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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:50:40 AM

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wow, 9 times they see something extra special in you

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 9:54:34 AM

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So it was the gut feeling of this is so right, or was it oh what the hell you only live once?

yes:) lol
At the time, I was reckless and impulsive, living for the moment, enjoying lifes shit and arrows.
at the time of meeting him I thought what the hell...I knew his housemate very well, he introduced us.
The next day, we both knew..we have lived together since that evening.
I dont regret that impulse one little bit.
Other ones
OH yeah:)

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:02:24 AM

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For me it was the gut feeling. I was 44 at the time, I'd already done plenty enough spontaneous living, not always with great results.

So we were sure it was something we should try. Neither of us were sure it would work out (how can you be so early on?) We've had our ups and down and even broke up for a few years. Now we're sure no matter what happens in life, we will 1) always be best friends and 2) always have each other in our lives.

And he will always be my favorite husband (he's number 3).

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:06:26 AM

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i would be very surprised by someone asking me to marry them on a third date. I'd have to ask them what on earth they were thinking......before i ran away.

i can understand it with people that have been in contact for sometime before meeting, and there is already a connection, but even that can be misleading.

my ex and i lived together very soon after we started seeing each other. it wasn't the intention for it to be permanent, but we got on rather well so we stayed like that. in hind sight though, i don't think we'd have stayed together as long as we did if we hadn't had our son. i don't think I'd have put up with his crap for so long.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:10:52 AM

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wow, 9 times they see something extra special in you

Actually, I think it has to do more with them than me. The majority of the proposals were about something other than me: Two were within a few dates, two were ex-boyfriends after we stopped dating and one was because he wanted the tie to my family to get him into places he couldn't get.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:13:10 AM

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So Ladies how difficult do you think your decisions would of been if you'd had a small child at home?

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:17:15 AM

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Ha, yes. I even get proposed to by married men, they insist if I convert to Islam it would make it perfectly OK (go figure).
I have no timeline on moving in or committing. Kaley Cuoco's first date never ended and she just got hitched.
You want to know you're both moving at the same pace whether fast or slow.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:20:35 AM

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So Ladies how difficult do you think your decisions would of been if you'd had a small child at home?

You'll get more useful responses if you stop doling out information in drips and drabs and just lay out the full story.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:32:10 AM

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wow, 9 times they see something extra special in you

Actually, I think it has to do more with them than me. The majority of the proposals were about something other than me: Two were within a few dates, two were ex-boyfriends after we stopped dating and one was because he wanted the tie to my family to get him into places he couldn't get.

I was always a bit of commitment phobe, oddly enough that seemed to inspire guys to propose, hasn't happened for a few years now (living together with a steady partner is a good detractor) but in my teens and twenties it happened quite regularly, got actually engaged twice and then came to my senses and a few "WTF? I barely know you" situations where I started to break speed records.

I think a woman who doesn't want to get hitched must send out some weird signal and guys then just think they have to be the one to catch her, makes them more manly or something?

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:38:59 AM

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The two ex-boyfriends...if they had proposed when we had been dating, I would have said yes. And looking back, I realize that in either case it would have been a disaster. I think in both cases it was about control. They were both surprised when I finally ended the relationships and didn't look back. ( I remained friends with both of them)

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:44:24 AM

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I'm speaking of not talking months before meeting but by the third meeting you are being asked to move in or being proposed to. Of course meeting the "one" can happen but how do you weed out the banana cream pies from the "one"

Why are you asking us?

How do YOU feel about the guy!

Personally, I think they sound desperate, delusional or crazy. Why the rush!

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 10:45:09 AM

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Me and my wife started talking about being permanently together on our first date (which was in a hotel room), but that's a high risk/low reward strategy on average.

The fact that you're snarking about him on the net means he's (at least for you) a dud, not a dreamboat -to put it in Mystery Date game terms.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 11:11:07 AM

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if i had been single with my son at any time, and a guy asked me to marry him after three dates, I'd be wondering even more about his motives. I'd also be questioning my own sanity that I'd let a virtual stranger near my son so quickly. that's just me though.

I'm with others though; why don't you tell us the full story so we can give you the right answer the first time instead of swapping, and changing. it gets really annoying after a couple of goes. my son used to do this when he was a kid. he now knows that if he wants his question answered he's best off cutting the chase before i get bored, and say no.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 11:17:11 AM

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This is a question this in no way applies to me.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 11:19:53 AM

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Was throwing a question out there like to get folks thoughts on things. I am very upfront if it applied to me id give full details.

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 2:18:47 PM

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I met my late dom at barnes and noble (bookstore) on day one , met him at his house two days later and basically never left. I'd still be there if it weren't for the fact that he died.

I'd probably be living with my sweetie right now, but I have to get my adult daughter situated so I can sell my house. And we have to get rid of his adult son. What is it with the kids of today? They hang around like bad smells!

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 2:24:27 PM

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Let me first say this is just a question. How many of you have been proposed to or asked to move in after only meeting three times?

It took that long?
Sigh-usually that happens to most guys once the slut sees the massive Johnson.
All Twue Doms know that makes wimmins lose all their sensibilities/ethics/morales and common sense

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 2:25:48 PM

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Ehh - it was the twue domliness that made me loose my composure and move in right away.....

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 3:06:25 PM

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I met mine on the wednesday night, and moved in with him on the thursday night
We will be celebrating 29 years together in april.
However, its not something anyone sane would recommend:)

WOW.....congratulations!

I know a Master and slave who have been together for 16 years. (If I remember correctły...) They met on one of the Yahoo groups on a Sunday, met for a drink that Tuesday, then she spent that weekend with him. He gave her that Monday to "think" and then Tuesday asked her if she wanted to move on and be his slave. She moved in that Saturday. So from. "Hi" to "Master" in 2 weeks. They've been together for over 16 years.

But he is one of those who believed that a Master doesn't need to love a slave...,,and he also believes, basically, that if his slave will obey him unquestionably .....how well do they really need to know each other before the relationship starts?

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RE: Proposal Or asked to move in by 3rd meeting - 2/17/2014 3:52:17 PM

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This is a question this in no way applies to me.

Alrighty then, in that case, tell your friend with the small child that the posters on the kink site said she'd be nuts to consider a proposal from someone she'd only met three times.

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