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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 2:55:07 PM

kiwisub12

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I was married to a man very like the OP - towards the end of our relationship he was a complete asshole - because he wanted me to kick him out so he could truthfully say that I was the one who ended the marriage.

Dude - have some personal integrity - either commit to the marriage and your wife, or leave! Staying married because you don't want to give up on the idea of marriage, but wishing she would leave is just hypocritical. If you can think this way, you aren't putting effort into improving your marriage.

At the very least, you need to go to councelling because you have issues. For that matter, your wife needs councelling (damn, I know that isn't spelled correctly) because she is married to a man who wishes she would leave. And I doubt she will because if she is like me she hopes that things will get better, and will stick it out.

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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 3:05:32 PM

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I actually missed the "drinking" thing at a first read, but I have to say if my partner would talk to me like that, it would possibly also drive me to drink - though I find it much more likely that he would come home and I might have left, or changed the locks...

So how bad can her drinking be if she does drink a bit more than you do and you stress that you don't drink to excess and only socially?

As for her weight gain, in your journal you mentioned that you lost 12 lbs recently and you're slowly getting back into shape.

Then this stuff about you being the alpha male and what you're looking for (the 50's wife only the one who can support herself and stuff) and you want to be able to boss her around and all you want comes first... Doesn't sound like you have much experience in that:

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Ive enjoyed several experiences as a sub although generally is for a shorter period of time and as more as a sensual sub. But make no mistake about it im all alpha male.

So you basically are looking for wife 5 to experiment a bit at being the dominant partner while still being married to wife 4...

After all the bitching you did about your wife and how horrible she is, you then write in your journal

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I have no intention of leaving her. She loves me and its not her fault I'm the way I am. She did lead me to believe was more on the same as I am. Some playtime as my sub but ended before the honeymoon. I am naturally dominant and vanilla appearance in the real world.

Seriously, and you are worried about the fakes on this site? You want people to meet you but they can't see you before because it all has to be discrete... Then you mention that everybody on here can be a guy and will get off looking at you...

How can I say this politely.... VERY mixed messages is the best I can say, and that is stretching my politeness to the max, trust my my tongue is bleeding, I didn't just bite it, I almost gnawed it off...

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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 4:43:23 PM

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Op you hint in your profile that you are a prior enlisted Marine finding your way back to your warrior caste. My question to you does that journey embody the Marine Corps values of honor, discipline, courage, commitment, leadership, and teamwork?

Edited cause I forgot a value

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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 4:58:22 PM

angelikaJ

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You don't want to give up on the marriage.

Fine, don't give up on the marriage.
But IF you really want to work on the marriage it will probably involve a lot of things that you aren't going to like.

Such as individual counseling.
The only person you can change is you.
You could become someone who is easier to live with.

And if the marriage doesn't work, then you should get counseling because it is quite obvious you have issues in the area of relationships: both in choosing compatible partners and sustaining the relationship.

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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 5:02:59 PM

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If it's not working it's not working. Whether it's your 4th or your 40th, sounds like you would like out. I'm not sure why any of our opinions should sway you one way or the other.

Next time (because I believe there will be a next time), maybe just a long term relationship until you are really sure she is "the one". It's not someone's fault if they are just being who they are, and that is not what you want….

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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 5:58:44 PM

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I make it a policy not to hang out with folks I wish weren't there.

But that's just me.

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RE: Serious question about Life - 3/4/2014 6:08:32 PM

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