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HEADASSASSIN -> What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/28/2014 10:50:21 PM)

I am a Master of over 23 years experience and I seek a sub or slave to become my true one.

My question is what qualities and traits do subs or slaves look for to find the right Master or Dom for them



MasterCaneman -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/28/2014 11:35:24 PM)

Normally, the same ones in any relationship. Hello and welcome to the forums.



KeepCalmCreepOn -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 12:16:25 AM)

Basically what MasterCaneman said. For me when I'm looking for a Dom/Domme I'm simply looking for a funny, intelligent, and geeky individual with a few similar kinks.



LadyPact -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 12:30:16 AM)

If you really had 23 years, you wouldn't have to ask.....



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 12:46:56 AM)

I have over 23 years it is just everyone is different and since I seem to be wondering what people's opinions are I guess that is why I asked



Kana -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 1:07:29 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

I am a Master of over 23 years experience and I seek a sub or slave to become my true one.

My question is what qualities and traits do subs or slaves look for to find the right Master or Dom for them

In 23 years you haven't figured that out?

Empty shed, no edges or sharp objects within?



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 1:18:54 AM)

i am sorry i ever posted this question on here since it is turning out to be like every other forum i ever posted in more of a make me look like a fool then a actual discussion or effort to help someone understand what subs or slaves are looking for these days

thank you to everyone who made my first and possibly last post on the boards so non enjoyable



LadyPact -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 2:11:52 AM)

Let's start here. I'm not big on cyber *doms*. That whole "23" year thing? Yeah.

Allow me to introduce Myself. I'm LP and I'm the luckiest chick on the internet.

How did I do that? I was just Myself.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 2:56:27 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

i am sorry i ever posted this question on here since it is turning out to be like every other forum i ever posted in more of a make me look like a fool then a actual discussion or effort to help someone understand what subs or slaves are looking for these days

thank you to everyone who made my first and possibly last post on the boards so non enjoyable


Pouting aside, how can anyone give you a sensible answer to that question? Everyone has different values and goals and tastes. The first two replies you got were about as good as it can get - things that make you a great person are the same things that make you an attractive dominant.

Besides, are you planning to change if we're all looking for things you're not? Best just to be completely yourself and someone out there is bound to be hunting for exactly that.



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:12:42 AM)

i guess everybody is right i should just be myself and someone will find me

thank you athena for pointing that out to me



ARIES83 -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:23:35 AM)

I wouldn't expect anything to fall into your lap if I were you. You can, and probably should pursue what/who you want...

What exactly do you have 23 years experience in?



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:27:32 AM)

23 years of real life training and being a Master just lately i have found more fakes then real people i guess so i was trying to see if maybe i was the one doing something wrong



ARIES83 -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:30:41 AM)

You have been trained as a master?



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:33:47 AM)

i call it training most call it mentoring i have been taught how to react better to issues that might arise



ARIES83 -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:41:42 AM)

That's interesting, how did you come to meet your mentor?
What would you say have been some of the most important lessons you've picked up from him/them.



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:48:34 AM)

i actually meet my mentor while serving in the navy

the top lessons i learned were aftercare is super important
never punish a sub when your mad because you might go to far
and also make sure to check on your sub or slave at all times and watch for signs of them being in distress



ARIES83 -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:52:11 AM)

That sounds very BDSMie, do you do scenes and the like?



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 3:54:02 AM)

yes i have play sessions and also have tried my hand in Gorean a bit



ARIES83 -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 4:12:18 AM)



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crazyml -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 5:14:42 AM)

As with any relationship, different people seek different things. I'd suggest you ask yourself whether you're not going about this question slightly wrong.

I don't think your future happiness, or your future sub's for that matter, is going to be helped if you decide upon some "set" of things or attributes and then try to have them.

You're you. What you need to do is find a sub whose ideal relationship fits with the ideal relationship you're after.

Now, you have to be realistic... If your ideal is something pretty out there, then the likelihood is you might search forever. .. so as an exercise ask yourself the following questions...

What can you offer over the long term in a relationship? Don't just think in terms of kink... think about the whole deal.

Then put yourself in the shoes of a potential partner... what sort of person would be attracted to that kind of offer?




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