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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:52:27 PM   
thetammyjo


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Masters-do You enjoy micromanaging Your slaves?
Slaves-do you like being micromanaged?


*shudders*

Makes me think "yuck".... I have so much other stuff in my life I really don't need someone I have to micromanage. I'd rather do the training and then get a loyal slave to help me and pamper me and serve me.

If I micromanage I think I would soon see it as me being the slave of the other person or a parent -- neither frankly appeals to me at all.

Others seem quite happy with this arrangement but it just is not for me.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 2:01:37 PM   
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Oh, I don't know, it can be amusing to be asked to pee, and I say "not yet".

agreed but when your awoken at 3 am with that question its a bit less amusing.


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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 2:48:23 PM   
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Slaves-do you like being micromanaged?


It's not really an issue of whether or not I like it. I am quite capable of dealing with the day to day business of living without micromanagement. There are very few commands which may Himself may give to me that I'm not qualified to carry out without instruction. There were things, in the beginning, which needed to be learned.. how he likes his socks folded, what sort of condiment to use on his sandwiches.. simply a sort of training until I knew his likes and dislikes. After 10+ years together, I don't believe that he would care to take on the role of micromanager at this point. Such seems to take a lot of effort to me and my job is to make his life less stressful, not more so.

That said, if it's something he wants to bring into our lives at some point, (perhaps when he retires and has nothing better to do) then, if it pleases him to do so, he will do so.

Either way, it's not an issue here.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 3:32:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Heck, no. That would be bothersome and I, actually, think impossible. How can you micromanage someone who has an active life? One of the principals taught in traditional business management is that you delegate and don’t micromanage. I would be wasting the talents of a capable person to a point where it was time consuming for me and detrimental to the organization/relationship.

I readily admit that a scene where you make the sub ask for everything will work and there is excitement in that. I will do an occasional scene, where I tell her everything to do and make her ask permission for everything, but that’s it. I can give her general guidelines for life in general, but I damn sure don’t want to have to constantly check on this and that. If I have done my job, she does things in life that show me respect without me checking.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 3:34:45 PM   
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Heck, no. That would be bothersome and I, actually, think impossible. How can you micromanage someone who has an active life? One of the principals taught in traditional business management is that you delegate and don’t micromanage. I would be wasting the talents of a capable person to a point where it was time consuming for me and detrimental to the organization/relationship.

I readily admit that a scene where you make the sub ask for everything will work and there is excitement in that. I will do an occasional scene, where I tell her everything to do and make her ask permission for everything, but that’s it. I can give her general guidelines for life in general, but I damn sure don’t want to have to constantly check on this and that. If I have done my job, she does things in life that show me respect without me checking.


The best micromanagement works by delegating structural components.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 3:34:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		At one time, about a year ago, I thought I'd like this, but I agree with ExSteel. I thought about it on a day-in, day-out basis, and it would exhaust me, I think (and maybe the other person as well). A scene would be fine, though.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 3:51:05 PM   
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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 4:11:41 PM   
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I micromanage my slaves until it becomes a new habit for them, then all I need to do is discipline them when they forget. I enjoy shaping the human mind to my needs.


Yum!  Am so with you on that Shadevarr.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 4:12:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I manage to the point of the set of rules that I have. These are all non-negotiable and expected at all times. As for any other situations that mine would find themselves in, I expect them to have a mind that they will use to figure out for themselves what would be best...but also what they know will make me proudest since they do belong to me. I do not want a doormat that cannot think on their own, that is way too much work for me. I want someone I can always be proud of no matter what is happening, and that will not be if they cannot think for themselves at different times.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 4:29:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I cant be bothered micromanaging.  Especially with my boy not being local for the moment, it just wouldnt work. He knows his rules, and he knows my expectations of what is and isnt acceptable if we havent discused it before.  In general he has an idea of what he can do on his own when I am not immediately available. I dont have the time to micromanage everything he does and still keep my own life in check, I made sure my boy had a god head on his shoulders before I accepted him to make sure it woudnt be necessary.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 4:41:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes Yes... i want to at least try to be micromanaged I like the idea I do I just dont know it I could really handle another takeing that much controll but yes at the moment it is something I think I want

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 5:36:36 PM   
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No, I don't want to micromanage.  I am a very laid back and easy going woman.  There are things that I like a certain way, My girl knows them.  She knows how I take My coffee, how I like My laundry hung, and so forth.  When it comes to bigger things like playing with others, she knows who she's allowed to play with and for anyone else permission would have to be granted.  We are poly and open and she knows the rules that apply there as well.  She knows what I expect of her which is to always be respectful of Me and our relationship.  Beyond that, I fell in love with a strong and capable woman and I wouldn't want to change that for the world.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 8:02:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		being micro-managed would drive me insane. I know I'd rebell in a most unappealing way.

