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LadyHugs -> RE: Why do I detest Dominant men? (7/11/2006 9:34:16 AM)
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Dear mistressrose10, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my youthful days in the lifestyle, I was indeed slave to several male Masters. Some whites, some blacks, some Native American Indians, some Asian, some Gay, some Bi-sexual and some Heterosexual, most were old (60s and 70s when I was in my late teens).
I have found that regardless of color, creed or sexual orientation, it really boils down to individual behavior. Yes, there were fantastic Masters, some in the middle and some were pure hazards and about as effective as a screen door on a submarine.
In my salad days of the lifestyle, Masters earned their leathers and were given leathers by their peers, when they were deemed fit and qualified to hold a title of a Master and before owning a slave. That said, there is no such standards or the means to support it. Only a handful of academies exist that offer training to other Masters and slaves. Now days, many "Masters" and or "slaves" are self 'titled' as it is so easy to do. But, just as everybody finds out no matter when they discovered, explored, joined and continued in the lifestyle; title, wearing leather, sex, color, height, weight, age and ability/disability does not make a Master and or slave. The contents of their character in harmony with skills and other qualities show forth and acknowledged, regardless of personal bias or scene myths.
The real danger is, when we judge a whole class of people by a small section of that class. Perhaps one can consider, that you are practicing reverse descrimination based on a small group of men, who come to many women and think we are 'toys for twats' and believe the BDSM romance novels and porn threads. However, seeing the caliber of fine gentlemen on this particular forum, et.al; I would ask that they be judged on their own merits and not be held accountable for acts done by strangers and or unidentified by the community. I am sure the Masters/Dominants who are male, have had similar engagements with people with disagreeable behavior and or attitude.
Although I tire at men who approach me, to which make excuses and attempt to cause me to submit, I do not let my frustrations govern my emotions but, feel sad at times that as far as BDSM, S&M, M/s and D/s has come, we have not made much progress when it comes to tolerance, respect and being able to separate individual prejudice from class/group/society/civilization prejudices. I am sure the gentlemen get dominant women bombarding them as to have them submit as well. To me, I am of the belief this is something we have in common and not exclusively a misery female dominants experience.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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