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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Personally? I think the idea of a "mind fuck" falls into a bit of theatrics. I'm not one for the "honorifics" of WIITWD. The "sir" and walking on all fours. Meh. It has felt forced and fake to me. The dynamics that I've been in have been about emotional and physical dominance. Service and acquiescence. Leading and following. Having him play "tricks" on me to turn me on? Never occurred to us, and would probably have not worked. I knew them too well, and I just can't throw myself into role play. So no, mind fucks would do very little for me.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

In a scene, yeah it happens with the scene and adds something, but outside a scene it has no place, at least not how I want to interact with people, just not my thing.

I don't think not doing mind fucks in a relationship means you're predictable and boring, in a relationship I would find mind fucks deceptive and dishonest, I'd walk away if somebody with me, so I wouldn't put anybody else through it. I see it a bit like the difference between BDSM and abuse, in a scene the mind fuck is consensual, outside a scene it's manipulative.

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Original: LadyConstanze

I once convinced somebody that I would brand him with an iron (as in a clothes iron), had him strapped down, the iron plugged in, even tested it with a wet finger before I blindfolded him so he could hear the sizzle, in the end all I slapped on his shoulder was a packet of frozen fish fingers. The body can't distinguish if it's hot or cold, he was screaming his head off. Mission accomplished.

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Original: mummyman321

When I am speaking of mind fucks I specifically mean during play. For instance, being blindfold and then Domme threaten to cut me with a knife. She plays around with the knife for blindfolding me. Erotically teases me. Once blindfolded the teasing continues until all of a sudden she presses harder and I feel the flow of warm liquid down the area she was pressing on. With the use of ice cubes, a very dull knife, and some warm water a talented Domme can make you question whether she just actually cut you. All your senses tell you that you are cut. You can even fill the warm fluid flowing from your body but in your mind you know she would never do that to you!

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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Original: LadyConstanze

I once convinced somebody that I would brand him with an iron (as in a clothes iron), had him strapped down, the iron plugged in, even tested it with a wet finger before I blindfolded him so he could hear the sizzle, in the end all I slapped on his shoulder was a packet of frozen fish fingers. The body can't distinguish if it's hot or cold, he was screaming his head off. Mission accomplished.

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Original: mummyman321

When I am speaking of mind fucks I specifically mean during play. For instance, being blindfold and then Domme threaten to cut me with a knife. She plays around with the knife for blindfolding me. Erotically teases me. Once blindfolded the teasing continues until all of a sudden she presses harder and I feel the flow of warm liquid down the area she was pressing on. With the use of ice cubes, a very dull knife, and some warm water a talented Domme can make you question whether she just actually cut you. All your senses tell you that you are cut. You can even fill the warm fluid flowing from your body but in your mind you know she would never do that to you!

Yes, I first heard the concept of mind fuck explained like this by John Warren.

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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Yeah. I'm still thinking this would not be so fun.

Am I the weird one here??

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I really had fun with this one, apart from the fact it took us a while to stop him screaming and reassuring him that the family jewels were still in place (bloody idiot, really, the poor lambs testicles were much bigger than the marbles he had)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Mind fucks have no place with me. Either I believe he's going to do something horrific to me, which means I can't trust him to protect me or I don't believe him and conclude he's a liar.

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

Edited to add: I was joking about pulling this stunt (where would i find raw goat balls in South Florida? ) NOT joking about it being tempting to pull on a defiant masochist. Some push your buttons just to have you push theirs. I'm sure people know what I mean in this particular regard.
I think sometimes people underestimate the amount of range in the lifestyle from mild to wild.

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ORIGINAL: AlphaFemsRule
There's something sexy about the idea of a woman bending my mind to get what she wants or mentally controlling me in some way. Probably because the very act of adapting my behavior to suit her preferences is one of the fundamentals of submission.

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

We would, each and everyone of us, like to believe that we are bright enough to be above having someone manipulate us into doing something. If it is true or not is an individual thing. As for a game of chess, that is how I view almost every part of wiitwd. I know some people take offense at it but for me it has always been a game, and one I always intend to win. Of course there have been times when I didn't win but...live and learn. It has always made my game better the next time around. But then if you ask me chess is not only a good way to describe mental bondage but life itself. Of course I would say it is a little more like Three-dimensional chess (think Star Trek) than the kind most people are used to playing.