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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/10/2014 8:40:05 PM

shiftyw

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Pegging him is a hard limit though. I have no issues with what others do, it just turns me off. I actually wouldn't mind if he had some other chick do it for him though...

Fortunately my guy feels the same and pegging isn't even A discussion with us.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 8:05:43 AM

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Forbidden taboo blasphemy - someone already mentioned.

Some people get pleasure from it much as i do from the mighty muffin and cheap chardonnay, some people abhor it, some people like only it, some people can come from it, it alone, and so on. Not exactly rocket science or muffin heresy

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 8:53:48 AM

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You seem to be more open to the possibility of pegging being a Soft Limit, instead of an instant deal breaker, and this is very tolerant of you. But ultimately, the decision is yours, if the thought turns you off.

I don't know if it's "tolerant" inasmuch as it just is what it is. To me, the word "tolerant" in this context implies that there's something wrong if someone sees this as an absolute limit. To me, a limit like this is akin to someone saying "nope, not swallowing, EVER". Well hell, I absolutely DON'T get that one-- but I respect it as someone's prerogative.

I have never been involved with someone who even insinuated that they *might* want this, so anything that I say here is purely hypothetical. With that being said, the way that I feel today, September 11, 2014, is that the guy had better have other wonderful things going for him in order for me to even think about accepting this as a "thing" in our relationship.

That's the beautiful part of relationships like this-- there's no "must" or "should". If the interests don't match, one just moves on.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 9:45:30 AM

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Poor choice of word on my part, a poor substitute for "open to the remotest possibility of a snowball's chance in hell."
I understand completely. There are things I've done with one partner that I've never done with another, or would want to replicate again. (Not telling

)

It really does depend on whom you're with and how much that person means to you, and vice versa. There more than likely is a thing or two I'll consider with someone new that if asked, I would look at you like you had grown two heads and sprouted horns.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 9:52:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

(Not telling)

It's okay, we'll just make shit up.

Jus sayin

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 10:00:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal
(Not telling)

It's okay, we'll just make shit up.

Jus sayin

Uh-oh, you probably would, too. I'd better get a headstart on damage control.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 10:01:53 AM

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Good luck with that, Harpies descend on smut, truth, to them, just isn't tasty.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 10:06:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Poor choice of word on my part, a poor substitute for "open to the remotest possibility of a snowball's chance in hell."
I understand completely. There are things I've done with one partner that I've never done with another, or would want to replicate again. (Not telling)

It really does depend on whom you're with and how much that person means to you, and vice versa. There more than likely is a thing or two I'll consider with someone new that if asked, I would look at you like you had grown two heads and sprouted horns.

Absolutely, for sure. :)

When I first got involved with my current fill-in-the-blank...we did the "BDSM checklist"-- with things scaled on 1-5 (1 being lowest inclination, and 5 being "most definitely, want it every day") and "absolutely never, I don't care if there's a gun pointed to my head". That was several months ago, and I just pulled it back out. What's interesting to me, is that as I have gotten to know him, the 1's and 2's are still things that don't particularly interest me...but, now I'm saying "well, if he *really* wanted them, they might rate higher".

The "receiving anal" on his part is a "not gonna happen", so that issue is moot between us. But, it was interesting to take a look back on this and see how my own feelings on certain other issues have changed. As I have come to known him, what rated as a 4 or 5 to him and a 1 or 2 to me have taken on a different meaning. But, like you said....it just depends on who you are with.

So long as he respects my absolute limits as I have set them forth....I consider all else a fun exploration. Now, if he insists upon pressing the 1's or 2's incessantly, we might very well have an issue going forward-- but that's an issue for another time. :D

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 12:20:09 PM

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I've never really got it. Don't understand why anyone would have anything to do with particular orifice.
Do real people in real life do it or is it just in porn?
Is the female perspective different from the male?

Curiously, Mark.

Reality.

and oh what a beautiful reality it is

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 3:12:22 PM

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No ET, I take that back. You're not the rumor-mongering type. Neither am I.
Besides, the true sh!t is way-y-y more interesting.

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we did the "BDSM checklist"-- with things scaled on 1-5 (1 being lowest inclination, and 5 being "most definitely, want it every day") and "absolutely never, I don't care if there's a gun pointed to my head".

I like the 5-point ratings scale and think I'll start using that (more wiggle room than 1-3 and better focused than a 1-10 scale). I'm used to taking my own notes informally, but I should be more official about keeping track and having my sub do the same. Thanks!

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/11/2014 4:15:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

No ET, I take that back. You're not the rumor-mongering type. Neither am I.
Besides, the true sh!t is way-y-y more interesting.

