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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/7/2006 3:12:12 PM   
anthrosub


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Status: offline 		I just have to reply to this post.  Feminization has been tried on me a couple times.  It never worked and to this day I cannot grasp how it can turn anyone on (though obviously it does).  My experience can be summed up in one word...absurd.  When I was dressed up, I just stood there feeling totally flat-lined as far as feelings were concerned.  Each time I see a picture of a man dressed as a woman, I feel perplexed as in "what's wrong with this picture?"  The only time this doesn't happen is if the person is a professional female impersonator and can hardly be seen as a male if at all.
 
But as has already been said, "To each their own."
 
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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/8/2006 11:49:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		For Me personally...I like to humiliate submissives at times,so I make them put on granny panties,bras,thigh highs,shoes,a dress.I make sure clothing is tight and say "See what We Women go through..." sort of bitch at them like its their fault,LOL
Watch them try to vacuum in high heels...OMG what a riot.Of course I dont make it easy...usually there is something hanging from the balls or penis,something long like rope or a leash that can get sucked up the vac,or the cats can chase.Just gotta love it.

Some submissives like it so I dress them up when they are here.



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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/8/2006 12:39:03 PM   
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Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s clothes?  Do some women not care at all about this?  What drives its appeal?
I don't much enjoy feminized men.    Occasionally, I do enjoy making a manly man a little uncomfortable by making him wear something feminine...  More frequently though I enjoy making him wear something (while playing or even everyday) that puts him in mindframe of eventually being my male wife (not necessarily state sanctioned, just the long term role).   M

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 5:01:42 AM   
iwearpanties


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Status: offline 		hello all ive been reading these post for the few days its been growing here . i will admitt i wear panties and have been tooMistresses for domination and the ones ive been all at some poitn have and doo use crossdressing or wearing womans clothes mostly panties n bras and garters n stockings as forms of punishments and or makeing him know his place among them or even exposeing them infornt of others weather male or female i know ill  get bashed for that comment . but if its what both parties agree too or if the sub seeks to have total control takeing away wanst to feel this humiliation ..

as a very masculine male  can tell you the wearinf of soft things panties espically dose help relax and take the many stresses away form daily life after all isnt that what we all want an escaspe for the daily grind

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 6:55:38 AM   
planomaid


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Status: offline 		This is an interesting topic, and it would seem that the answer is "it depends on the dynamics between the mistress and submissive".  That's a totally understandable and reasonable answer.

A corollary to this question is why is it humiliating (for men) to wear women's clothing?  There is the obvious societal answer which would appear to be "because its women's clothing, and society says that men in women's clothing are wimps, sissies and fags".  But that's a knee-jerk, close-minded answer (both are my opinion, not taken from Miss Manners Guide to Gender and Equality(R).

Being a closet dresser myself, I understand things from the male side.  Society says that women can dress in pants, skirts, dresses, lingerie, heels, wear makeup, do wonderful (and odd!) things with their hair, and adorn their bodies with jewelery and scents.  Heck, a woman can wear a dress made of duct tape and its fashionable!  Men can wear... pants.  We can cut our hair (usually short), wear white shirts (sometimes adding in dull colors or stripes), oh and we get to have beards and mustaches!  yippee?  :) 

The last time I checked, men gave up being frilly sometime around the French Revolution.  Then the clothing trend started to turn to more staid, "masculine" and practical clothes.  At the time men wore silks and satins, leather and lace (sorry, couldn't resist channeling Steve Miller there).  We embraced the sensual aspect of clothing, just as women have over the centuries.  Now we (i.e. men) don't, but women still do (aren't they smart!). 

Clothing is such an odd beast.  A beautiful corset on one woman makes her feel uber powerful, sexy and reinforces her dominant feelings and desires.  On the flip side, you have another woman who if you laced into the same corset, she would feel vulnerable, exposed and it would reinforce her submissiveness.  I think men go through the same thing with their clothing, but it doesn't seem to be as pronounced of an effect as it is with women.  Now, when you start mixing the genders and clothing, things get even more interesting because you have added in the underlying societal constructs of how men and women are expected to be.  Personally I don't find it humiliating to be dressed as a woman.  I don't seek out public attention, but in the privacy of my home or with a woman, I find it, well, sort of a compliment.  Of course, I thoroughly enjoy female companionship and being around femininity, so my opinions may be a bit biased on that part!

Just my $.02 worth!  :)

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 9:45:16 AM   
MrrPete


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Status: offline 		I just finished reading this entire thread and first I want to thank Michael for those great
visuals.

I have to admit I like the FEEL of women's panties but they are too constricting for me and,
no, I don't wear    briefs.

However, I feel most masculine when I wear my kilt and I've worn it in Scotland in Feb
and was surprised how warm it was for summer weight wool. I've worked a clan tent in
100+ heat and was very comfortable.

Real Men Wear Kilts!

