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I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that com... - 2/10/2014 6:23:21 AM   
PutMeAnywhere


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Status: offline 		I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that common with Mistresses, but, since I've only done what I enjoy a few times, I feel I must ask for Your advice.

My evil perversion is that I love to please a womane at the Y, at her pleasure, on her schedule, while she nonchalantly goes about her business.

To be honest, she doesn't have to be a Domme, although that adds an element of interest. She just needs to want a good pussy licking, and that's it.

What I get out of the deal is the delicious squirming wetness and the erotically focused pleasing, which has both the sensual aspect and the obedient service aspects.

But, I've approached a few Dommes here (too many, I fear, as I was locked out of email, I don't know for how long), and none even replied. (I don't blame them - I just ask why.)

What is wrong with my approach, bearing in mind it IS what I wish - and not necessarily what a Domme wishes for me.
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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 6:36:03 AM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Status: offline 		That's a vanilla activity you could get ANYWHERE, any dating site, any bar. Most men nowadays are into it, so enjoying it doesn't make you special. It certainly doesn't make you kinky, or even a submissive.

What makes you think a Dominant woman would want to just magically spread Her legs and GRANT you (a stranger) such personal access to Her private parts, especially in the light that a male (and a submissive male at that) should have to jump through hoops and prove himself WORTHY of being allowed such personal intimacy?




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ORIGINAL: PutMeAnywhere

I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that common with Mistresses, but, since I've only done what I enjoy a few times, I feel I must ask for Your advice.

My evil perversion is that I love to please a womane at the Y, at her pleasure, on her schedule, while she nonchalantly goes about her business.

To be honest, she doesn't have to be a Domme, although that adds an element of interest. She just needs to want a good pussy licking, and that's it.

What I get out of the deal is the delicious squirming wetness and the erotically focused pleasing, which has both the sensual aspect and the obedient service aspects.

But, I've approached a few Dommes here (too many, I fear, as I was locked out of email, I don't know for how long), and none even replied. (I don't blame them - I just ask why.)

What is wrong with my approach, bearing in mind it IS what I wish - and not necessarily what a Domme wishes for me.


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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 6:50:49 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		Actually it is pretty common to hear everything you just said. Every other little wanna be subbie starts with...."let me please you, get you off, you don't have to worry about me, I don't have to get anything out of it" Really we all know you do infact get something out of it so take some advice and stop trying to sound like you are being kind or submissive or subservient. You like to lick pussy...GREAT...don't start a conversation with that fact and expect a woman to be overjoyed that you msged her.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 7:06:59 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I absolutely hate when a man decides how he wants it and then expects a woman to want it and provide it. It is like their kink is a pussy... just a pussy... all the woman needs is her pussy licked, by the self purported experts at it. They all know just how to do it and can do it for hours, most of them and wow.. they just don't get why we don't take them up on it. They could be 99 years old and still not get why we don't respond.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 7:16:22 AM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Pfft. And here I thought someone was going to talk about a fetish for dressing up in Steampunk gear and LARPing with modded Nerf guns or something. Guys who want to eat pussy are a penny a dozen. Maybe less.

Booooorrrrrriiiiiiinnnnnnggggg. Call me when you have something interesting to offer.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 7:36:06 AM   
kalikshama


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But, I've approached a few Dommes here (too many, I fear, as I was locked out of email, I don't know for how long), and none even replied. (I don't blame them - I just ask why.)


So, you triggered the spam filter. Why did none reply? Because they saw your message as spam.

Try this approach: For men: how to find a woman here

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 7:46:41 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the discussion side Put. Yours is one of the most common fetishes around, I'm not sure why you'd think otherwise.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 7:54:03 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Is it even a fetish, lol?

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 8:05:04 AM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Pfft. And here I thought someone was going to talk about a fetish for dressing up in Steampunk gear and LARPing with modded Nerf guns or something. Guys who want to eat pussy are a penny a dozen. Maybe less.

Booooorrrrrriiiiiiinnnnnnggggg. Call me when you have something interesting to offer.


Yeah, I thought it was something really interesting too, I was more hoping for scrotal inflation, nailing a scrotum to a board and all those yummy things, but all he offers us is something we get at home anyway and can find in every bar...

The idea of an indiscriminate stranger who goes around licking as many pussies as he can near my bits grosses me out more than a bit. I guess there's something wrong with me, the idea of where that tongue might have been doesn't get me wet, it makes me clench.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 10:29:33 AM   
PeonForHer


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quote:

scrotal inflation


Our bloody economy, eh? How much did a woman have to pay to cop a feel of a man's scrotum this time last year?

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 10:51:40 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

That's a vanilla activity you could get ANYWHERE, any dating site, any bar. Most men nowadays are into it, so enjoying it doesn't make you special. It certainly doesn't make you kinky, or even a submissive.

What makes you think a Dominant woman would want to just magically spread Her legs and GRANT you (a stranger) such personal access to Her private parts, especially in the light that a male (and a submissive male at that) should have to jump through hoops and prove himself WORTHY of being allowed such personal intimacy?




I disagree with the bolded part. I don't expect any guy, sub, dom or vanilla, to jump through hoops to prove himself worthy of me. Equally I have no patience for someone who expects me to perform to win their approval. I expect him just to be himself, and if there's mutual interest and we seem compatible, that's enough.

