OvidInDallas
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Hello again AP,
Let me review some of your writing so perhaps you can understand where the hostility you feel is coming from:
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
Why are people so damn serious about being "serious?"
Now I myself have only PM:ed very few people here but if someones just out for a chat then why not?
Why are you annoyed with that?
Here you are lecturing people on the correct way to respond to your behavior. Rather than consider if your actions are wanted and how they are received, you are instead demanding that those who you have contacted unsolicited react in a certain way that makes you happy. This is showing a deep seated entitlement.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
Now fine, if you're looking for that special someone you might not want to be bothered by various ordinary chat/friendship requests but some people seem here too uptight.
People do not need to justify why they are not interested in replying to you. They do not need your approval for their motives behind ignoring messages or chat requests. No one needs your approval and that you think they do is further evidence of your entitlement issues.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
PPS: If you really want to avoid a lot of Spam do as I do! Have no picture or no personal picture. It will probably take *a lot* longer but you won't have to flip through all the type of people you mention if that's not your thing.
Again, you are lecturing others on the proper way to respond to your unsolicited behavior. The women on this site don't need your approval for how they choose to react to your unrequested contact, and they certainly don't need to be told the correct method of behavior in order to avoid your contact. What you are engaging in is blaming the victim.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
That's fine and all. It's just that some people have more rules for contacting them on their profiles than text which I find ridiculous.
And this is further showing how you expect other people to live to fulfill your needs and an entitlement attitude that they do so. People can fill their profiles out however they want and your behavior here shows exactly why some women are forced to have tons of rules about contact, because guys like you do not get the message.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
I just don't think that all of this really helps.
And besides, people just asking for a casual chat and explaining their feelings in short paragraphs without any attachments aren't really the problem then?
Yes. You are the problem because you are ignoring what the person wants and then becoming upset (as is evidence by your attitude here) that they do not respond to you in a way that you want them to. Again, entitlement and expectation that women meet your needs.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
@Constanze
By mails you mean PMs?
How can you get to know anyone if you don't open PMs?
And if you do not want that at all anymore then get on facebook (etc)!
Arguing I can understand but name calling?
Geez... and that's even if you're a bit hyperbolic ;)
Maybe I should just stop this internet thing lol.
Here you are lecturing another member on how they should behave. You are demanding that she change her behavior because you do not like her reaction to yours. She has done nothing to illicit your actions, you are contacting her and people like her unsolicited. You do not get to dictate how she and women like her should act on this site just so that it makes your life easier. Again, entitlement.
And yes, you should stop this internet thing. Please.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
As you can see from a reply above though thin-skinned egomaniacs where ever you look.
Here you are getting hostile because people are not complying with your demands. You feel the need to denigrate those who disagree with you rather than take a moment to consider how your behavior is causing the reaction you are receiving.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
The post to which I replied with "Facebook" Constanze understood and clarified not to mean what I thought it did.
= If you're *not* here in search for someone somehow then why are you here?
People can be here for a variety of reasons, none of which require your approval. However, if they are here looking for someone then they can go about that search however they want. If that means that they choose not to respond to unsolicited chat requests from random guys then that is up to them. Why does that bother you so much?
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
PS: I'm not sure why you fancy that I would have tried to strike up a conversation with you. My point was one and only and that's without even saying that I am such:
If someone that does match your interest contacts you in a casual manner instead of with a long letter it shouldn't be (IMO) annoying as long as it's polite and in some way acknowledges to have read your profile and found something in common.
Here you are trying to belittle the person you are responding to by implying they don't meet your standards. This is typical of an entitled male attitude where women should feel grateful for your unsolicited attention and if they don't or point out your behavior then you demean them as not being worth your time. This is not a mature way to behave and I hope that as you grow older you recognize this. Women do not owe you anything and they do not have to reply to your undesired contact attempts.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
edit: Let me just explain this a little bit more. Most people have some text in their profile. So even if someone just sends you a "Hi, how are ya?" which is way to short as an introduction then you can still check their profile out to see if you like it. Saves everyone time...
How they use their time is up to them. If they choose to judge someone based on the initial contact then that is up to them. They do not owe you a look at your profile, a message responding to yours, nor a chance for you to chat with them. Based on your interactions here, I seriously doubt you would take no for an answer if they did respond to one of your messages. Again, entitlement.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
Trust me, I'm not happy to be the focal point of your attention here.
Then perhaps you should stop acting in a way to make yourself the center of attention? You are not a victim.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
Damnit. With so much inaccuracy I have to add this in hopes that you'll get it.
If you have in your profile an age spectrum and/or other specifics that I dislike or don't fit into I'd be a moron* to contact you. This is not the topic. Understand the topic.
If that is the requirement to judge that you contact people whom you are not a match for, then based on your interactions on this forum there is no good reason to believe that you would not engage in that behavior. Also, you are mansplaining here and acting with entitlement, again.
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ORIGINAL: AnoymousPhrase
Before you choose to reply to me again instead of "blocking and deleting" me:
Those men, women and third sexes doing it are morons.* This is not the topic
Stop creating conflict where there is none.
*Exceptions may exitst.
You are the one creating conflict. Multiple posters have repeatedly explained to you why they do what you don't like. You refuse to accept their explanation because it doesn't match your desired outcome. This is a discussion board, people are allowed to react to your public posts. They do not have an obligation to be quiet while you offer your point of view.
I hope you will take sometime to really consider my words rather than reacting in a quick and hostile manner. You genuinely need to reconsider your point of view towards women if you want to be a better person.
Regards,
Ovid
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