Whether it's boxers or briefs
or nuttin atall
take your pick lassie
we aim to please all

I have a pic in my profile in full highland dress.


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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 11:11:55 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: planomaid

This is an interesting topic, and it would seem that the answer is "it depends on the dynamics between the mistress and submissive".  That's a totally understandable and reasonable answer.

A corollary to this question is why is it humiliating (for men) to wear women's clothing?  There is the obvious societal answer which would appear to be "because its women's clothing, and society says that men in women's clothing are wimps, sissies and fags".  But that's a knee-jerk, close-minded answer (both are my opinion, not taken from Miss Manners Guide to Gender and Equality(R).




I posted that I use it to humiliate My worms.
That is a good question as to why is it humiliating.Society plays a big part in that.Its kind of hard for it not to when so many years of that way of thinking has gone by.

When I get the "macho type" I will usually,not always, dress them the first time because it does take something away from them,knocks them down a peg or two,I guess you could say.Leaves them feeling vulnerable and very compliant.

The thing I have found interesting is how many of them end up liking it.
A few have actually gone out on their own and bought some panties/nighties/girdles after coming here because they liked it so much.I think its awesome to be able to open someone eyes to new things and have them take away a good feeling over it.
Especially when its something that society has deemed taboo.

Not all men feel humiliated when I dress them, for a few the only time they can do it is here.My house/dungeon is a place to come to that is safe to be who you are.


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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 5:13:26 PM   
sting516


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Status: offline 		While i can't say why Dominant Women do or don't have this interest...for me, the appeal is more that of having my manhood stripped away...it's quite humbling...and i've always found the things that humiliate me the most are the ones i most remember fondly.

Fucked up, huh?

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 6:31:54 PM   
MaleModel


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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

quote:

ORIGINAL: planomaid

This is an interesting topic, and it would seem that the answer is "it depends on the dynamics between the mistress and submissive".  That's a totally understandable and reasonable answer.

A corollary to this question is why is it humiliating (for men) to wear women's clothing?  There is the obvious societal answer which would appear to be "because its women's clothing, and society says that men in women's clothing are wimps, sissies and fags".  But that's a knee-jerk, close-minded answer (both are my opinion, not taken from Miss Manners Guide to Gender and Equality(R).




I posted that I use it to humiliate My worms.
That is a good question as to why is it humiliating.Society plays a big part in that.Its kind of hard for it not to when so many years of that way of thinking has gone by.

When I get the "macho type" I will usually,not always, dress them the first time because it does take something away from them,knocks them down a peg or two,I guess you could say.Leaves them feeling vulnerable and very compliant.

The thing I have found interesting is how many of them end up liking it.
A few have actually gone out on their own and bought some panties/nighties/girdles after coming here because they liked it so much.I think its awesome to be able to open someone eyes to new things and have them take away a good feeling over it.
Especially when its something that society has deemed taboo.

Not all men feel humiliated when I dress them, for a few the only time they can do it is here.My house/dungeon is a place to come to that is safe to be who you are.



This thread has brought out a wide range of views and reactions.  A lot of men ARE humiliated by wearing feminine things, and so the Domina can use that as she wishes.  For me, I felt odd at first but then totally at ease and began to like it more and more, finding it erotic (especially the fishnets and spikes).  It did take me a while to get the hang of walking in spikes, but now it's much easier........vacuuming would be a challenge, lol
 
But in the end, we do it because it pleases our Mistresses, and because they told us to, lol  And both Mistress and sub enjoy when we look as slutty as possible.  I guess the alternative of dressing like a librarian would be absurd.
 
My next challenge will occur if and when Ms. Lauren decides that I should "come out."  I have a hard time imagining that, but hey, who knew I'd be wearing a bra on weekends and frilly panties to work?
 
MM

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 8:49:41 PM   
stockingluvr54


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Status: offline 		on that note...me thinks I might go and slip into something more comfortable if you catch my drift! lmfao.....

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/9/2006 11:07:35 PM   
dominalisa


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If the male looks good or cute dressed up in feminine clothing, then yes I'll like them dressed up and will get turned on. But if they look horrible or ugly like if they have a beard then no that's definitely not a turn on. If they look just like a woman and I can't tell at all that it's a male then I'm not interested since I'm not attracted to submissive women. Do I dress all males up? no. It all depends if I think they will look good or not.

Now to answer your other question "do all men who dress up for their dommes try to look ultra slutty?"....no I think you're generalizing again. Yes there are alot of crossdressers that like to dress slutty but there are also some who like to dress feminine and soft. It all depends on the person. I think that maybe there are SOME crossdressing males out there that have treated women like sluts at one time or been attracted to slutty women and so they try it themselves. Others just like the slutty clothes. I tend to like a wide variety of feminine clothing on certain males... slutty clothing like short skirts if it shows off their cute asses or sexy legs. Or feminine pretty clothes to bring out their softer side or if it looks good on them. Plus for some reason I like seeing lace or pink on male subs/sissies. It just turns me on. I also like costumes on some crossdressers like schoolgirl outfits or cheerleaders. Basically whatever looks good on them. And if we're both having a fun time and enjoying ourselves, then why not? Crossdressing can be fun and the shopping addictive.

