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constant money requests - 6/6/2014 6:52:53 AM

kurtuksubb

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Been on this site for many years now , in that time I made a few friends but was alot of requests for tributes phone top ups etc , had a year or so away and thought I'd have a nose back within a few minutes my inbox was beeping away with messages but all the norm few mails back and forth then comes the "so do you wish to tribute" mail .I understand that there is alot of time wasting people on here but paying won't sort them from genuine people , is there any other sites that are less costly than this I'd love to serve again in person or online I just can't afford all these expensive emails ha ha

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 7:14:49 AM

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"Less costly" than free...?

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 7:16:39 AM

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Fast Reply ~ You're a young guy and your profile describes one paragraph of pure kink--nothing about you as a person whatsoever. You're not offering a relationship, companionship, nothing that every single bisexual male sub we hear from isn't feeming for--as if we are supposed to act as your personal service Top. So what do you expect? The message you broadcast is that you want to use and be used. You're getting back exactly what you're putting out at the same self-serving level.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 7:44:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kurtuksubb

Been on this site for many years now , in that time I made a few friends but was alot of requests for tributes phone top ups etc , had a year or so away and thought I'd have a nose back within a few minutes my inbox was beeping away with messages but all the norm few mails back and forth then comes the "so do you wish to tribute" mail .I understand that there is alot of time wasting people on here but paying won't sort them from genuine people , is there any other sites that are less costly than this I'd love to serve again in person or online I just can't afford all these expensive emails ha ha

When you get an email for money, it still costs nothing to delete it and you are certainly under no duress to pay.

Perhaps there is a site out there that is less expensive than this one. Perhaps one that pays you to be on it.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 8:04:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Fast Reply ~ You're a young guy and your profile describes one paragraph of pure kink--nothing about you as a person whatsoever. You're not offering a relationship, companionship, nothing that every single bisexual male sub we hear from isn't feeming for--as if we are supposed to act as your personal service Top. So what do you expect? The message you broadcast is that you want to use and be used. You're getting back exactly what you're putting out at the same self-serving level.

This is pretty much it.

I'm fairly sure most male subs get requests for tribute sometimes- people are out there sending messages to as many of you as possible in the hope that some will bite. The equivalent for women is getting dozens of messages that just say 'hey wanna fuck?' - they think as long as they keep sending it, someone will give them what they want.

That said, you practically advertise yourself as the perfect target for those people. All your profile tells me is that you're horny. It's one paragraph of fantasy. It doesn't say who you are as a person or what you are looking for. I'm presuming you're just looking for some kinky sex without the effort of getting to know someone. The people on this site trying to profit know that there are a lot of men like that, and very few women who just want to be a warm body to act out their kink, so you're not likely to get many takers. So they contact you thinking you might be desperate enough to pay, or that it might be worth it to you to skip the hard work of building a relationship.

If that's true, keep doing what you're doing. You might also try the hook up section of craigslist. If you do have more to offer than a hard on, you'll have to work to show it. You might also have more success getting out in the community - yes, there's lots going on in the midlands - where male subs don't outnumber everyone else so dramatically. But please don't walk into an event and announce you wanna get laid. You have to socialize and get to know folks there too.

p.s. also consider who you are contacting. If you only contact smoking hot 18-22 year olds with their boobs out, you're going to come into more of these people demanding tribute, since they obviously use the type of pics that attract lots of attention.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 12:43:20 PM

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if you want to spend money on someone I would say spend it on me.. I will send you my address no personal checks please, money orders only....

otherwise I say block and delete those that are requesting money from you, they are not real just money grabbing people that are probably in Africa or some other place ...

nice picture tho...very handsome

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 1:56:15 PM

FriendlyMuppet

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Yeah, I'm pretty sure your profile is leading a lot of this to happen to you. I don't get that many money requests from random people. I'll get a few every now and then, but those automatically tell me that they're sending them to everybody and don't care who they target.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/6/2014 4:47:02 PM

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Hey OP, she's worth it, too.

quote:

ORIGINAL: ivone57

if you want to spend money on someone I would say spend it on me.. I will send you my address no personal checks please, money orders only....

otherwise I say block and delete those that are requesting money from you, they are not real just money grabbing people that are probably in Africa or some other place ...

nice picture tho...very handsome

Yes, he's a good-looking guy, but you know how it goes. Both young (especially) guys & gals think they can get away with trading on their looks and physique to get sexual favors. Easy sex, is...easy. Easy come, easy go. Doesn't amount to a hill of beans in the long run.

This is on line, kurt. Gotta step up your game, boy. The doors that are open to you in person are not "free open admission" here. You have to get your foot in the door first by NOT coming across as just another horny trawler. Whether in the cyberworld or in the real world, you have to have social skills and relate to people as people, not as engineers of your sexual kink gratification.

