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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/24/2014 11:16:19 PM   
mummyman321


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I want to know if you can train a submissive male into being sexually aggressive during role play or is that oppositional to his submissive DNA?


Being a male submissive does not necessarily equate to the sub not being sexually aggressive. There are many alpha type subs who tend to be dominant and sexually aggressive. They simply choose to willingly give control over to the one special person.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 11:42:35 AM   
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Out of curiosity, OP, is this one of those deals where male submissives are hitting on you and you are a female submissive? As such, you are curious about how things would work in the bedroom and wondering if a male submissive could keep you happy sexually?

If it is, you're setting yourself up.


This. ^^^^ ALL of it. When I was a sub, that happened to me a lot. And, in the end, you'll both be unhappy.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 1:48:09 PM   
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Being a male submissive does not necessarily equate to the sub not being sexually aggressive. There are many alpha type subs who tend to be dominant and sexually aggressive. They simply choose to willingly give control over to the one special person.
Pss-s-t.
Ship one of them over here that your Mistress can spare from her Dungeon.
You can zip him up in one of your mummy bags. (They DO have breathing holes, don't they?)
Make sure he's tall and not bald. I don't care if you get a discount under 1.5 metres length.
Hey, and don't forget to expedite. Just tell me how much more that will cost in cargo charges.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 1:54:32 PM   
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I want to know if you can train a submissive male into being sexually aggressive during role play or is that oppositional to his submissive DNA?


Being a male submissive does not necessarily equate to the sub not being sexually aggressive. There are many alpha type subs who tend to be dominant and sexually aggressive. They simply choose to willingly give control over to the one special person.

Purrrr we need more of you!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:29:38 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		Thank you I appreciate your first hand perspective. I like that idea that they dont contradict for male submissives, i thought they might because as a female submissive i see males as assertive and aggressive at all times and i could not think in the mind of male submissive, but im learning. Thank you again

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:31:35 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		Yes that is exactly what I want to know, and i guess its all individually based, each submissive male or female handles their requests differently and if not a slave then even more differently. But yes that is specifically what i wanted to know. Thank you for your response.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:32:34 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		Yes, Master would do training, and yes I agree a switch seems like the most likely candidate. Thank you. I am incapable of dominating, ive tried, ive been asked to do so by Master in several occasions but I dont feel effective, of course it has only been to other female submissives, non slaves but still I couldnt produce the assertiveness I wanted to nor could i feel confident and capable of dominating. Master enjoyed watching me try but I felt like a failure. Thank for all of your input, its is vastly comprehensive and appreciate the time and effort you put into such a genuine response.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:33:56 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		That is a very interesting scenario, sounds very exciting to me, i personally feel you can never be too rough, and thats probably my problem. Thank you for sharing your experience I really appreciate hearing from you.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:35:26 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your response, i will definitely consider those factors. I do not want to diminish the TPE at all. You are so right. I want all to enjoy not just me

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:36:40 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		How delightful to know. Thank you for sharing, i am glad to hear from you.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:38:35 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		Interestingly enough that is not the reason but yes that happens and I have wondered. But this query is strictly for research and planning on how to approach possible playmate candidates for play or permanent placement in our household. Thank you for your response, I appreciate your personally insight.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:40:43 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		Well that was a very clear and specific reaction from you as a male submissive and I sooooo embrace what you are saying and appreciate your candor. Thank you so very much for sharing your feelings on those experiences and I totally agree with your comment on a submissive way to feel about pleasing so i do get that. Thanks ever so much for your sincere response i am very grateful.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:42:37 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		lol, i like that, 'you cant push a rope' , very well stated. Thank you for your response and input to this thread, I appreciate your well thought response and am grateful you spent the time to answer.. To answer why, its for information and research, i am not familiar with submissive males whatsoever and can only compare myself to said situation, and it simply doesnt apply. So I thought i would ask for opinions from this well oiled collection of lifestyle experts. A thousand thanks once again for sharing your knowledge and opinion