Anyway, OP. Without seeing your message, I imagine they didn't reply because they felt like you were just looking for any old vagina to play with. Women like to be wanted for who they are, not because they're part of the 50% of the population equipped with a vulva.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 10:52:56 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		Oh, I guess I have to demonstrate it...

Have I mentioned that Alfie almost got a harem and the cats now decided he's their fave doggie. Girlie feels so left out...

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:00:42 AM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		I suspect that you and the OP of this post http://www.collarchat.com/m_4623240/tm.htm wear the same socks.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:16:13 AM   
PutMeAnywhere


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Is it even a fetish, lol?



Oh my! I had not realized how vanilla this activity was. I thought it was a fetish to want to just lick and leave. I kneel corrected.

Good point about "granting" me access to her private parts. I must rethink that. I'm coming in from a guy's perspective, I guess - which is that I'd be in heavenly bliss if a woman wanted to knock on my door, blow me, and leave.

So, I must rethink this, but from a perspective that I don't have. That makes it difficult, but that's why I had asked in the first place.

I didn't realize this was a common run of the mill penny a dozen desire. That shows you how much I need to learn to be an active participant in this eclectic community.

It's odd the comment that a woman doesn't need her pussy licked because a guy could always have his dick licked, so, again, I need to think differently if I'm going to be in this fetish community, adding any value.

As for the spam filter, that was my fault.
I'm going to have to rethink this all through.

The hardest part will be what every guy wants isn't what every gal wants, so, that's the part I'm going to have to rethink. Especially if she's calling the shots (that's OK). If she's calling the shots, then, I don't know WHAT to do next. Since it's not up to me, is it?

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:26:13 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		There is a really really simple way to figure it out:

Try to imagine how you'd feel if a random stranger would like to insert HIS tongue into your various orifices or suck you off? If you don't care, that's fine, you're a minority who lacks every bit of homophobia. If you're straight and you go a bit "ICK", then that's pretty much how most women will feel about it. Most women here don't particularly like being seen as a fetish delivery system, even less are interested in being a life support system for a vagina.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:28:05 AM   
MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: PutMeAnywhere

The hardest part will be what every guy wants isn't what every gal wants, so, that's the part I'm going to have to rethink.


I also suspect you've already known this for a long time.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:31:32 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I know this is going to sound snarky, even though it's not My intent to be......

OP, if I got a random email from some dude who wanted to tell Me, a complete stranger, about how he wanted to lick Me, I'd report you as spam, too. Call Me a prude if you'd like but I'm only interested in intimate acts with those people who I am actually intimate with. (I'd probably make an exception for peon.) That includes random emails about it attempting to discuss the matter. That's no better manners than somebody walking up to Me on the street, out of the blue, to proposition Me about it. So, unless someone is the kind of classless buffoon who would walk up to a woman in public, whom he has never met before, and blurt out what he wants to do between a woman's legs, it's probably not something a person should do on the net, either.

Getting a male to perform oral sex isn't particularly a challenge. I have to admit that I don't know why males think it's such a great thing when they offer to do so.


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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:47:22 AM   
MsMJAY


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Status: offline 		I don't know why men think this is just the most phenomenal and kinkiest thing they can do for a woman. It doesn't even interest me. It is not a kink. If it did interest me, oral sex is something I would do it with vanilla partners. I have submissive men who drink my piss; let me beat them black and blue, and light fire on their skin. So oral service is just not exciting to me. That is something I might allow as a reward for a submissive if he serves me well in other ways and begs me for the opportunity. But its not something I allow too often. To be honest - I can take it or leave it.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 11:51:26 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: PutMeAnywhere
I'm coming in from a guy's perspective, I guess - which is that I'd be in heavenly bliss if a woman wanted to knock on my door, blow me, and leave.

Whoa. I'm male, and if a woman I barely knew wanted to show up, blow me, and leave, I'd say, "No way."

You sound like a man with nothing left to lose. I have plenty to lose, including my health, and my material possessions. Let's just focus on health for a moment.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_sex#Health_risks_and_other_studies

If you think the statistics in that link don't affect you, then you are either (1) already infected, (2) not very bright, or (3) so horny that you have gone insane.

Now, all that said, the lady I am seeing now is someone I ate out to orgasm the same day I met her for the first time. But we actually know something about each other, and we like each other, which includes having compatible sexual ethics. Also (and I've made this point before on the boards, but I never know if it makes sense to other people) part of the reason she found me attractive was that she had to prove something to me. It wasn't just me chasing her. I made sure she knew I was interested, but I'm not desperate, and I'm not willing to spend naked time with just anybody. She needed to make the cut. This is a very important point. If a man is willing to walk away from "free pussy," the woman knows that his interest in her is more than just sexual; there's something that is special about her that interests him too. And then (ironically perhaps) she's more likely to put out.

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RE: I suspect my particular predilection isn't all that... - 2/10/2014 12:20:30 PM   
wannapleez


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders (emphasis mine)

Anyway, OP. Without seeing your message, I imagine they didn't reply because they felt like you were just looking for any old vagina to play with. Women like to be wanted for who they are, not because they're part of the 50% of the population equipped with a vulva.


Thank you, thank you, thank you. After 50 Dommes come on here and tell him what exactly he said (in a note they never saw), you have the intellectual integrity to simply comment on what you know. Refreshing change. Though frankly, I'm surprised the other Dommes don't take you behind the cafeteria and beat you up.

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