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Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 11:09:39 AM

HungBull93

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I have heard something I thought was a great idea last night. A Mistress said "The best thing about cuckolding is that I get to marry my best friend and still get the Alpha males I need". Basically she had married a guy she was best friends with all her life and had friendzoned, on the condition that it was never going to be a sexual relationship. She is free to do what she wants he is not. They live together hang out together, he supports her and her has agreed to raise any children she might have as his own. I think it's a great idea/set-up especially for the guy who has been told " I wish I could marry a guy as nice as you but not you". So what do the mistresses here think about it? I think more people should be doing it.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 11:20:05 AM

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I want sexual intimacy with my husband, so if I didn't see him in a sexual way, I never would have married him. That would still be true if he was awesome in every other respect, and if I could have all the sex I wanted elsewhere. Sex is an important part of my intimate relationships.

Besides, the guys who lament the 'friend zone' don't want to be placed there permanently by having a no-sex marriage. They don't WANT a platonic relationship with her, otherwise just being friends would be fine. They want to be in her pants. Why would they get into an arrangement which guaranteed both that they were never going to get what they want, and that they are never going to be able to move on?

From the woman's point of view, the only problem with the friend zone is the implication that she somehow owes a man sex because he's been nice to her. Having male friends is great. It's not a problem at all. Finding out those male friends are upset about being 'friendzoned' is hurtful, because they're essentially saying that I have no value as a friend, only as a potential sexual partner and our friendship has been a ruse.

So yeh. Great for your friends but not something I can imagine catching on.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 11:23:39 AM

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I suppose you are right, all I was thinking is it is something that should be spread. Some guys are probably desperate enough for that girl to go for it so that it works.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 11:35:59 AM

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I think unless it is the fetish of the guy, it's a recipe for disaster, I can only imagine the resentment and jealousy this would breed...

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 11:36:39 AM

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I honestly think that unless the guy was looking for a chaste/cuckold relationship to begin with, this situation would only breed resentment as he sat at home wondering why she didn't like him in that way. And in that situation, he'd always be around her so he'd be constantly reminded of his pain.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 12:23:36 PM

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quote:

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I have heard something I thought was a great idea last night. A Mistress said "The best thing about cuckolding is that I get to marry my best friend and still get the Alpha males I need". Basically she had married a guy she was best friends with all her life and had friendzoned, on the condition that it was never going to be a sexual relationship. She is free to do what she wants he is not. They live together hang out together, he supports her and her has agreed to raise any children she might have as his own. I think it's a great idea/set-up especially for the guy who has been told " I wish I could marry a guy as nice as you but not you". So what do the mistresses here think about it? I think more people should be doing it.

More people doing it fits your agenda so believe away.

Personally, I know of no fully-formed, well-adjusted men who would tolerate this situation. And that is the only kind of man I'd consider marriage-worthy. So what do I think? Ain't gonna happen.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 12:36:22 PM

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I most strongly suggest you get some life experience before you go handing out advice about how others should build their relationships.

Just a suggestion. Welcome to the discussion side HB.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 12:37:29 PM

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I think the bigger problem is clueless boys that think being a friend is a problem that requires a "solution" of some kind. "Friendzone" is a pathetic term used to justify some kind of butthurt entitlement by boys who can't understand why their friend has no interest in them beyond a platonic level.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 12:40:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

I think the bigger problem is clueless boys that think being a friend is a problem that requires a "solution" of some kind. "Friendzone" is a pathetic term used to justify some kind of butthurt entitlement by boys who can't understand why their friend has no interest in them beyond a platonic level.

I think in this case it's a boy looking to get laid and is trying find people into a particular fetish, so he doesn't have to go out and do what other boys his age do, you know talk to women, charm them, chat them up.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 12:41:07 PM

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I was referring more to use of the term in general, not this particular situation.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 1:18:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

I think the bigger problem is clueless boys that think being a friend is a problem that requires a "solution" of some kind. "Friendzone" is a pathetic term used to justify some kind of butthurt entitlement by boys who can't understand why their friend has no interest in them beyond a platonic level.

I think in this case it's a boy looking to get laid and is trying find people into a particular fetish, so he doesn't have to go out and do what other boys his age do, you know talk to women, charm them, chat them up.

That's exactly what I think is going on, hence my post pointing out some of the reasons he's not all that he claims to be.
He seems to think that labeling yourself a bull gets you no-strings attached sex without having to live up to put in any effort.

Problem is it don't work like that. Even people looking for a bull want him to have certain things to offer, and so far the only thing this kid has to offer is that he wants to have sex... coming from a 20 year old boy, that's not exactly that novel.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 1:54:17 PM

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Cuckolding is one thing I would never consider. EVER. *Shudders*
But then I'm particular about laying with men, there's just no way I would be the one on the receiving end, especially not with multiple men I don't even have feelings for, but for some people sex is like a cup of coffee. So to each his own. I will keep two subs, one with the possibility of being sexual, one, not at all, it just makes playtime that much more and my secondary sub doesn't mind being just that. I can't see past monogamy if I'm going to be "intimate" vs "the boss".

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 2:23:26 PM

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I've been a cuckholdress. Come here.... Let Me tell you a secret.

I'm fucking in charge. Of My sexuality.... Of yours....

Call yourself the 'big bad bull'. Might want to get yourself in check.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 2:35:47 PM

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 3:03:18 PM

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 4:18:24 PM

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So what do the mistresses here think about it?

I've had guys ask me to cuckold them. Overall, I can't say I'd be into it. If I'm going to have sex with a man, first I'm going to need to have a loving emotional/romantic relationship with him and, if I have a loving emotional/romantic relationship with him, I'm going to want to have sex with him. I don't have just "casual sex" with anyone, including a "Bull." BUT, if I were to do so, I - I repeat I - would be the one in control. In control of MY sexuality AND in control of HIS sexuality. I would be in control of my, the bull's and the cuckold's sexuality, all three.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 7:02:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HungBull93

I have heard something I thought was a great idea last night. A Mistress said "The best thing about cuckolding is that I get to marry my best friend and still get the Alpha males I need". Basically she had married a guy she was best friends with all her life and had friendzoned, on the condition that it was never going to be a sexual relationship. She is free to do what she wants he is not. They live together hang out together, he supports her and her has agreed to raise any children she might have as his own. I think it's a great idea/set-up especially for the guy who has been told " I wish I could marry a guy as nice as you but not you". So what do the mistresses here think about it? I think more people should be doing it.

(Sounds like an ad).

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 7:16:13 PM

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(Sounds like an ad).

Yeah, actually. It does.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 8:33:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: stef

"Friendzone" is a pathetic term used to justify some kind of butthurt entitlement by boys who can't understand why their friend has no interest in them beyond a platonic level.

+1 for this.

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RE: Cuckolding, as a solution to the Friendzone - 3/12/2014 8:36:21 PM

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Hahahaha.... And My post stood.

With this in mind, I'll be really nice. I never saw cuckolding as being about the men. It was about Me being a woman. It was all about expressing (or not) My own sexuality. THAT was a power trip.

Bulls? They aren't the one in control. I never saw it that way.

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