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< Message edited by FieryOpal -- 6/6/2014 4:52:52 PM >

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RE: constant money requests - 6/7/2014 4:08:26 PM

BecomingV

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Heck, last week while loading groceries into the car trunk, a man asked me for money or food.

Anyone who has kids is asked for money.

Some of us have elderly parents who need our money.

The government wants a part of my income.

My agent wants a cut of my income.

Someone wants money from you... welcome to life.

And, kurt, I just read your "profile" and while that may be your idea of joking, to the reader... okay, to this reader... it's flippant. And, as you posted, it's ineffective for your stated goal here.

Doing a search here on the chat side (look, upper right corner for "search"), How to attract a Dominant woman... will bring up a thread that can help, if you are serious about adjusting your results.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/7/2014 4:26:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Hey OP, she's worth it, too.

quote:

ORIGINAL: ivone57

if you want to spend money on someone I would say spend it on me.. I will send you my address no personal checks please, money orders only....

otherwise I say block and delete those that are requesting money from you, they are not real just money grabbing people that are probably in Africa or some other place ...

nice picture tho...very handsome

Yes, he's a good-looking guy, but you know how it goes. Both young (especially) guys & gals think they can get away with trading on their looks and physique to get sexual favors. Easy sex, is...easy. Easy come, easy go. Doesn't amount to a hill of beans in the long run.

This is on line, kurt. Gotta step up your game, boy. The doors that are open to you in person are not "free open admission" here. You have to get your foot in the door first by NOT coming across as just another horny trawler. Whether in the cyberworld or in the real world, you have to have social skills and relate to people as people, not as engineers of your sexual kink gratification.

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ROFL ... I love this!!!!

To be honest, there are quite a few, genuine, real Ladies here!

The most common complaint they have is the lack of sincere, honest, real men.

So for the OP ... do know I have emailed, talked with, and even gone out with a few Dominant Ladies who have (and/or do) post on these boards; among others.

So Fiery Opal is 110 % correct ...

you have to step up your game!

My advice .. read what the Ladies say, then act on that!

Inevitably, you will be delighted you did!

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RE: constant money requests - 6/7/2014 4:26:15 PM

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RE: constant money requests - 6/7/2014 4:35:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kurtuksubb

Been on this site for many years now , in that time I made a few friends but was alot of requests for tributes phone top ups etc , had a year or so away and thought I'd have a nose back within a few minutes my inbox was beeping away with messages but all the norm few mails back and forth then comes the "so do you wish to tribute" mail .I understand that there is alot of time wasting people on here but paying won't sort them from genuine people , is there any other sites that are less costly than this I'd love to serve again in person or online I just can't afford all these expensive emails ha ha

"Are there" and....free is fairly difficult to beat.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/7/2014 4:36:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BecomingV

Heck, last week while loading groceries into the car trunk, a man asked me for money or food.

Anyone who has kids is asked for money.

Some of us have elderly parents who need our money.

The government wants a part of my income.

My agent wants a cut of my income.

Someone wants money from you... welcome to life.

And, kurt, I just read your "profile" and while that may be your idea of joking, to the reader... okay, to this reader... it's flippant. And, as you posted, it's ineffective for your stated goal here.

Doing a search here on the chat side (look, upper right corner for "search"), How to attract a Dominant woman... will bring up a thread that can help, if you are serious about adjusting your results.

I need an agent.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/7/2014 8:43:08 PM

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RE: constant money requests - 6/8/2014 12:24:00 AM

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I'd wager a few guesses ...

1. Most profiles who contact you asking for tribute aren't those who post on the forum ...
2. Most profiles who contact you for tribute aren't even who/what they say they are ...
3. Most profiles who contact you are from men posing as women ...
4. You'd be just another fool if you sent any money to anyone here on Collarspace ...

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RE: constant money requests - 6/8/2014 4:18:30 AM

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I don't ask for money. I just tell them if they play their cards right, they can...get into my pants.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/8/2014 4:45:08 PM

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Although this has been talked about, it's a serious problem on this site that CM has elected to do nothing about. What is disgusting is the people who actually defend it.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/8/2014 4:47:36 PM

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The crazy part is the people who complain about the money requests never take the time to be proactive in their search as far as finding a Lifestyle D, they sit behind their computer for months and months expecting what to happen exactly?

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RE: constant money requests - 6/8/2014 5:49:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dink22

Although this has been talked about, it's a serious problem on this site that CM has elected to do nothing about. What is disgusting is the people who actually defend it.

And why should they? Granted, it's not a dynamic that many people enjoy. But it does have its following and is no more or less deserving of its place here than any other kink or arrangement.

Don't like it? Don't entertain them and use your head when interacting with dommes. Problem solved.

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RE: constant money requests - 6/8/2014 7:40:41 PM

slaveoubliette

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I must not fit the demographic kurtuksubb, never got a tribute request... maybe something in your profile is suggest you will pay tribute...

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