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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 10:56:08 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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It is not on my list of enjoyable things at all. It honestly never has been. He's tried a couple of times and Ive endured it, but I've never had an "OMG love it" epiphany moment.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 11:04:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

If you don't mind, a brief comment here. I'm so glad to hear a femsub who doesn't think that having a Master who wants to bottom on occasion, especially one who enjoys getting pegged, is "un-Domly" of him. Believe it or not, there are male subs who think that fucking their Mistress is somehow "un-Dommely" of her. I'm talking about regular vanilla intercourse, not even BDSM or kinky stuff.


You're right and I certainly don't see anything un-Domly about him. My thoughts are, a sex act isn't what makes someone a Dom or a sub. If something feels good to him and it's not on my hard limit list, why the hell not.


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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 11:20:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

~FRing it~

It is not on my list of enjoyable things at all. It honestly never has been. He's tried a couple of times and Ive endured it, but I've never had an "OMG love it" epiphany moment.


Can I ask what you don't like about it?

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 11:32:21 AM   
Xnawtyx


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Status: offline 		Anal sex to me is like trying to stuff a square peg in a round hole ...

It just ain't gonna fit

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 11:36:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Xnawtyx

Anal sex to me is like trying to stuff a square peg in a round hole ...

It just ain't gonna fit


Peggy, you complain too much.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 11:52:38 AM   
miriamel


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Status: offline 		I love it, precisely because it tends to hurt a little and I find it to be so humiliating. I can't get enough.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 11:54:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Xnawtyx

Anal sex to me is like trying to stuff a square peg in a round hole ...

It just ain't gonna fit

I have a round peg.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:07:00 PM   
LetstalkboutRAP3


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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:14:42 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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ORIGINAL: LetstalkboutRAP3


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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

~FRing it~

It is not on my list of enjoyable things at all. It honestly never has been. He's tried a couple of times and Ive endured it, but I've never had an "OMG love it" epiphany moment.


Can I ask what you don't like about it?


Short answer is...it hurts. And it's not really the sort of pain I enjoy, so I personally don't enjoy it or seek it out. If it's his choice and he is in the dominant role, Im his to do with as he wants. But if it was up to me, it's not something Id choose

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:20:14 PM   
RareByrd


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Status: offline 		My take on it is that it is hot in theory--not really so much because of the taboo aspect, because it's really not all that taboo anymore in most circles these days, but because of the idea that the Dom is using his sub as "merely a hole". This appeals to subs that like to be used, swept away by Domly power.

Sometimes it's hot in reality too, but there are more potential pitfalls in performing this activity in real life than there are with many other activities. So, I wouldn't say it's just a porn thing, but it is easy to enjoy watching it happen in porn, where the realities of mess and too-intense pain and damage don't intrude.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:37:58 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		Honestly, it's all about good lube for me. Completely changed my outlook.

Now anal without lube like in the movies or some couples do allegedly, I can't imagine because it would hurt beyond what I think I can handle.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:42:58 PM   
smileforme50


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Personally, I love anal sex. Taking the hole considered forbidden...taboo...tight...pain/pleasure inducing...intimate. There is something so special about the moan that runs through he as I begin to push...the tremble...the louder groan when I push past her resistance.


You hit that nail right on the head.

I never orgasm from it....but for me it's a mental thing. There is something about anal that puts me into an incredibly submissive headspace that I completely enjoy.


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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:44:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Arturas

To enjoy all of her in a single session while she is bound and helpless will include forced anal sex while I talk dirty to her. It is an act of power and she protests of course but ultimately would be disappointed if I did not take her this way also. I use a condom for that and remove it before penetrating her vaginally again in between whippings. Not to talk dirty, the other thing.


I use a condom, too. Seems to me that unless your long-term dream is prostatitis, it is a really smart thing to use a condom. Why so many don't to me beggars belief. You don't need to be an epidemiologist to recognize that. I'm curious why so many don't? Of course, there are also those into ATM. I don't get that, either. There are ways to humiliate without the medical issues. It may be consensual, but it is neither safe nor sane.

