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ORIGINAL: RobMo13

Alright,
Im going to give a quick synopsis of who I am, where I am, what I want and wondering if Im realistic or just looking for greener grass with unreal expectations in life? Should I just accept the hand I dealt myself?

I wonder about many of the profiles I see btw, how many are real people with real lives, real issues, real life experiences and how many are just fakes looking for financial gain and/or self gratification. I couldn't begin to guess.

Short on me. 4th Marriage, short relationship after a long term relationship ended resulted in a marriage in a short time frame. I am controlling, I am dominant in my life 24/7. I am not happy not being in control of my life my surroundings. I want life to run smooth. I do what I enjoy doing and want my wife/relationships to enjoy sharing my life experiences and interests. Ive never completely shut out someone elses interests because I enjoy experiencing new places, activities and adventures. In the beginning (premarriage) she enjoyed my take charge side in and out of the bedroom, bondage, etc.

A couple years later. She hates me always being in control, although I remind her often she enjoys what we do and I dont totally exclude her interests except when it conflicts with mine. She shares none of my eating habits, work ethic different. In my opinion she is lazy, wants to do things the easy way and I have no respect for her. Hell of a marriage. She put on a lot of weight, drinks a bit more then me and wants to accomplish goals of improving self through surgery and not willing to make an effort. To be fair, Im not an easy man. I expect a lot out of a person. Discipline, Integrity, commitment (as far as to ones beliefs, ambitions)
We are very different. I can be hard, I can be an ass but I believe I am fair. Im former military, patriotic, work in pubic service. I can be frugal but not as frugal to my own desires. Our biggest problems started in the beginning from differences in children from previous marriages. My 2 children excelled in school, work hard and have discipline. They know right from wrong and are young adults I am proud of, although not perfect and cause me headaches from time to time. Her 4 (1 is doing well in military from her 1st marriage) next two dropped out high school, 1 has been arrested more than once and the other one pregnant) and the youngest is still a teen, doing well in school but misses a lot of days. Im only hoping to be a big enough influence to get her to at least graduate. Her father still in her life and my role as a step father is limited in what is acceptable by my wife. She doesnt want me disciplining her child nor giving parental instruction.
I, for the life of me cant figure out how we ended up together. Very, very different.

Im trying to be honest and fair in my descriptions of how I see it and not her perception which would be 100% different.

I come home from work most days hoping to find she moved out.

I said I was going to give short description, guess I was wrong.

What I want in a relationship. My wish list if one could have one. A hwp female, nonsmoker, family values, willing to at least help with her own expenses, not looking for a sugar daddy, feminine, submissive, sensual not pain slut, understands that I am the Man, Dominant, Alpha and I have the final say. I am fair and not blind to anothers happiness but I will put my own interests firsts, no criminal past or present, no drugs, social drinker (not to excess), spiritual in beliefs, enjoys healthy living, live sporting events, music, beaches as well as willing to tent camp and bath in a stream, car travelling. Would enjoy a trip to Cades Cove as well as a the Woodshed (public play area). I am very sexual with fetishes and kinks, otherwise why would I be on here.

Im still married only because its my 4th and I dont want to give up. She wont leave probably because its my house and she hasnt been able to manage herself very well.

Am I realistic thinking its time to end it and believe that maybe there really is someone out there for me or is it time to just accept the cards I dealt myself as its the best I can hope for and make the best of it.

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ORIGINAL: RobMo13

Alright,
Im going to give a quick synopsis of who I am, where I am, what I want and wondering if Im realistic or just looking for greener grass with unreal expectations in life? Should I just accept the hand I dealt myself?

I wonder about many of the profiles I see btw, how many are real people with real lives, real issues, real life experiences and how many are just fakes looking for financial gain and/or self gratification. I couldn't begin to guess.

Short on me. 4th Marriage, short relationship after a long term relationship ended resulted in a marriage in a short time frame. I am controlling, I am dominant in my life 24/7. I am not happy not being in control of my life my surroundings. I want life to run smooth. I do what I enjoy doing and want my wife/relationships to enjoy sharing my life experiences and interests. Ive never completely shut out someone elses interests because I enjoy experiencing new places, activities and adventures. In the beginning (premarriage) she enjoyed my take charge side in and out of the bedroom, bondage, etc.

