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RealityFix -> RE: Lies In A Profile (1/2/2005 8:15:27 AM)
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Hmmmm..........people tend to want what they want.
Let's face it everyone has criteria and a lot of times I think they figure it's better to just not reply to someone they consider a poor match than to say anything at all.
Being out of shape is often equated to being out of control in this lifestyle. Like it or not in this arena,looks VERY MUCH matter. And I think many don't mention things like this for fear of getting harassing emails from people who feel rejected by being filtered out.
I think this is due in part to many having a strong objectification fetish, and basically *attraction=worth*.
I know that's certainly how I feel, and I am in good enough condition to want someone who equals me in physicality. I don't lie about that in my profile or try to be pc.. I say quite blunty that obesity is unnattractive to me.........and I still get grossly overweight subs writing me. And I did NOT put that in there to be ignored-so I wonder,are they lying to themselves when they say they read my profile and still contact me?
Or lying to me by omission, hoping I'll overlook something that's IMPORTANT to me?
This is never an easy thing to find partners in,and the more negatives you have going against you,the lesser your chances are going to be.
But whatever those may be, change the ones you CAN and be honest about the rest. Unless you plan to live your life online,lies only harm the liar,ultimately.
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