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FirmhandKY -> RE: Why do I detest Dominant men? (7/11/2006 10:58:59 AM)
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ORIGINAL: mistressrose10
I strive to be tolerant but for me there is no such thing as a Dominant man.The thought of being whipped or ordered around by a man raises my hackles and makes me shudder in disgust.I work for a male and even he shows me great respect in communicating with me because I will have it no other way.Don't get me wrong, I'm not a female supremacist , some women are superior and some not. I love and respect men in general but I have been contacted by a few so called Dominant men and wondered what the hell are they thinking?I seem to have no problem with the concept of a male dominating other males,but dominating women? Nuh uh.
I've also found responses from some on this forum to be quite obnoxious.While I don't think I need therapy, it bothers me a little that I should have this prejudice for this is obviously what it is.
I would like to hear from Mistresses how they view the concept of males being dominant over females.
Seems like you've hit a nerve, doesn't it mistressrose10?
Let me just respond in general to your post comments.
I strive to be tolerant but for me there is no such thing as a Dominant man.The thought of being whipped or ordered around by a man raises my hackles and makes me shudder in disgust.
I strive to be tolerant as well, but for me the thought of a Dominant woman in a personal relationship with me is ... painful. The thought of being whipped or ordered around by a woman raises my hackles and makes me shudder in disgust.
I work for a male and even he shows me great respect in communicating with me because I will have it no other way.
I've had dominant women (and dominant men and submissive men and submissive women) work for me, but I always show them great respect in communicating because I will have it no other way. To me, however, the more that someone "demands" respect, the more I preceive that they have a basic weakness of personality of some sort. I don't give respect because they demand it. I give them respect because I demand it of myself.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a female supremacist , some women are superior and some not.
I have a little bit of a problem squaring this sentence with your first sentence: for me there is no such thing as a Dominant man. While it's possible that there is a logical way to square these two statements, on the face of it, this appears to be a conflict in your reasoning. Perhaps it is an unresolved dilemma in your personality or understanding of human nature. I don't know. But if there is no such thing as a dominant man ... and some women are superior (does that mean dominant in your mind?), then what is the only logical conclusion? Please enlighten me, as I accept the possibility of less than full understanding of your beliefs.
but I have been contacted by a few so called Dominant men and wondered what the hell are they thinking?
I would suspect that no "dominant men" have contacted you at all, if - as I suspect - the men contacting you have been interested in establishing a relationship and/or "hooking up" for a physical relationship. I suspect that you have had contact with only hng's and dishonest men masquerading as "dominant" men. So ... please do not judge "dominant men" on the basis of the false sample that you have had contact with.
I seem to have no problem with the concept of a male dominating other males,but dominating women? Nuh uh.
I personally do not "get" men who allow women to dominate them. But it's their lives, and their choice, so I don't sweat it.
I've also found responses from some on this forum to be quite obnoxious.
Yup. Lotsa negative people post here. But some pretty smart and observant ones do as well. You have to learn how to sift through all the BS to find the jewels. Just like everywhere else in life. Just like in your search for a good submissive man.
While I don't think I need therapy, it bothers me a little that I should have this prejudice for this is obviously what it is.
Good bit of self knowledge, rose, and why I do not think you deserve all the negative comments above, and I think I've actually answered the question you are asking, which is: Are there really any such thing as a dominant man?
Yes, there are. However, there are more hngs, masqueraders and less than honest submissive men than there are dominant men.
FHky
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