Sometimes you have to make shit up because they just can't comprehend the truth. I've had the most amazing life... To the point the worlds most interesting man is a dull hack by comparison... But so many people are victims of their own sedentary complacency they find my truths unbelievable at best. My life is pretty feckin cool and I owe it all to my travel policy; if there is dysentery or toilet paper is your left hand, don't fucking go, and if it's both, die first.

Jus sayin

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/14/2014 8:15:39 PM

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creek, LOL, you have to change your avatar before you post another message like this! See post #44.

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i am looking forward to the first time my misstress straps one on and lets me have it

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/15/2014 5:47:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: shouldiQmark

I've never really got it. Don't understand why anyone would have anything to do with particular orifice.
Do real people in real life do it or is it just in porn?
Is the female perspective different from the male?

Curiously, Mark.

Yes Mark, real people fuck other real people in the ass.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 9/15/2014 5:51:39 PM

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I am trying to think of the last woman I didn't fuck in the ass and i can't think of one, more than a few have had orgasms being fucked in the ass, some can't even come without ass play.

Hell, one of my hot fantasies is putting enough rings in their labia so I can lock it up and they only get vaginal sex as a reward for being good. The one problem with that is that it them makes them start fantasizing about vaginal sex and it makes is special which is NOT how i want their minds thinking so doing so is counter productive. I have not yet found a mental path through that...

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 10/8/2014 9:11:10 AM

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I just wondered how porn stars get their anus so gaping big (those porn shots of anal sex with these huge things... their anus is very stretched and I wonder how it gets that way). Does it affect bodily functions?

Not really my cup of tea, but not a hard limit either... however, for the OP...the anus has many nerve endings around it and the sensation gives some people a lot of pleasure when playing, licking or inserting etc etc into that area. As someone afore mentioned it is a way to get to the prostrate for a man (their g'spot Orgasm trigger) and for a women the same applies (sans prostrate).

I have heard men say that the anus is tighter then the vagina, so it gives a more intense orgasm...

I'm more of an oral person myself...

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 10/8/2014 2:50:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

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People do it because its dirty good fun, like splashing in mud puddles on a rainy day. Other people don't like it because dirty and fun are mutually exclusive in their world. I feel bad for the latter group, they're missin' out.

Out of curiosity, have you ever been raped?

ExiledTyrant... I've noticed that many of your replies are pretty oblique, but this one really had me going "Wha???". What did you mean?

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 10/8/2014 3:00:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: Bhruic

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

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ORIGINAL: LetstalkboutRAP3

People do it because its dirty good fun, like splashing in mud puddles on a rainy day. Other people don't like it because dirty and fun are mutually exclusive in their world. I feel bad for the latter group, they're missin' out.

Out of curiosity, have you ever been raped?

ExiledTyrant... I've noticed that many of your replies are pretty oblique, but this one really had me going "Wha???". What did you mean?

You'd have to seen the deleted threads to understand. He was pretty hardcore pro rape, so I was curious if he'd been on the shitty end of the stick before.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 10/9/2014 7:11:46 AM

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You'd have to seen the deleted threads to understand. He was pretty hardcore pro rape, so I was curious if he'd been on the shitty end of the stick before.

Oh. Deleted posts in this thread? Or other threads he started that were deleted? I guess the board gives you no indication a thread has been deleted... unless I've been unobservant.

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 10/9/2014 7:45:03 AM

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It was a deleted thread. I'll mention it, but a Mod may come and edit it out (which is fine) because the debate turns ridiculous on here.

(this paragraph for Mod eradication) The thread was on the Yes means Yes law... California I think.

At any rate, the fine fellow in question came across extremely non-consenual and took the topic as a personal assault against his manhood. Play rape, Primal play, et al are all wonderful institutions, consenually, neither of those seemed to be the case, and with the "free pass" access to the life style now, most people never look at the other side of the kneel, or consider the strength it takes to bend that knee, or the triumph that is required to push a soft limit. So when I see someone so Rape obsessed that it is in their name or a frequent topic for them, I am confident that they've never been victimized, or have and are taking a sociopathic approach to it. Especially when they debate a Rape law as unjust.

My take on the Yes means Yes is everyone has a smart phone, use it.

ExiledTyrant: Shifty, I know we've been drinking for a bit, but for the record... look in the camera phone, you know I am going to bang you out tonight, tearing you up from the floor up till sun up, right?
Shifty: (Raises right hand and looks at camera) I solemly swear we are consensually up to no good.

Jus sayin

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RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? - 10/9/2014 10:11:33 AM

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There are several motivations for anal sex, one of which is an expression of dominance. Anal sex and dominance are so closely associated conquering warriors have been know to anally rape male captives to express their dominance over them. It wasn't considered a gay thing, it was a dominance thing.

Anal sex is also forbidden in some cultures so that makes it fruit of the forbidden tree.

. . . and some asses are just so round and lovely, you want to bury your cock in them.

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