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why are all mistressess not using diapers for disciplin... - 5/1/2014 7:21:00 AM   
subdlboy30


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Status: offline 		Being forced to wear diapers is so erotic and it gives the mistress control over the subs most basic need as well as it being humiliating seems perfect for what mistressess are trying to achieve. Also I have had a couple mistressess just stop talking to me randomly.???? Why is this so hard.
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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 7:24:28 AM   
imtempting


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Status: offline 		I'm because a lot of subs is not into wearing them. Just because someone is a sub does not mean they have to brake their limitz

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 8:15:41 AM   
InHisHeart


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Status: offline 		What are all mistresses trying to achieve? Are you assuming they all want the same thing? A Domme, Dom the same as a sub, slave don't all come out of the same mold, everyone is different with their own individual wants and style. You might find wearing diapers as humiliation erotic but that's your thing and doesn't mean all subs do or that all Mistresses want to use it as discipline.

Edited to add: same goes for chastity.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 8:40:15 AM   
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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 8:55:12 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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It might be YOUR kink, but it may not be hers. Nothing wrong with it if it's what you like, but there is also nothing wrong with it if it's not what she wants.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 9:18:33 AM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		Remember to think of this from the perspective of prospective Dommes: It's a turn-off and hard limit for many, especially for those who have changed their children's or parents' diapers for years. Couldn't think of much that's less sexy: messy, stinky, lack of control, while most Dommes want order, cleanliness, control in their subs. Besides, some subs get squicked just having to clean strap-ons and harnesses!
But if washing your diapers is your thang, that's a selling point. Otherwise, as above, it's your kink that you're expecting a dominant to cater for.


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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 9:21:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		I already have litter boxes to clean. Why would I want to clean some guys diaper?

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 9:21:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe they are the same because none know what they want therefore keeping men confused or at least the ones that try to please.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 9:22:38 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 9:58:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subdlboy30

Being forced to wear diapers is so erotic and it gives the mistress control over the subs most basic need as well as it being humiliating seems perfect for what mistressess are trying to achieve. Also I have had a couple mistressess just stop talking to me randomly.???? Why is this so hard.


It is hard because you have unrealistic expectations.

Being forced to wear diapers is erotic to you.

That does not translate into it being erotic to the mistresses you want to interact with.
More than likely the mistresses stopped talking to you because you were treating them as fetish delivery systems and your kink did not match theirs. You probably bored them with your focus on being diapered instead of focusing on what you could do for them.

Mistresses rarely like being told what to do.

Not all mistresses are into humiliation, just as not all submissives are into it either.

If you want to find someone into your particular fetish you either need to learn how to be patient or be willing to pay someone.






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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 10:11:41 AM   
InHisHeart


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Status: offline 		I believe they are the same because none know what they want therefore keeping men confused or at least the ones that try to please.
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You must really get around if you know that about all Mistresses.

If you've had negative experiences with the Mistresses you've been with, the one common denominator in these 'relationships' whether in-person or on-line is you. It might be time to look inside yourself and figure out what it is about you that isn't working for them.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 10:23:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subdlboy30

Being forced to wear diapers is so erotic and it gives the mistress control over the subs most basic need as well as it being humiliating seems perfect for what mistressess are trying to achieve. Also I have had a couple mistressess just stop talking to me randomly.???? Why is this so hard.


Some submissives find diapers erotic and some don't. Some dominants like to use this for humiliation and erotica...and many don't. Just because we're fellow kinksters doesn't mean that all of us have exactly the same kinks.


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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 12:18:46 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: subdlboy30
Why is this so hard.

Diapers and ABDL are Hard Limits for me. Diaper fetish really grosses me out, that's why. To each his/her own & that's cool if it's your thing but it's NOT my thing.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 12:25:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: subdlboy30
Why is this so hard.

Diapers and ABDL are Hard Limits for me. Diaper fetish really grosses me out, that's why. To each his/her own & that's cool if it's your thing but it's NOT my thing.

NBMG

I'm inclined to think this pretty much sums up a lot of people IMHO.
Maybe that's why OP is finding it soo hard to find a fetish delivery system in a very small minority topic.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 1:08:00 PM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Status: offline 		I might put you in (locking) diapers....but you will damn well be weeding My garden or cleaning My horse stalls while wearing them.

None of that "Oooo, pamper me I'm a little helpless baby," bullshit.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 1:12:42 PM   
bellechat


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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 1:15:03 PM   
stef


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subdlboy30

Being forced to wear diapers is so erotic and it gives the mistress control over the subs most basic need as well as it being humiliating seems perfect for what mistressess are trying to achieve. Also I have had a couple mistressess just stop talking to me randomly.???? Why is this so hard.

Because they don't want to deal with the shit, literally or figuratively. Why is this so hard?

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 3:14:35 PM   
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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/1/2014 9:30:17 PM   
Daeson


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Status: offline 		The way people from our state state things at times just makes me smile.

On topic,break this down.


"I can't believe this mistresses don't all do this thing I find so erotic and wonderful, they all must be wrong because this is the best thing I've ever done" That in a nut shell is how you sound.

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RE: why are all mistressess not using diapers for disci... - 5/2/2014 12:49:42 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

For god's sake, subdlboy30, try to treat women as humans. You're never going to get anywhere otherwise. Wake up!


This is what it comes down to.

OP, you've seen that a lot of women here are turned off by diapers. It really is a hard kink to find play partners for, and that must be so frustrating.

But I bet if Peon here decided he wanted to do some diaper play, he would have no problem finding someone to indulge him. Because he talks to women like they are actual people. He can hold a conversation, and take an interest in their personalities, and come across that she is more important than the penis.

Be an awesome guy, be willing to do the things that make her happy rather than just your own kink, and remember that every woman is different. If you can master those things, you will find someone that will play diapers with you. When people really like you, they are much more inclined to give you what you want.

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