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/25/2014 6:45:23 PM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		I just want to thank each and everyone that genuinely embraced my query and offered constructive help and advice. I forgot what a great group of lifestyle experts do lurk in this website, there are alot of posers but I see there are many sincere, real, and intellectual members. Thank you all for your input, I do so appreciate you sharing your opinion and experiences. Gratefully yours.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/26/2014 3:23:25 PM   
mummyman321


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Pss-s-t.
Ship one of them over here that your Mistress can spare from her Dungeon.
You can zip him up in one of your mummy bags. (They DO have breathing holes, don't they?)
Make sure he's tall and not bald. I don't care if you get a discount under 1.5 metres length.
Hey, and don't forget to expedite. Just tell me how much more that will cost in cargo charges.


Hmmm...I am sure finding a willing sub would not be a problem. And we do have 2 meter mummy bags (w/breathing tubes). We need them for the guys from the Dutch areas. They tend to be a lot taller. Expedited costs would not be the issue. I think the most expensive cost would be for the mummy bag itself. They run around 900 Euro for the bigger bags. But we do except credit cards here :)

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/26/2014 3:30:12 PM   
mummyman321


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic


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ORIGINAL: mummyman321


quote:

ORIGINAL: ettaj

I want to know if you can train a submissive male into being sexually aggressive during role play or is that oppositional to his submissive DNA?


Being a male submissive does not necessarily equate to the sub not being sexually aggressive. There are many alpha type subs who tend to be dominant and sexually aggressive. They simply choose to willingly give control over to the one special person.

Purrrr we need more of you!!!!!!!!!!!


Lucy,
Have you ever though of a vacation in Germany? I sure I could arrange a stay at a very unique place I know you would love

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/26/2014 6:08:35 PM   
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Hmmm...I am sure finding a willing sub would not be a problem. And we do have 2 meter mummy bags (w/breathing tubes). We need them for the guys from the Dutch areas. They tend to be a lot taller. Expedited costs would not be the issue. I think the most expensive cost would be for the mummy bag itself. They run around 900 Euro for the bigger bags. But we do except credit cards here :)

Dutch, huh? Hm-m-m, Athena's prognostication book told me to be looking out for either a blond or redheaded man....

WTH on the cost of a mummybag? He better have one already of his own (like you did!).
I better go check on Dollar-to-Euro currency exchange rates. You do have Paypal over there in Germany, don't you?
Please don't turn out to be a fin-Domme. Not into watching camshows or getting ripped off.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/27/2014 8:25:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have often been sexually aggressive and it's certainly in my nature. If I've gone more than a few days without cumming, there's a strong desire to be dominant and just fuck the hell out of whoever I'm with at the time. I'm sure I could be trained to be even more like this, but I'm not sure if all submissive men can. I'd have doubts about those at the far end of the spectrum.

For me, I'd love to feel that haven't-cum-in-a-while sexual energy -- but have it channeled towards her through service. Which is probably where my submissive side comes into play.


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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/27/2014 4:59:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ettaj

I want to know if you can train a submissive male into being sexually aggressive during role play or is that oppositional to his submissive DNA?


Being a male submissive does not necessarily equate to the sub not being sexually aggressive. There are many alpha type subs who tend to be dominant and sexually aggressive. They simply choose to willingly give control over to the one special person.


Thanks Mummyman, you saved me some typing.

OP, what makes you think that sub men can't be aggressive. That sounds like a silly stereotype. Just like all other categories of people, sub men come in all shapes, sizes, races, religions, and temperaments. Why try to reduce us to silly stereotypes? We're people, and people are complex.

I'm extremely alpha in all aspects of life. But in relationships, I choose to submit to a dominant female. But despite my submission, when it comes to sex, I can still f**k her like a pirate. The only difference is that I don't stop f**king her until she tells me to.

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RE: Can a male submissive be trained to be sexually agg... - 3/29/2014 5:28:22 AM   
ettaj


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Status: offline 		That's awesome to hear. In glad you have shared this part of yourself. So theoretically if your mistress instructed you to jump her bones with forceful sex randomly during each day you could perform this without hesitation as it was her command?

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