As for why I like it? Assholes are tighter. It feels great (for me!).

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 12:56:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Honestly, it's all about good lube for me. Completely changed my outlook.

Now anal without lube like in the movies or some couples do allegedly, I can't imagine because it would hurt beyond what I think I can handle.


Yeah...very true. For me the initial pain is part of the attraction. Yes.....LOTS OF LUBE.....so the pain can still be intense sometimes (I've screamed into my pillow a few times....) but for me that pain is only for a few seconds and once he is completely in, not only does it no longer hurt, but it feels wonderful.

But like I said before.....what I love even more is the headspace it puts me in.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 1:08:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Xnawtyx

Anal sex to me is like trying to stuff a square peg in a round hole ...

It just ain't gonna fit

Ahhh...but the peg is round. And hard. And used just right.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 1:11:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: smileforme50


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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Honestly, it's all about good lube for me. Completely changed my outlook.

Now anal without lube like in the movies or some couples do allegedly, I can't imagine because it would hurt beyond what I think I can handle.


Yeah...very true. For me the initial pain is part of the attraction. Yes.....LOTS OF LUBE.....so the pain can still be intense sometimes (I've screamed into my pillow a few times....) but for me that pain is only for a few seconds and once he is completely in, not only does it no longer hurt, but it feels wonderful.

But like I said before.....what I love even more is the headspace it puts me in.
Good girl!

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 1:21:10 PM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		It seems a lot of people who don't enjoy anal sex were not introduced properly, i.e., gently and slowly, and with orgasms.
Every man I've had has been interested and was able to put his anxiety aside; the trick is to put a finger *against* and not in the anus at first; it allows them to feel the contractions of their orifice and perineum during their 'regular' orgasm; it astounds them. Then one lubricated pinky just inside the external sphincter, then to the inner sphincter, then a forefinger, then perhaps a toy, then a strap-on. And then: let the games begin!

And then you hear stories of just ramming dicks or toys inside without lube, let alone without excitation: shameful, if not assault. And then the next time the poor recipient will tighten up at even the thought: how sad.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 1:39:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

It seems a lot of people who don't enjoy anal sex were not introduced properly, i.e., gently and slowly, and with orgasms.
Every man I've had has been interested and was able to put his anxiety aside; the trick is to put a finger *against* and not in the anus at first; it allows them to feel the contractions of their orifice and perineum during their 'regular' orgasm; it astounds them. Then one lubricated pinky just inside the external sphincter, then to the inner sphincter, then a forefinger, then perhaps a toy, then a strap-on. And then: let the games begin!

And then you hear stories of just ramming dicks or toys inside without lube, let alone without excitation: shameful, if not assault. And then the next time the poor recipient will tighten up at even the thought: how sad.

Not only that, it isn't just a matter of lots of lube. I'm hearing that some women aren't reaching orgasm, and unless they are not able to come from masturbating whatsoever, there's no reason for this. They should be self-stimulating before and during the entire process, which will help the receiver relax her muscles and keep them from tightening back up. The body's natural response is to tighten up with contractions (this is an ejective aperture) and so you must counteract that.

You're absolutely right, Tantriq, about starting out small. Get the receiver used to experiencing pleasurable sensations externally (vibrator will do this handsomely, with the female rubbing her clitoris; male strokes himself or gets stroked if his hands are restrained), digital penetration initially, introduce a starter butt plug and/or small string of anal beads, then work your way up.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 1:47:25 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		Lol sometimes it's hard to self stimulate in handcuffs.

I should've clarified, for me, anal penetration will not make me cum in and of itself, but when we get there I've usually had a lot of orgasms from vaginal sex first.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/7/2014 2:05:32 PM   
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Lol sometimes it's hard to self stimulate in handcuffs.

I should've clarified, for me, anal penetration will not make me cum in and of itself, but when we get there I've usually had a lot of orgasms from vaginal sex first.

You're only 25.... Give it time and practice.

(I didn't have my first G-spot stimulated [usually referred to as a vaginal, vice clitoral] orgasm until I was in my early 30's.)

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