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Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 5:59:07 AM   
Bucephalus


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Status: offline 		I've never been a fan of being called master, I can't explain why I never liked that term, I just havn't, but my submissive wants to call me something other than "sir" which I personally prefer, however, she'd grown up in the south and is former military personnel, so "sir" doesn't quite have the same meaning for her that it does for me. Her words were along the lines of: "I don't think sir is a strong enough word for what you make me feel, I want to be able to call you by a title that means more". So, here I am, asking for opinions and suggestions on alternative titles to use.
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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 6:03:09 AM   
SweetAnise


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Status: offline 		To the OP: Why don't you ask her what she would like to call you?

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 6:04:48 AM   
Bucephalus


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Status: offline 		She is new to the lifestyle, and she has said she wants to call me master.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 6:14:10 AM   
SweetAnise


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Status: offline 		To the OP: Ah...so you don't like the term Master and she doesn't like the term sir. Why don't you communicate with each other about when you both could use the terms interchangeably (make it interesting and fun like) this is a relationship- right? If so, in relationships we sometimes compromise. As a dominant you may want to consider what your submissive feels and yet also get your needs met as well, therefore I don't see how a good long conversation with each other on the terms could work itself out. Or better yet you both can get a good thesaurus and check out the terms yourselves. Some words to start with: lord, king, ruler etc... Good luck.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 6:20:15 AM   
Bucephalus


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Status: offline 		Hmm, I never considered alternating. We did discuss this last night shortly before I sent her off to sleep. I am not inflexible, mind you, and communication has been one of the biggest foundations of the relationship that she and I share. I have been taking into consideration how she feels, and I did give her permission to call me Master until an alternative title could be found. In hindsight, I probably should have mentioned that in the original post, but it's early for me. C'est La Vie. I appreciate and thank you for your input and the title suggestions!

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 6:33:54 AM   
Musicmystery


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Status: offline 		http://thesaurus.com

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 7:15:40 AM   
DaddySatyr


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Status: offline 		My lady calls me: "Lord High Grand Exalted Poobah".

Hey! It works for us.







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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 7:27:20 AM   
Bucephalus


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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

My lady calls me: "Lord High Grand Exalted Poobah".

Hey! It works for us.







Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?

I'm not one to judge.

At MusicMystery: Thanks! I always forget about that website.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 8:10:00 AM   
igor2003


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Status: offline 		Why not take various terms like master, sir, sire, lord, etc. etc. and go to Google Translate, seeing what each is translated to in different languages? Maybe you could find common ground there.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 9:41:32 AM   
Jewelcrafter


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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

http://thesaurus.com


I knew about dictionary.com, but never considered it's companion site. This will come in handy when I can't find my thesaurus.

What igor2003 said is a good alternative. It's something I do sometimes when naming characters. To take it a little further you can take a short phrase and translate that to create a title. A little word meshing does wonders sometimes. You can have her make a list of characteristics that she sees in you that she likes and translate those too to see if you like one of them so it doesn't have to be a term like master, sir, or lord.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 4:08:36 PM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bucephalus

I've never been a fan of being called master, I can't explain why I never liked that term, I just havn't, but my submissive wants to call me something other than "sir" which I personally prefer, however, she'd grown up in the south and is former military personnel, so "sir" doesn't quite have the same meaning for her that it does for me. Her words were along the lines of: "I don't think sir is a strong enough word for what you make me feel, I want to be able to call you by a title that means more". So, here I am, asking for opinions and suggestions on alternative titles to use.



Same with me - she calls me "Sir" cos I hate "Master" with a passion. "Master" is sooooo NOT "blue collar" me....

Ok, no military here and certainly not any southern US type culture but it's also not the same as when some shop assistant calls me sir. There's a different dynamic happening with the latter.... The shop assistant is calling every man 'sir' and it seems like every shop assistant is calling me that, making it all rather benign to meaningless.

Compare that to every other personal relationship I know and ours is the only one that uses it. And since it's both desired and expected, it takes on a very special meaning between *us*. But only in private so she needs to also keep her wits about her with company, which has had its interesting/funny moments....

It ain't the word or the title that's sounding out but a somewhat unique relationship dynamic. Conversely, if the suggested Thesaurus doesn't help, how about researching 'Sir' or even 'Master' in a foreign language...?

