DaddySatyr
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I can kind of relate; from both sides with a slight caveat: how much a person makes doesn't really matter to me.
What I have found is that there are a lot of female profiles (I don't engage with males) that insist that a potential mate be "gainfully employed". Well, that's something of an issue for me because I will probably never work another "meaningful" day in my life.
I have been diagnosed with a condition that means that I have less than 20 years to live.
I worked hard, all of my life (since I was 14). I made concessions. I saved. I invested. I have been very blessed in my life and I recognize that.
Because of all these things, I don't need to work. I have a modest, fixed income that affords me all of my needs and some of my caprices. I am going to be going back to school to finish my degree; a promise I made, many years ago to myself and one of my children.
I have interacted with a couple of ladies that are of the mind that someone who is not "moving up" is "moving down". I forget 'em and move on. Shallowness is an ugly attribute.
By the same token, while I said that what a person makes doesn't matter to me (it's true). I think though, someone who (using your words) "Now it is one thing to be working a fast food job, unable to get better than that, and scraping by each month." might be a double-edged sword.
If a person is unable to advance from that, surely, it's not a reflection on them. If a person is un-willing, that's another issue.
When I first moved to Pennsyltucky to be with my lady, I "inherited" her "friend" (40 years old) and almost 3 year old daughter.
Lisa had been living with Beth for over a year, already because she was unwilling to get a job. She mooched money off of Beth for beer and cigarettes and "contributed" to the household through food stamps and the occasional "surface" house cleaning.
She also "contributed" by blaring the stereo as loud as she could, as often as she could, and allowing her child free reign to be as obnoxious as possible (you know the type of parent to whom I refer: Mother: "Johnny, don't do that." Johnny cries. Mother: "Oh, alright but just until dinner time.").
The child was almost three years old and didn't know what "Please" and "Thank you" were. She had never been introduced to toilet training, etc.
Partially as a result of these things, the landlord had refused to issue a new lease and had asked them to start looking for somewhere else to live.
Lisa, the mother, is a drunk, drug-using (when she can get it), lying, thieving, self-centered ... You get the point.
When Beth and I decided we would live together, we decided that Lisa would have to go. When we started having the discussion with Lisa, when we got to the part about Beth and I living together, Lisa declared: "Give me six months and I'll make 'other arrangements'. I'm not dealing with him ." She knew her free ride was just about over.
Lisa didn't look for a job (or a place to live) until six months had passed. She moved into her new place in the beginning of November and stopped working before Thanksgiving. As far as I know, she never paid a dime of the rent and has been evicted.
Anyway, I needed to paint a picture of the kind of person who might be working that minimum wage job, etc.
There are people who might not have the ambition and there are people who might not have the ability. There's a huge difference.
I may, at some point, feel the need to get out of the house for a few hours a day. I may find myself wearing orange and brown. I don't need a better job. Why would I look for one?
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