, it was up there with the dick-size questions from the men. The few males that contributed to that forum, myself included, always felt baffled - and the response that we always gave was a variation on the same theme: It's pretty hard not to give a good blowjob. Don't actually blow into it (because that could be harmful) and don't bite it (or least at first, and not hard if you do). That's it. If he tells you you need to practise, I'm betting he's really telling you to practise getting confident with it. A handy tip (and one which I needed to learn, too!): if you're worried about doing a given thing in bed with your partner, you'll look as though you're not enjoying it. Personally, it's a passion-killer for me if a woman looks as though she's not enjoying giving a BJ. I suspect a lot of men will be the same.

PeonForHer -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:41:12 PM)
Bollocks. I should have read the thread first. I hate saying the same thing as most others.

Blueswordsman -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:54:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub I did get him off twice but I could tell he was not really enjoying it. He must be a dam good actor to have gotten off twice on a "bad" blow job. Just sayin. How does a man fake two orgasms? I really could use the advise

MisterP61 -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:56:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Blueswordsman quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub I did get him off twice but I could tell he was not really enjoying it. He must be a dam good actor to have gotten off twice on a "bad" blow job. Just sayin. How does a man fake two orgasms? I really could use the advise Oh, do tell. Where exactly do I say he faked anything? I am waiting for this one. Pretty sure most others got what I meant.

Rawni -> RE: Embarrassed but need help (1/16/2014 6:56:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Blueswordsman quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: Sirsswtsub I did get him off twice but I could tell he was not really enjoying it. He must be a dam good actor to have gotten off twice on a "bad" blow job. Just sayin. How does a man fake two orgasms? I really could use the advise You're missing the real point. He came. How did he fake that the blow job was bad, if he came? He must be a good actor.

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