Focus.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 4:30:24 PM   
Bucephalus


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ORIGINAL: Focus50


quote:

ORIGINAL: Bucephalus

I've never been a fan of being called master, I can't explain why I never liked that term, I just havn't, but my submissive wants to call me something other than "sir" which I personally prefer, however, she'd grown up in the south and is former military personnel, so "sir" doesn't quite have the same meaning for her that it does for me. Her words were along the lines of: "I don't think sir is a strong enough word for what you make me feel, I want to be able to call you by a title that means more". So, here I am, asking for opinions and suggestions on alternative titles to use.



Same with me - she calls me "Sir" cos I hate "Master" with a passion. "Master" is sooooo NOT "blue collar" me....

Ok, no military here and certainly not any southern US type culture but it's also not the same as when some shop assistant calls me sir. There's a different dynamic happening with the latter.... The shop assistant is calling every man 'sir' and it seems like every shop assistant is calling me that, making it all rather benign to meaningless.

Compare that to every other personal relationship I know and ours is the only one that uses it. And since it's both desired and expected, it takes on a very special meaning between *us*. But only in private so she needs to also keep her wits about her with company, which has had its interesting/funny moments....

It ain't the word or the title that's sounding out but a somewhat unique relationship dynamic. Conversely, if the suggested Thesaurus doesn't help, how about researching 'Sir' or even 'Master' in a foreign language...?

Focus.

Well, I am certainly glad to hear I am not alone in not liking to be called "Master". For me, "Sir" has the very same meaning that it does for you, by what you describe at least. It has been suggested now by a couple of people to search those words in a foreign language as well, and it's one I am going to take and talk with her about. I am certain we can find a happy middle with that strategy.

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RE: Alternative titles - 4/28/2014 7:03:01 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Captain or Boss. Maestro or Monsieur. Both of which mean master in other languages.

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RE: Alternative titles - 5/19/2014 8:36:27 AM   
HeldandHappy


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I would just advise that if you don't like Master, don't let her call you this for very long before you decide on something. She may develop a real attachment to it quickly and feel disheartened when it's changed.
My Man doesn't like Sir, but eventually I will call him Master. He prefers "My Love." It's new for me, but I like it

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RE: Alternative titles - 5/19/2014 9:19:03 AM   
zaxxon4


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Status: offline 		While I prefer to be called by my name in public to avoid unwanted attention, I’m also fond of the medieval “Sire”, “My Lord", or” My Liege" (think allegiance).

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RE: Alternative titles - 5/19/2014 3:26:25 PM   
lilcracker


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Status: offline 		I call him either by his nickname or Papi. Honestly I have never called him by his given name...just because he doesn't like it.

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RE: Alternative titles - 5/20/2014 1:49:41 PM   
Vgsjohn


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Status: offline 		i have a similar problem with the term "Master." calling someone or being called....in a vanilla term (Master Craftsmen)


if i may, a thought for You Sir

is she Yours? are you her Master?

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RE: Alternative titles - 5/20/2014 4:55:13 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		I must admit I'm not one for honorifics. In the scheme of things if I wanted her to call me sir or whatever, that is what she would call me whether she liked it or not. Out of respect for my wishes. Yea I know it's real simple shit.

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RE: Alternative titles - 5/30/2014 11:52:38 PM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		I will admit right away that "honorifics" do nothing for me, to the extent that I have to suppress a tiny bit of judgement when I see dom types insisting on them.

I have had sub partners who wanted to call me "Sir" and I can bear that, but anything more grandiose is more likely to irritate me.

I would suggest that you give some thought to having her call you by the name everyone else does. Give it a try. I am sure she'll be able to say it in a way that recognises the dynamic, and I am sure that you don't need a title to remind you of your role in it.

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RE: Alternative titles - 6/4/2014 3:47:42 AM   
DOM68005


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Status: offline 		Personally, I have always had any sub answer me either Yes Sir or No Sir. My reasons for doing so are it works in the vanilla world as well as our realm. Otherwise, she addresses me by name unless we are in a protocol realm group. I have not been comfortable with Master due to the connotation of Southern states black slave ownership pre-civil war. In today's realm, Master draws too much attention from anybody who happens to hear.
Again, that is my way ... by no means does my way set a standard for others.

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