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Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 12:57:13 PM

alovingslavegirl

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Masters-do You enjoy micromanaging Your slaves?
Slaves-do you like being micromanaged?

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:06:42 PM

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As a slave.. I crave micromanagement

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:15:23 PM

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As a slave.. I crave micromanagement

may I be stupid and ask what it is? is it like..micro ...management?

or you know..like erm... is the word seethrough?

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:17:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: alovingslavegirl

Masters-do You enjoy micromanaging Your slaves?
Slaves-do you like being micromanaged?

There is a difference between being supervised, and structure.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:18:14 PM

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micromanagement is the practice of a Dominant controlling every teeny detail of his slave's life...what she wears, when and what she eats, every tiny thing

i ache for it.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:20:09 PM

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thanks

i've no idea really..no comment

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:20:21 PM

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I micromanage my slaves until it becomes a new habit for them, then all I need to do is discipline them when they forget. I enjoy shaping the human mind to my needs.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:21:09 PM

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I thoroughly dislike micromanagement. I prefer my service to be proactive and intuitive.

Master holds the same views. He says that if I asked for permission everytime I had to pee, he'd release me for being too stupid to live.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:23:43 PM

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No, I'm not into being micromanaged. I think my opinion is often the right one and I like deciding things. I do like to be strictly supervised. When I ask him what I should wear I like him to stop and actually decide. But, I don't need or want him to tell me everyday what to put on.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:24:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I thoroughly dislike micromanagement. I prefer my service to be proactive and intuitive.

Master holds the same views. He says that if I asked for permission everytime I had to pee, he'd release me for being too stupid to live.

Oh, I don't know, it can be amusing to be asked to pee, and I say "not yet".

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:25:55 PM

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i do it when it is need and then only if she gets out of line

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:27:10 PM

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and when it comes to her being punshed i will do it

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:28:25 PM

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Master holds the same views. He says that if I asked for permission everytime I had to pee, he'd release me for being too stupid to live.

lmaoooooooooooooooooo

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:31:51 PM

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Given a task, I expect my submissive to fulfill that task to the best of her ability, and deal with unexpected obstacles as they arise with intelligence and ingenuity. I also expect her to adjust to changing circumstances as needed, including, if warranted, abandoning the specific task, and reporting to me what she encountered and why she decided as she did. I enjoy praising my submissive for her obedience, but also for her ability to problem solve, and her ability to decide when its a problem that needs to await my decision.
In essence, this is the opposite of what I understand micro management to be, since micro management by definition removes the subs decision making.
A relationship that reflects only my creativity would seem to me to be boring for both eventually, and micro managing anyone gets to overwhelmingly time consuming when carried to its extremes.
In my opinion, of course <S>

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:34:08 PM

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quote:

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I thoroughly dislike micromanagement. I prefer my service to be proactive and intuitive.

Master holds the same views. He says that if I asked for permission everytime I had to pee, he'd release me for being too stupid to live.

Oh, I don't know, it can be amusing to be asked to pee, and I say "not yet".

He can easily tell when I have to pee. So, if he's feeling evil he'll lean over and ask "Have to pee?" When he gets the answer, he sometimes will say "not yet".

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:36:50 PM

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Oh, I don't know, it can be amusing to be asked to pee, and I say "not yet".

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agreed but when your awoken at 3 am with that question its a bit less amusing.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:42:02 PM

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I could tolerate it if my Daddy was the sort that desired such control. I do not crave it. I think that it can make a submissive "feel" more controlled to be micromanaged. I do not need to feel that controlled in my daily existence to that extent, and I feel plenty controlled without it. My Dom has told me this is not an interest for him as well

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:47:20 PM

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I thoroughly dislike micromanagement. I prefer my service to be proactive and intuitive.

Me too, left to my own devices i can generally accomplish quite a bit. Though naturally my pair does manage a good portian of my life.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:48:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: alovingslavegirl

Masters-do You enjoy micromanaging Your slaves?
Slaves-do you like being micromanaged?

Micro-management is difficult for me to adhere to. i am very much a thinker - too much so as it has more than once led to punishment since i have thought instead of obeyed - LOL.

Master enjoys micromanagement at times, as part of my training - it's called slave mode (since i'm basically a submissive) - high protocol and He controls everything. It's a challenge for me. Mostly the part about not speaking until asked to or being spoken to. Micro-management presents the feeling to me of being a nuisance to Him - ahem - there i go thinking again.

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RE: Micromanagement - 7/10/2006 1:50:10 PM

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Micro-management is something I really haven't an inclination for. I feel it necessary to dictate certain aspects of My boys daily activity, and I do enforce certain restrictions on behavior he has expressed a desire to curb. But cannot see the relevance in having to micro-manage the day to day, minute to minute actions of another adult. I can imagine that if I ever found Myself in a situation where this was desired, I would find it tedious in the extreme.
I value a certain amount of self-discipline and motivation. I desire My boy to be proactive in not only satsifying his own needs, but in offering to satisfy Mine. If I had to tell him every little action that I desired to be preformed every moment of everyday, I would question his devotion. I find it very enjoyable to be offered services, as this shows a desire to be pleasing.
I think it undesirable and unrealistic to expect the Dominant in any healthy relationship to dictate everything. Where is the give and take? If you are being ordered with the understanding if the action is not done correctly and in a timely maner, punishment will follow. Then that is simply having the action taken from you by threat of force. There is no sacrifice, no give in the action, no desire to please above what is ordered of you. I would much prefer to have things given to Me freely on occasion, as it shows a much deeper understanding of the intricasies of D/s. There must be a balance in everything.

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