This is why I state upfront that I do not want someone that wants to control every aspect of my life.

For those that want it and can blossom under it good for them. There are many things others do or desire that i can't fathom. IT's not that I think it's wrong i just know it's wrong for me. Good thing we are all different *S* 
It blows me away that they can give up that much of themselves. For me personally I think it would make my brain atrophy. But that is just in my case.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 8:41:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've had a couple of ex's who attempted to micromanage.  They didn't like the results any more than I liked their attempts.  Come to think of it, my immediate responce to micromanagement is not simply to rebel, but to show them the door and tell them to find a doormat or automaton to program.  Such was definately a big factor in my past for deciding that I am not slave material, though it took a while for me to acknowledge to myself.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 8:51:26 PM   
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Usually no - but on occasion it suits the purpose to drive home a point.  Another tool in the belt of instruction.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/11/2006 3:29:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: alovingslavegirl

Masters-do You enjoy micromanaging Your slaves?
Slaves-do you like being micromanaged?


Hello alovingslavegirl,
 
Sometimes there are areas that are micromanaged in my life, usually when I'm not complying because I drift off, get distracted and allow things to get in the way of tasks that I am not keen on doing.
 
It's not an ongoing necessity though, sometimes it is quite handy for keeping me focussed when I'm likely not to be. I appreciate the results even though I don't like it.
 
I have structure overall and micromanagement is an effective way of getting something accomplished, occasionally.
 
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RE: Micromanagement - 7/11/2006 3:52:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was with One that micromanaged, and for me personally it was horrible. It was like having someone breathing down my neck and sucking the life out of me all at the same time. My Master doesn't micromanage, but allows me the time and space I need to be me. I know the boundaries, I know the rules, and I don't push them. Every now and then I get reminders about things, but not to the point I feel like I'm being over pressured. Again that's just me.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/11/2006 3:54:19 AM   
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edited by sabswife.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/11/2006 3:54:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, All true slaves being property by mutual consent,should be micromanaged. After all, a slave is not suppossed to have free will,rights or freedom. Having said that,it is important that there exists a mutual trust and respect for both the dominant Owner and Submissive Slaves roles in life. Each compliments the other and contributes to making both parties feel more secure with themselves abnd each other. The slave must worship her owner and look after him. The Owner must take all measures to look after  his slave,which is after all,his most reasured and valuable possession. All her needs in all three dimensions of her existance must be met. She must also meet her masters needs. Ultimately she becomes an integral part of him and he an integral part of her,even though one is the owner and the other the property. Some slaves will never be happy unless all decision making is removed from them and placed into the hands of  their beloved and trusted owner. Abdication of all the responsibilities they have when free is a natural consequence of being in irrevocable slavery. Many respondents are not true slaves,but more conditional submissives,they decide what will and will not happen during their usually short term association with their so called dominant. Being freeborn by nature and inclination but with submissive tendencies,those tendencies often revolve around sexual gratification moreso that being of true service. Only a true slave or master who has micromanaged or been micromanaged can truelly answer your question.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/11/2006 3:57:55 AM   
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I thoroughly dislike micromanagement. I prefer my service to be proactive and intuitive.

Master holds the same views. He says that if I asked for permission everytime I had to pee, he'd release me for being too stupid to live.


Oh, I don't know, it can be amusing to be asked to pee, and I say "not yet".


 He can easily tell when I have to pee. So, if he's feeling evil he'll lean over and ask "Have to pee?" When he gets the answer, he sometimes will say "not yet".


lol, this is how Sab feels as well, it would annoy Him if i was that needy, but He will sometimes play and say "No" if i have to go badly and He knows it, or He will hold me down and laugh like hell. 

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