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shiftyw -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 2:44:01 PM)

Oh I'm picking up what you're putting down, so noted...



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 2:52:46 PM)

Oh hell yeah, G spot orgasms are abso-fucking-lutely awesome! I didn't really get them until after I was in my 30's too, but damn...it was like entering the Promised Land when I did [:)]



windchymes -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 5:25:13 PM)

It's not the pain that makes it good, it's more a feeling of being somewhat in control of your own body so that you can avoid or minimize the pain that it SHOULD cause, but knowing you were able to "take" it and are now enjoying the crap out of it. (That pun was totally not intended, but it was left in on purpose, lol)



creekbottom57 -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 7:50:29 PM)

i am looking forward to the first time my misstress straps one on and lets me have it



Marc2b -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 8:15:01 PM)

You're not alone. I've never been an enthusiast myself. I tried it a couple of time just to see what it was like but all I kept thinking was:

Why am I sticking my people maker into the sewer pipe when the tunnel of love is right next door?



Gauge -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 9:36:54 PM)

I used to wonder why people liked it until this lady I knew wanted me to ass fuck her. She and I talked about how it was to be done and how I should go about things. She guided me every step of the way as far as entry was concerned, she told me when she was ready for me to let nature take its course. I think by her 5th orgasm I discovered that I enjoyed the hell out of the power it gave me, plus it is exceptionally pleasurable for both involved.

I am an addict now. My slut is too.

Done right it is amazing, done wrong it is a nightmare.



CreativeDominant -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 9:43:30 PM)

As I said earlier...the taboo...the forbidden...the tightness...the pain/pleasure inducing. Such a heady rush that adds to that feeling of power...and, even if only in that moment...that power is only enhanced by her moans and the intimacy that tells you "this ass is MINE".



tj444 -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 10:13:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: shouldiQmark

I've never really got it. Don't understand why anyone would have anything to do with particular orifice.
Do real people in real life do it or is it just in porn?
Is the female perspective different from the male?

Curiously, Mark.

I do love it, as long as the guy isn't huge and too aggressive.. its actually my fav sex to have.. So yeah, real people in real life do it.. although not for a while now since I don't have a boyfriend that can oblige.. I have pegged a guy before too tho, which is really strange cuz I am not used to using those particular leg muscles and I am not all that proficient at it..
I like watching hardcore gang bang anal porn too but its hard to find a good freebie vid that checks all the boxes for me..



FieryOpal -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/7/2014 11:44:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: shouldiQmark

Is the female perspective different from the male?

I missed your last question, but I couldn't really tell you this because I am limited to my female perspective (in both giving & receiving).
You might find these threads an insightful read, however:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_555101/tm.htm "Dominants who desire Anal"

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4594245/tm.htm "Dominant men recieving strap-on sex?"

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4619115/tm.htm "What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that people enjoy?"

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4712717/tm.htm "How to break a non-bdsm female into pegging gently and discreetly. :)" [as giver]



kdsub -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/8/2014 7:45:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LetstalkboutRAP3

Hey now guys. You're committing textual assault on that poor woman. That's not cool! :p


A little pepper with that ass salt and it would be delicious.. Wait... Did I just say that !!!!



littleladybug -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/9/2014 2:21:24 PM)

For me, I developed an affinity for anal with my last Dom. And, it was only because he liked it. Given the choice to receive, I'm more or less ambivalent.

In terms of "giving"....I can't imagine a situation where I would feel comfortable doing so. While I can respect what other people do..."to each their own"...for me, receiving anal sex is one of the most submissive things I can do, so it's just not going to happen that I would "give it" to my Dom. If he wants it....I'm just not the sub for him. Simple as that.



CaptR -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/9/2014 7:53:18 PM)

As has been stated anal sex is enjoyed by some, not so much by others. It's also used to express dominance or submission. For us it's all of the above. My partner and I don't incorporate it into our sex life on every occasion but with preparation it's very enjoyable when we do. She likes the varying degrees of pain it can offer and subsequent submission it implies along with her ability to orgasm when engaged in that type of intercourse. Preparation is very key to enjoying the act and for some, provides yet another facet through the giving and receiving of enemas. I can't stress the old phrase "cleanliness is next to godliness" enough. Depending on your god of course ;).



SweetlySadistic1 -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/9/2014 9:20:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: shouldiQmark

I've never really got it. Don't understand why anyone would have anything to do with particular orifice.
Do real people in real life do it or is it just in porn?
Is the female perspective different from the male?

