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Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 7:42:57 AM

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Let me first say this is just a question. How many of you have been proposed to or asked to move in after only meeting three times?

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 7:45:52 AM

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If I were to be, I'd run quickly in the other direction. Of course I am not someone desirous of cohabitation.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 7:48:46 AM

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Three times? It was only the second date!

Nice guy, bit clingy, not particularly dominant (by my particular definitions and needs). Told me he loved me on our second date...then said he'd got a job 200 miles away which was fine, because he was going to do a week-day flat-share and stay with me every weekend.

Errrmmm...cue the bunny running in the opposite direction!

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 7:57:05 AM

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So how long did it take for you to run the other way?

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:08:50 AM

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My OH and I spent a few months chatting online.
Not just a few hours, but literally days on end with barely a break.

One day, after I said that I think we might be a good match, she just said to meet her at xyz station at 2pm as she was coming down.
I went and met her. Took her back to my place.
Apart from 2 days last summer when she went to a bike rally (not my thing), we have been together now for over 6 years and never been apart from each other for more than an hour.
Never met before then. Never even spoke to each other except online by typing.
Exchanged just one (normal) pic of each other about a month before she came down; so until then, we didn't even know what each other looked like.

So I don't think it's impossible to find your "one" if you have been open and honest with each other before then.

And no, never a thought has crossed our minds to run the other way.
The key is excellent and honest/open communication.

ETA: we got married a year later when her divorce came through!
Hapilly maried for just over 5 years now

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:20:56 AM

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So how long did it take for you to run the other way?

about 30 seconds after the declaration of love, if I remember correctly

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:21:47 AM

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I had only met my now-husband twice before he moved to another country to marry me.

In fairness though, both of those meetings were a week long and we had talked online for years, and it was still a huge gamble. So probably not what you are looking for.

If a guy asked me on a third regular date, I'd take it as a bad sign.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:25:16 AM

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quote:

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So how long did it take for you to run the other way?

about 30 seconds after the declaration of love, if I remember correctly

Sounds pretty unrequited to me.

I actually had this happen. Not the declaration of love, but a sub that needed a place to live. We did a lot of talking, and after a few weeks I offered that if she relocated here, I'd reimburse her for the costs. Didn't work out, but we stay friends.

That was before I became active in the local community. Now I know enough sub women that there'd be no need to relocate one to me should I be looking.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:28:27 AM

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I met mine on the wednesday night, and moved in with him on the thursday night
We will be celebrating 29 years together in april.
However, its not something anyone sane would recommend:)

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:29:30 AM

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I'm speaking of not talking months before meeting but by the third meeting you are being asked to move in or being proposed to. Of course meeting the "one" can happen but how do you weed out the banana cream pies from the "one"

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:44:30 AM

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I'd chatted with this guy online for about 2 weeks and the day before we'd met for coffee (first 'date'). Next day we met for a drink and a bar meal, but he clearly saw my agreeing to meet again as a declaration of undying love

It took nearly 18 months of being with Master before I dropped the 'L' bomb, and it was over 2 years that we decided to move in together.

I tend not to be impulsive

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:49:23 AM

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Congratulation, 29 years is something to celebrate

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 8:55:32 AM

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I'm speaking of not talking months before meeting but by the third meeting you are being asked to move in or being proposed to. Of course meeting the "one" can happen but how do you weed out the banana cream pies from the "one"

That's a good question. When I first met Himself, he was living in Alaska and I was still in Chgo living with my second husband. He and I had decided to split so I was there only to close up my business and for my daughter to get out of school for the summer. So I was just playing around online, and not looking for anything serious in the least.

Then I met Himself and within a few weeks we both said, 'this seems to be getting serious' -- and we had to deal with that, since he was 3,000 miles away, I was going through a nasty divorce, etc.

We move knew pretty much at the same time that what we had was very special.

In the end he decided to move down to me (I was living in NC by then) and we'd date and see how it went. Fifteen years later and we're married so I can say it went well.

I think you both know it when it happens, and it's so special that things like ex husbands and 3,000 miles away don't deter you.

I doubt I've been much help . .

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:02:35 AM

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You know something funny? The anecdotes here break into two types:

1. We both knew it was a match.
2. He professed undying love before we really had any clue about each other.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:07:40 AM

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So it was the gut feeling of this is so right, or was it oh what the hell you only live once?

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:15:50 AM

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My ex husband proposed to me at a Disneyland restaurant on our first real date. Prior to that we had been talking hour upon hour for a week while he was staying in our home visiting my brother. I was a teen, he was 21, and it was a very public proposal. I accepted, mostly due to surprise.
If I had the life skills I would have seen he really only wanted to stay in CA. If I had been more secure in myself I would never have accepted. But, I was a kid. I would think by adulthood anyone would have the patience to see what kind of person they were considering. I know for me it gave me an over developed sense to "RUN".

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I'm speaking of not talking months before meeting but by the third meeting you are being asked to move in or being proposed to. Of course meeting the "one" can happen but how do you weed out the banana cream pies from the "one"

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:27:30 AM

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I'm reminded of a sub that showed up to a second meeting with five suitcases.

Some mistake NRE for a lifelong commitment.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:36:30 AM

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not all have that ability, even by adulthood.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:39:38 AM

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I'm speaking of not talking months before meeting but by the third meeting you are being asked to move in or being proposed to. Of course meeting the "one" can happen but how do you weed out the banana cream pies from the "one"

Yes, this has happened. No, it didn't work out. Nor did I expect it to. In fact, I knew it was doomed the moment he made this proclamation ridiculously early in our getting-to-know-each-other stage.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:47:06 AM

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Yes, twice. (vanilla relationships) The first I declined and it ended the dating. The second, I said "Let's wait. If it's meant to be, the wait won't harm it." The relationship lasted under a year.

Although, there is a running joke among my friends because my proposal rate is ridiculous. I've been proposed to 9 times.

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