A couple years later. She hates me always being in control, although I remind her often she enjoys what we do and I dont totally exclude her interests except when it conflicts with mine. She shares none of my eating habits, work ethic different. In my opinion she is lazy, wants to do things the easy way and I have no respect for her. Hell of a marriage. She put on a lot of weight, drinks a bit more then me and wants to accomplish goals of improving self through surgery and not willing to make an effort. To be fair, Im not an easy man. I expect a lot out of a person. Discipline, Integrity, commitment (as far as to ones beliefs, ambitions)
We are very different. I can be hard, I can be an ass but I believe I am fair. Im former military, patriotic, work in pubic service. I can be frugal but not as frugal to my own desires. Our biggest problems started in the beginning from differences in children from previous marriages. My 2 children excelled in school, work hard and have discipline. They know right from wrong and are young adults I am proud of, although not perfect and cause me headaches from time to time. Her 4 (1 is doing well in military from her 1st marriage) next two dropped out high school, 1 has been arrested more than once and the other one pregnant) and the youngest is still a teen, doing well in school but misses a lot of days. Im only hoping to be a big enough influence to get her to at least graduate. Her father still in her life and my role as a step father is limited in what is acceptable by my wife. She doesnt want me disciplining her child nor giving parental instruction.
I, for the life of me cant figure out how we ended up together. Very, very different.

Im trying to be honest and fair in my descriptions of how I see it and not her perception which would be 100% different.

I come home from work most days hoping to find she moved out.

I said I was going to give short description, guess I was wrong.

What I want in a relationship. My wish list if one could have one. A hwp female, nonsmoker, family values, willing to at least help with her own expenses, not looking for a sugar daddy, feminine, submissive, sensual not pain slut, understands that I am the Man, Dominant, Alpha and I have the final say. I am fair and not blind to anothers happiness but I will put my own interests firsts, no criminal past or present, no drugs, social drinker (not to excess), spiritual in beliefs, enjoys healthy living, live sporting events, music, beaches as well as willing to tent camp and bath in a stream, car travelling. Would enjoy a trip to Cades Cove as well as a the Woodshed (public play area). I am very sexual with fetishes and kinks, otherwise why would I be on here.

Im still married only because its my 4th and I dont want to give up. She wont leave probably because its my house and she hasnt been able to manage herself very well.

Am I realistic thinking its time to end it and believe that maybe there really is someone out there for me or is it time to just accept the cards I dealt myself as its the best I can hope for and make the best of it.

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi

It's rather moot though

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Serious question about Life

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ORIGINAL: jlf1961

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi

It's rather moot though

Isnt a "moot" that thing that goes around a castle and filled with water and crocogators?

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

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ORIGINAL: jlf1961

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi

It's rather moot though

Isnt a "moot" that thing that goes around a castle and filled with water and crocogators?

no its a lil black bird that dabs his tail...not to be confused with "the old moot"... which is a senile daft ol man.
Says so in my big book o words

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I expect a lot out of a person. Discipline, Integrity, commitment

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ORIGINAL: jlf1961

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

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ORIGINAL: jlf1961

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi

It's rather moot though

Isnt a "moot" that thing that goes around a castle and filled with water and crocogators?

no its a lil black bird that dabs his tail...not to be confused with "the old moot"... which is a senile daft ol man.
Says so in my big book o words

Then what is the ditch around a castle filled with water and crocogators.... and considering the castle bathrooms extended beyond the walls so stuff fell into it, sewage.

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ORIGINAL: kdsub

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I expect a lot out of a person. Discipline, Integrity, commitment

Maybe you need to give the above in return.

Butch

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What I want in a relationship. My wish list if one could have one. A hwp female, nonsmoker, family values, willing to at least help with her own expenses, not looking for a sugar daddy, feminine, submissive, sensual not pain slut, understands that I am the Man, Dominant, Alpha and I have the final say.