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RE: Master doesn't treat me like a slave - 5/2/2014 7:14:31 AM

Sexyladydee

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Let me try to get past the fact that you are "settling"???? WTF Sorry Mod I usually only do my cursing in public. One has to ask are you for real? It's my choice to inflict pain or not, how much and how often. And someone "begging" for more of it would just prompt me to withhold it. Let's hope he reads these forums so he can truly show you how he feels about being used. Then you will get what you want right before he gives you that boot. First and foremost we are human beings and trifling with someone can only bring you bad Kharma to say the least.

Good luck with that.

I'm not selfish, just stubborn and usually right.

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RE: Master doesn't treat me like a slave - 5/2/2014 9:17:59 PM

DesFIP

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sexyladydee
And someone "begging" for more of it would just prompt me to withhold it.

Now this I'm going to disagree with. I see nothing wrong with the sub having needs also. And I would expect that if my partner had agreed to meet my needs, because we had discussed compatibility, that he would do so. Withholding it just because you can't read her/his mind and they've come out and asked for it would make me think that you're an ass.

I tell him when I'm thirsty and he doesn't decide to withhold stopping for water just because I've asked him for it. In exactly the same way, if my other physical needs aren't being met, then I should be allowed to express that.

The problem here is the op did not establish compatibility before entering into this relationship.

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RE: Master doesn't treat me like a slave - 5/3/2014 12:50:05 PM

CreativeDominant

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Not a lot to add here. I am also one of those dominants who goes along with the whole "checking compatibility before getting involved" part and I am also one of those dominants who agrees with the idea that, if you are the slave, you cannot dictate to him how to dominate. Ask? Sure? Expecting what you asked for to happen? Illogical if you are the slave. It happens at his pleasure, not yours. (All this again pointing to the compatibility portion of the equation).

I don't have slaves...never wanted one. Nothing against them but I had/still have somewhat of an issue of "compliance and consent" matching the term "slave". But from all I have read on here by those who do have slaves and from my own feelings regarding a Dominant/submissive relationship, if you want a Dominant who is going to do EXACTLY what you want, then you really need to work harder at finding one with the same interests BUT you also need to look a bit at what submission means to you versus what dominance means to you. When I read your posts, I can see a bit of a "masochistic-dominant" streak. You might be one of those being on the receiving end of pain but in charge of dictating how it is to be dished out.

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RE: Master doesn't treat me like a slave - 5/3/2014 1:33:56 PM

SeekingTrinity

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My $0.02 is that you can't force a square peg through a triangle shaped hole. If he isn't what you want and you already admit you aren't compatible, it's not fair to either of you to try to get him to be something he isn't.

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