Just remember not to generalize. Some women like feminization and some don't. Some crossdressers like slutty clothes and some don't. Stop trying to categorize people and just enjoy life. If you and your Mistress like you dressed up as a "biker bitch" or slut then go with that and do not overanalyze. Just enjoy and count yourself lucky that you and her both enjoy the same things and that you found one another.

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/10/2006 2:21:09 PM   
littlekitty42


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Status: offline 		I had a wonderful boy who I liked to dress up in sleek dresses, high heels and long wigs, and parade the town with.  He was so very convincing, he would get hit on by straight men left and right!  Even my mother thought he was gorgeous in women's clothing.

Why do I like it?  Sometimes I like it because the boy likes it, sometimes I like it because it embarrasses the boy.  Always it's with a boy who looks good in it.  Visual appeal is very important to me.


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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/10/2006 3:35:20 PM   
tasha_tart


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Status: offline 		Some do, some don't...just like anything else.
 
As for why...some can give in-depth answers as to why they like or dislike feminized men...others just have a "gut" feeling about it one way or the other.  Again...just like everything else.
 
Extrapolating one's experiences to cover everyone else is, very often, useless.
 
One could just as easily ask "Why does every post on Cm contain sweeping generalizations?
 
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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/10/2006 10:49:09 PM   
MaleModel


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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

quote:

ORIGINAL: planomaid

This is an interesting topic, and it would seem that the answer is "it depends on the dynamics between the mistress and submissive".  That's a totally understandable and reasonable answer.

A corollary to this question is why is it humiliating (for men) to wear women's clothing?  There is the obvious societal answer which would appear to be "because its women's clothing, and society says that men in women's clothing are wimps, sissies and fags".  But that's a knee-jerk, close-minded answer (both are my opinion, not taken from Miss Manners Guide to Gender and Equality(R).




I posted that I use it to humiliate My worms.
That is a good question as to why is it humiliating.Society plays a big part in that.Its kind of hard for it not to when so many years of that way of thinking has gone by.

When I get the "macho type" I will usually,not always, dress them the first time because it does take something away from them,knocks them down a peg or two,I guess you could say.Leaves them feeling vulnerable and very compliant.

The thing I have found interesting is how many of them end up liking it.
A few have actually gone out on their own and bought some panties/nighties/girdles after coming here because they liked it so much.I think its awesome to be able to open someone eyes to new things and have them take away a good feeling over it.
Especially when its something that society has deemed taboo.

Not all men feel humiliated when I dress them, for a few the only time they can do it is here.My house/dungeon is a place to come to that is safe to be who you are.



There seems to be considerable agreement that some men, perhaps the "macho" types, get taken down a peg and shown their place by dressing them up.  These guys are humiliated because the Domina forces them to wear things the men associate with being a woman.
 
There's a surprising number of women, though, whose subs like dressing up and have gone out on their own (me among them).....dressing up even more, perhaps trying to please their Mistress.  My own watershed will be if she wants me to dress up and go out.
 
Ms. Sassy, do you have a full-length mirror in your dungeon that I could use?
 
MM

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/10/2006 11:55:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		i started wearing women's clothes upon the direction of a Mistress and now, 12 yrs. later, i live 24/7 in the female role and am a very successful business woman. i am lucky to be passable and will never forget how it all began.

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/19/2006 1:55:37 PM   
monsl402


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Status: offline 		Some feminists explain that women's clothes are inherently ridiculous. It is only when men wear them that it becomes obvious. If we were not used to seeing women dress as they do, would they not look ridiculous if they started? Also, women can wear men's clothes but the reverse is a social no-no (except here, of course.)


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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/20/2006 4:33:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hmm... reading this post, it just raises the question if there are any dominant women who do enjoy forcing male subs in feminine clothes?
or is it just a unfulfilled fantasy of the sub males?


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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/20/2006 5:16:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

They have to do something with those old styles they no longer where, what better way than to put them on a guy...lol


Michael you are too freaking funny sometimes!

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/21/2006 8:21:28 AM   
sublace


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Status: offline 		It was more a general comment, it wasn't meant for me since I love wearing lingerie.  I'm sorry for the missunderstanding.

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RE: Why do Dominant women like their boys in women’s ... - 7/21/2006 1:41:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fallensoul
Hmm... reading this post, it just raises the question if there are any dominant women who do enjoy forcing male subs in feminine clothes?
or is it just a unfulfilled fantasy of the sub males?
There are women who enjoy doing this; they just aren't posting in droves, lol.  
I've certainly have read/noticed a lot more men who enjoy it than women who do, but that may be for obvious reasons in that it is a kink subset, certainly not enjoyed by the majority of the vanilla fem population.   M

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