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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Nukldo
I would never in a million years act I out my thoughts with a stranger and I am not brand new to this lifestyle, and it is not effecting my lifestyle in any way. That is why I originally asked the question. I did did not have this "frenzy" as someone else put it when I was first introduced. This is something that has happened, only for a couple days, since I starting getting back into the lifestyle. Maybe I do just need to get laid, but that is not my style.

Sorry, but I'm going with the frenzy theory, too. Just because you didn't have it when you first started out doesn't mean a person can't have it when they are first coming back. You say you've 'been back' for just a few days, but what does being back mean to you, really? It would be tough for Me to imagine that you've 'been back' long enough to actually slate your sadistic thirst. Just because your desire to do so was on the back burner or even temporarily forgotten doesn't mean that's not going to come back with a vengeance when you rekindle it. I'll tell you what. If you've been "back" for three days, like your profile creation date shows, and you've actually engaged in some physical BDSM in that time, I'm going to give you props. You work faster than Me and that's saying something.

In My mind, frenzy (either D or s) is linked to obsession, compulsion, or both. It may not be happening during your work, but if your head is always drifting to it in your off time, at minimum, that is a form of obsession. That's why we get so many folks that come across this website who say it's all they think about, or how bad they neeeeeeeeeed some kink, or when in frenzy, some folks don't make particularly smart choices because they are more focused on the obsession than their own safety. (Since you're new here, you'll just have to take My word on how frequently it happens.)

I am going to suggest that you channel your energy. Maybe not so much by going to the gym or whatever, but direct it in a positive way that will also help the obsession. You say you're back. What does being back mean to you? Does it mean you have a goal of actually participating in some BDSM in a physical sense? Does it mean getting in touch with your local community to try to meet somebody? Does it mean trying to meet someone privately to actually engage in your desires? Does it mean learning more until the opportunity to DO (very important word there) some of the activities that seem to be crossing you mind so much? I'm not suggesting going overboard. I'm suggesting you do (there's that word again - verb, action word) something to help you adjust so that obsession/frenzy doesn't have a hold on you. It doesn't mean you have to beat the next person you see. It means you do whatever works for you to stop your mind from always going with the trend that you're doing now.

I can't say that what I see in this thread as a healthy addiction. It's not terrible but I don't see it as great, either.

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
I'm going to disagree with LadyPact here since I personally have dealt with very similar things. One memory I recall now years ago is a friend of mine showing me his pictures from Puerto Rico. (Embarassing story to tell.) He leaned over me to click the mouse while I was sitting in his office chair and before I knew it, my eyes were closed, I was leaned into him, SNIFFING HIM!!!
I opened my eyes to realize what I was doing and was mortified. It happens, call it frenzy or whatever, having a HIGH sex drive and practicing restraint means finding a ROUTINE which diverts you from those thoughts and a way to channel that excessive energy.
Since channeling that energy in the gym and legpressing as much as 450 lbs, not only was it a POSITIVE CHANGE for my body, but for my mind as well and I didn't have to give up my self induced chastity or revert back to a porn addiction I also had for a few months preceeding.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

If you'd bothered to do anything as radical as actually reading the links I posted, you'd already know the answer to this. Don't be lazy; go educate yourself.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Oh holey moley, touching is way different. As is "following" someone around to get a better look.

Not for the purposes of your question, it isn't. You said:

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Can you honestly say that you've never seen someone and wondered what it would feel like if he slipped his cock into you?

If I have such an extreme dislike of being touched by people I don't know, why would you think I would fantasize about about being touched by someone I don't know? Surely you're not that obtuse.

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The OP gave the impression he was unable or unwilling to uphold the three-second rule and that his intrusive thoughts have become a problem. This tells me he needs to recognize that what he is doing has crossed a boundary from the occasional and perfectly normal unbidden thought popping into his head, which is dismissed moments later, and into territory where he needs to train himself to be more mindful of how those thoughts dehumanize women and why that's wrong.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Hey,

So this is a genuine question...

Can you honestly say that you've never seen someone and wondered what it would feel like if he slipped his cock into you?

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
Uhm, self induced chastity can do that. I face similar problems. You best bet is to find some sort of healthy outlet like the gym. You need coping skills for an unusually high sex drive. Sorry bub! :)

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ORIGINAL: MsMJAY

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Hey,

So this is a genuine question...

Can you honestly say that you've never seen someone and wondered what it would feel like if he slipped his cock into you?

Never. Not even once - have I wondered that about a stranger.
Is this why strange men on CM keep sending women cock pics? You guys honestly believe that we are thinking that?

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ORIGINAL: MsMJAY



Can you honestly say that you've never seen someone and wondered what it would feel like if he slipped his cock into you?

Never. Not even once - have I wondered that about a stranger.

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Hey,

So this is a genuine question...

Can you honestly say that you've never seen someone and wondered what it would feel like if he slipped his cock into you?

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

The essence of my question related to whether people fantasise about strangers. I would also point out that many many people don't actually like being touched by strangers, but will fantasize about strangers nonetheless.

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Now, I'm tempted to accuse you of being obtuse. Look at what I wrote. I said there is a world of difference between my private thoughts, and imposing them on a non consenting other person.

Overt Staring, ogling, leering are all imposing them on a non consenting other person.

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And there I was, mocking DaddySatyr for his reference to the thought police...

Nope, you don't get to dictate what I think, thank-you very much.

You get to intervene in my thoughts the moment I impose them on another person, not a second sooner.

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ORIGINAL: crazyml


I am pretty sure that physical attraction affects both sexes -although I am happy to assume that the ladies tend to be more cerebral. But, I can only do that with conviction if I forget the drooling that took place over that buff bastard Peon's awesome six pack.