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RE: Angry Dom. - 4/30/2014 11:40:01 AM

chatterbox24

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Be strong. Don't go back.

He will probably pursue you and start with the I am so sorry.

Don't fall for it. It gets easier. Hugs, I am very sorry you have had to go through this.

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RE: Angry Dom. - 5/2/2014 5:29:54 AM

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Be strong. Don't go back.

He will probably pursue you and start with the I am so sorry.

Don't fall for it. It gets easier. Hugs, I am very sorry you have had to go through this.

QFT. I've got some (small amount of) familiarity with abuse, masking as BDSM. Yeppers. The abuser cycles through abuse-apology-okayness-abuse, with each of the parts INTENSIFYING. First step is to get physically safe. Call women's abuse help in local area. Even if you have to leave things, do so. Did I say, "First step is to get physically safe"?

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RE: Angry Dom. - 5/2/2014 5:43:50 AM

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Three months in he tells me he's a Dom.

He may be a kinky fuck, but he's no Dom, and you'll see why.

he back handed me

He became very angry with me.

Sense than his play has been harsh and humiliating.

But he's asked me to do something that I can't manage to get passed.

He won't talk to me I've asked him for a little time to get my mind around it.

Hes so angry with me

he's witholding everything from me.

Do you see a pattern here? I think he is confusing Dominant with Domineering.
You really shouldn't be giving up control to someone who can't control his emotions.

This ^^^^^

This guy has issues, probably stemming from his childhood and his lack of desire to seek any help for them. You need to leave, don't look back and frame the bullet you dodged. Trust me, nothing you ever do will be enough to keep him happy, not obedience, not sex, not love. Just move on before you get any more emotionally invested.

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RE: Angry Dom. - 5/8/2014 2:52:50 PM

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In short, he is an abusive jerk, NOT a Dom...

A Dom does not punish in anger and if he is not in control of himself he has NO right to control anybody else... simple as that!

The sooner you get away from this jerk and find a REAL Dom, the better off you will be... it only gets worse from here... :(

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RE: Angry Dom. - 5/13/2014 2:16:49 AM

Lohea

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If your Dom cannot control his own emotions then how can you expect him to properly control you?

I'm glad to hear you've been enjoying things up to now, but you seem to very clearly be stating your limit and he is not respecting that. If he's refusing to communicate with you about it, it's obvious he isn't ready for what this lifestyle involves.

Your desire to please him may very well be suited for another Dominant worthy of your time.

Your punishment has been served and your reaction is justified. If he can't see that and continues to punish you unjustly for a week, he doesn't seem to have a good sense of right and wrong. You can't expect him to suddenly learn without talking about it and if he's stoney, then you're wasting your breath.

If something as silly as forgetting to call him Sir, or Master, or whatever the title was caused him to throw a childlike tantrum like this... simply because he's unable to accept the consequences of his own actions, then why do you think he's worthy of such loyalty and respect? He is not respecting you, something you're obviously desiring.

If he doesn't sort it out by the end of the week, I'd just end it. It isn't worth it.

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