Curiously, Mark.

Well, as the receiver, it's just not ever EVER going to happen EVER again. It hurts and, afterward, I always feel like taking a big dump & I don't think sex should make me feel like that. To be fair, my first husband introduced me to anal by repeatedly anally raping me without any prep or lube. Yeah, he was a TOTAL asshole.

Now as a giver w/ my strapon, I happen to love it, BUT only with a partner that also wants it. What I love about it is the intimacy of him offering me his "forbidden"" orifice, the way he loves it(I'd only do it with someone who does), the feeling of "ownership" that I get from taking his ass. I have to say that I love GIVING it, to where it's one of my favorite kinky things to do. If a guy thinks it's repulsive, I'd have to say he isn't for me. Luckily my boy loves it too.

SweetlySadistic1



InHisHeart -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 4:34:53 AM)

~FR'ing

I never saw receiving anal sex (or any sex act) as a submissive sex act or the one giving as having the power, the dominant one. That's why I don't have an issue or any feelings of role confusion with pegging Master when he occasionally wants it. I don't feel I have the "power" over him, I feel like a sub doing what her Master wants her to do.



FieryOpal -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 7:44:31 AM)


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ORIGINAL: InHisHeart

I never saw receiving anal sex (or any sex act) as a submissive sex act or the one giving as having the power, the dominant one.

My sentiments also, and in my mind I've always felt that lovemaking isn't confined within the bounds of what roles we're playing. Otherwise, engaging in sexual acts are meaningless to me, and I rarely do anything casually.
In fact, if I hadn't felt this way, I doubt I could have been sexually uninhibited enough with my former husband or with any lover, to have wanted to venture into trying out kinky BDSM-style sex in the first place.
If I had had that attitude override my desire to be the best lover that I could be to my mate, even with technically being the active party, giving head would have been a Hard Limit well in advance of having anal intercourse, that's for sure.

I also believe that if this hadn't been with my husband, I wouldn't have particularly cared for playing with a man's butt beyond occasional digital penetration, and only if it heightened his pleasure and was for his sake alone, not because doing so got my panties wet or anything along those lines. As far as I'm concerned intimate relationship context makes all the difference. I don't mess with some bitch's ass which is not owned by me exclusively, and after having had prerequisite erotic interactions.



littleladybug -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 1:59:33 PM)


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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


My sentiments also, and in my mind I've always felt that lovemaking isn't confined within the bounds of what roles we're playing. Otherwise, engaging in sexual acts are meaningless to me, and I rarely do anything casually.


It's honestly so fascinating to me to hear from you and InHisHeart about this. It just goes to prove that there is no "right way" to approach a D/s (or any other type of) relationship.

I know that my views on relationships have changed drastically over the years. Shoot, I can't believe what I thought I wanted years ago.... :) Who knows? Next week, my view on this issue may change... But, for now, it is what it is, which is, I will not be on the "giving end". Which is not to say that I don't appreciate what you both are saying...it's just not the way that I choose to engage in my relationships.

The "Pollyanna" part of me hopes that those people who sincerely are asking questions about being a "true Dom" or "true sub" will read this and see that there really isn't *one way* to do things. But, then again, I've been known to give people WAY too much of the benefit of the doubt when it comes to this.



mnottertail -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 2:03:00 PM)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJUtHuWy-9E ???????????????????



FieryOpal -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 2:30:18 PM)

OMG, ROFLMAO[sm=biggrin.gif]
Where on earth did you find that song? It's a trip.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJUtHuWy-9E ???????????????????

Ladybug, no woman should have to engage in sexual acts with which she is not comfortable or on board, or not ready for, without getting pressured into whatever that act might be.

You seem to be more open to the possibility of pegging being a Soft Limit, instead of an instant deal breaker, and this is very tolerant of you. But ultimately, the decision is yours, if the thought turns you off. [:)]



mnottertail -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 2:40:43 PM)

check your kids iPhones. its a fairly big hit. or was.



GotSteel -> RE: Anal sex: reality or just porn? (9/10/2014 6:58:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: shouldiQmark
I've never really got it. Don't understand why anyone would have anything to do with particular orifice.
Do real people in real life do it or is it just in porn?
Is the female perspective different from the male?

Curiously, Mark.


So previous girl LOVED anal, I'd almost say more than vaginal. My girl now is more lukewarm. She's had orgasms from just anal but she's also had bad experiences with things getting messy which I think has sort of dampened things. She is still way for reactive to the butt plug in her chastity belt than the dildo though.



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