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subfever -> RE: Are strong, smart women not desirable? (2/9/2014 2:35:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal
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ORIGINAL: subfever
Would you agree or disagree that within the current vanilla culture, males of lower intelligence rarely ever elevate themselves from "the friend zone" with strong females possessing superior intellect?
If I may opine here until GM can provide you with her own opinion -
- Inferior/superior intellect aside for a moment, those persons who come across as intellectuals can be off-putting or perceived as arrogant. (Which could be true)
- Some people mask their feelings with intellectual discourse. Therefore it makes it harder to connect with such an individual on a heart-to-heart level.
- Women in general express their emotions more easily than men do (except for anger & displeasure, if a people-pleaser). Men in general are more reluctant to reveal their tenderer emotions. Consequently, males have a tendency to look to females for a certain subjective quality of expression, not detached objective reasoning. (To decipher, validate and/or express their feelings for them, in other words)
- Men can feel invalidated if a woman appears to be sparring with them. They live most of their lives in a competitive atmosphere with other men, which is a stressful adrenaline-pumped state. They seek out the company of women for relief from that for the most part.
- It might be more accurate to say men are more inclined to put women in the "friend zone" if they are consistently operating on a mental level with one another, such as on the job, in their business dealings, academia, etc.
Interesting perspectives and observations, most of which I agree with and/or have had similar observations. The only exception is men being inclined to place women into the friend zone when constantly operating on a mental level. I haven't seen or experienced this yet. What I have observed is that if men are physically attracted to women, they tend to avoid placing women into the friend zone. I'm referring to men without strong outside influences, such as happy marriages or jobs that the men don't want to risk losing by creating romantic relationships with co-employees.
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- Intellectual foreplay is practiced by sapiosexuals to engage one another; they find this to be sexually exciting. If you aren't one, this type of foreplay will not fall within your radar and you won't understand what are the rules of the game that is being played.
Though I'm aware of the definition of sapiosexual and do find intelligent women quite appealing, I've never experienced sexual arousal from engaging in intellectual discourse. So you're right, I do not know the rules of the game.
Hey... wait a minute... are you flirting with me here? ... [;)]
Seriously though, you placed inferior/superior intellect aside for a moment, but never returned to directly respond to my OP. Your reference to men being more inclined to put women in the "friend zone" if they are consistently operating on a mental level with one another, such as on the job, in their business dealings, academia, etc; applies to a specific minority of the spectrum.
I would also like to expand upon my OP a bit as well. Within the current vanilla culture and assuming all other criteria as being equal; do women of superior intellect have strong tendencies to place men of lesser intellect into the friend zone?
Also, taking this a step further, would your answer to the above question change in any respects, if we were discussing the D/s culture instead of the vanilla culture?
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