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ThePrincessKali -> RE: What is Tribute? (7/10/2014 4:19:51 AM)
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I think extortion might be a stretch. Personally I don't do blackmail but you might be surprised at the endless amount of sub men who ask Dommes to blackmail them. So in the cases you're talking about I, I wouldn't be surprised if the sub men had asked for blackmail, gotten it, and then freaked out. Hence the reason I don't indulge in it. And just as you stated some leave and some go back. But at the end of the day they are adults making conscious decisions about their own lives. I find that fin subs seem to be seen as weak helpless men and we evil Domme's are taking advantage of them. When in reality 90% of the time, they approach us.
And to give an answer to the OP question with a personal experience that best describes tribute: I had posted a blog or an ad on craigslist or backpages or one of those sites years ago about Findom. Somehow, a guy who wrote a blog about money management got ahold of my post and linked it with an article about Financial Domination. A man emailed me saying he had seen my post in an article and he had been seeking a situation like that for years but knew nothing of findom. He asked if he could send me a giftcard, I accepted. He then began sending me "tributes" via paypal and items from my online wishlist. I would send him photos of me in the shoes or bags he purchased. He told me to him, it was like "Goddess worship." And as in many old religions, you would pay tribute to your God or Goddess. I'm not saying I was his religion but he felt compelled to continue this. He never asked for anything in return, no sessions. I offered to send the photos as a thank you for the time and effort he spent getting to know me and finding out about my personal style so he could choose items he knew I would like. He would tell me that paying tribute to me brought him an overwhelming amount of joy. So to me that's what tribute is. I don't think of it as an exchange, I.E. I'll do this for x amount of money. That's paying for a service. A tribute is a gesture, putting them on a pedestal because you want to.
And to touch on bringing a tribute to a meet. I agree 100%. If I go on a vanilla date and the guy brings me flowers or a small thoughtful gift I will be much more likely to go out with them again. Not because I expect money from them but because of the sentiment behind it. It shows that someone really cares. On one of my online profiles on a vanilla dating site I mentioned that I was afraid of zombie movies and on a first date a gave me a book entitled, The Zombie Survival Guide. It wasn't an expensive gift but it showed he paid attention to what I had to say and was thoughtful. I didn't request it but it was a lovely gesture. I don't think it's any different than a Domme wanting a small tribute during a first meet to show sincerity.
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ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector
Tribute is a convenience word.
Pro-Dom(me) and pro-sub services are clear and well defined. Service for money.
Prostitution in the non-BDSM scene the same. Service for money.
Both legal or illegal depending on where you are.
But there were 2 other practices in BDSM were financial, goods or services exchange took place as part of lifestyle intensity & reality and they grew a variations of financial domination that is as close to extortion as you can get.
The first one was full dependency. The sub, after knowing the Dominant good, for long and having build a trust relationship, would when her situation allowed it increase the reality of power/control transfer by literally possess nothing any more and so donate it to the Dominant.
This happened with and without contract of mandatory care taking. Problems arose when something happened to the Dominant and if he didn't take any precaution for the case he passed or had an accident. And strangely, these precaution could be to transfer the contract to another Dominant without any say of the submissive, just like property. While for sure a number of the contract terms would not have been enforceable before a court of law, these subs wanted it and therefore it could happen.
The second one were the word tribute (or literally Paying Tribute) would better fit, is indeed in the BDSM play where subs offer all kinds of UNSOLICITED gifts or services to the Dominant. I know a Mistress that told me one of her male slaves was a carpenter and made her several top-notch dungeon tools such as a St A. Cross, a luxury wooden cage, a coffin, etc.
It is mostly this last category that migrated from UNSOLICITED to the SOLICITED gifts when a certain category of Dominants made there entry on the BDSM scene. Many of them did hardly know what BDSM was, with the exception that they could use it as a means of pressure.
From the mild "Where is my little present you bad slave?" to "You know Mistress prefers those little green bills!" to the extreme blackmail and threatening to no longer being allowed to visit the Dominant it all served to fill the cash register.
This is NOT pro-dom(me) or pro-sub, this is extortion.
Some people leave and don't come back, others give in. That is what paying tribute has become in a more then small number of cases. The BDSM scene just lends itself better for this kind of extortion then the prostitution or vanilla scene where no doubt people can also get grip on others passed the traditional relational bonds.
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