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RE: Social issues - 7/8/2006 3:50:52 PM

Curiossdragnlily

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i am sorry that this has happened. O/our society is narrow minded. But as long as you are pleasing your Mistess, do the looks matter? It is what She feels, the looks She gives, what She says that matter and only them. Take great joy in the fact that She has found you. W/we have many male submissive friends that are looking for the wonderful thing that you have. Congradulations in that.
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lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios
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RE: Social issues - 7/8/2006 3:54:37 PM

Curiossdragnlily

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i apologize but i thought of something else. Do you not think that female slaves have a problem with society? To many we are what so many woman have fought to change.Even though living this way is something that we embrace and cherish. If it were not for the economic times, i would be at home. As Master wishes it could be. Totally opposite of how "things are supposed to be" So we also get comments and looks. Just different ones.
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RE: Social issues - 7/8/2006 4:28:09 PM

MistressTheaZ

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Indeed, societal conditioning addressing the gender roles typical of male and female dictate this type of response, and it's not at all uncommon. Like others have suggested, simple ignore and carry on; what works for you is what works for you! It is interesting to see the variations in manners and behavior as one travels about the world. When I used to travel more frequently overseas, I had a wedding set I'd wear as not to be bothered for being a female traveling alone, for example.

As respects D/s, others can't always readily tell there is a dynamic at work in public. I dislike a boy falling all over Me and prefer a more neutral and equal representation in public, (manners always apply, regardless of BDSM!). I'm sure there were times - like when I took the check or ordered for Us - that it garnered some responses or quizzical looks, but having a manner that can freeze you in December when annoyed, it was little matter to Me. Should anyone say anything to or about My companion, however....My response would likely be quick and to the point, and the situation would be resolved. <eg>

Nowadays, one probably couldn't tell anything particular is going on when I've been out and about with My current playmate. I enjoy holding his arm walking about, for example, and his style of manners and consideration for Me, but it likely doesn't appear out of the ordinary in the least. Then again, he's not a submissive. *laughs*

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~Thea

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RE: Social issues - 7/11/2006 5:24:17 PM

yumyi

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Did you ever have a friend buy a brand new ____(whatever brand, model) of car?

All of a sudden, you see them all over the place. You're constantly seeing them, and you never saw any on the road before.

You get a new jacket... and all of a sudden, you're seeing EVERYONE wearing the same style. You thought it was really unique and now everyone from your boss to the kid who delivers your paper is wearing the same thing...

Sometimes we see things because we're looking for them.

There's nothing saying that you HAVE to fight your conditioning either. Maybe it's a matter of finding a good match instead. Think of a formal butler. Does he not provide exceptional service? Does he not make his employer's life more managable, more enjoyable? Is he not an invaluable member of the household? Yep........ But he also controls the household budget, trains new staff, manages the property, plans the parties, manages the menus, and represents his household every time he goes out in public...... His abilities do not take away from his service, they enhance them.

When I've gone out with my Top or bottoms who I've had... sometimes I order for them. Sometimes they order for me. Sometimes we both order for ourselves. Sometimes I order first, sometimes they do. (I'm notoriously bad at making up my mind in resturaunts.) I dont notice odd reactions.... because I'm not looking for them.

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