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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit
how often do people looking for sex slaves actually use them for sex?

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

this is a question based on a discussion i had the other day where i was asked why men would behave a certain way... i didn't really have an answer. it came up again today so i figured i'd check out the archives but all i could find were threads(if you have a link to one that would be helpful) that stated what i thought without the "why". so here it goes:

how often do people looking for sex slaves actually use them for sex?

what i have found is that most only want sex a couple times a week, or once a day ranges near the top... he said that seems pointless, why have something if you dont use it.

so is there anyone who has experience with sex slaves that would like to share? or slaves that have encountered this as well or the opposite? feel free to leave an opinion if you dont look for sex slaves yourself but have encountered it as well.

i have my opinions but since they are limited to my own experiences and those of people i've been involved with i figured i'd see if someone could offer a broader scope of:

why someone would search for a sex slave if they dont intend to use it as such?

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

this is a question based on a discussion i had the other day where i was asked why men would behave a certain way... i didn't really have an answer. it came up again today so i figured i'd check out the archives but all i could find were threads(if you have a link to one that would be helpful) that stated what i thought without the "why". so here it goes:

how often do people looking for sex slaves actually use them for sex?

what i have found is that most only want sex a couple times a week, or once a day ranges near the top... he said that seems pointless, why have something if you dont use it.

so is there anyone who has experience with sex slaves that would like to share? or slaves that have encountered this as well or the opposite? feel free to leave an opinion if you dont look for sex slaves yourself but have encountered it as well.

i have my opinions but since they are limited to my own experiences and those of people i've been involved with i figured i'd see if someone could offer a broader scope of:

why someone would search for a sex slave if they dont intend to use it as such?

What DS said, but it could also be that perhaps their idea of a 'sex slave' is different than what we (in general) would consider a sex slave to be.

Who knows

As long as those involved are on the same 'page', who cares what we think about it.

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

this is a question based on a discussion i had the other day where i was asked why men would behave a certain way... i didn't really have an answer. it came up again today so i figured i'd check out the archives but all i could find were threads(if you have a link to one that would be helpful) that stated what i thought without the "why". so here it goes:

how often do people looking for sex slaves actually use them for sex?

what i have found is that most only want sex a couple times a week, or once a day ranges near the top... he said that seems pointless, why have something if you dont use it.

so is there anyone who has experience with sex slaves that would like to share? or slaves that have encountered this as well or the opposite? feel free to leave an opinion if you dont look for sex slaves yourself but have encountered it as well.

i have my opinions but since they are limited to my own experiences and those of people i've been involved with i figured i'd see if someone could offer a broader scope of:

why someone would search for a sex slave if they dont intend to use it as such?

What DS said, but it could also be that perhaps their idea of a 'sex slave' is different than what we (in general) would consider a sex slave to be.

Who knows

As long as those involved are on the same 'page', who cares what we think about it.

I agree.... ==> IMO <== I think the term "sex slave" can describe a variety of things.

It can be someone who will perform a particular act/kink that nobody else will for the person looking for a slave.

I've talked to men who want a sex slave that they can trade around with their friends

I've talked to guys who describe what they want as a "sex slave" when all they are looking for is someone who will never say "no". Maybe they're just tired of their wives and girlfriends only giving it to them once a week when they really want it 3 times a week.

Who knows?

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yeah the sharing/free hooker reason was one i gave, the other being that it's about appearances. they want to look like they have more need than they do... thanks for the opinion. everyone i know is either a sex or service slave on the sub side so i was wondering if it was just the ones i run into or if it was semi universal. he obviously just overestimates the libido of other men. but a girl trying to tell a guy that most guys dont need to have sex all day isn't very convincing for some reason :P

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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yeah the sharing/free hooker reason was one i gave, the other being that it's about appearances. they want to look like they have more need than they do... thanks for the opinion. everyone i know is either a sex or service slave on the sub side so i was wondering if it was just the ones i run into or if it was semi universal. he obviously just overestimates the libido of other men. but a girl trying to tell a guy that most guys dont need to have sex all day isn't very convincing for some reason :P

I have met others over the years who defined some of their girls as 'sex slaves'. These girls were, willingly, passed around their owners friends for sexual use.
I have also met some who defined their 'sex slaves' as girls who were available anytime, anywhere, for anything sexual.
And then, I have met some who simply had girl friends who were defined as sex slaves.

Each to their own. It's not up to me to tell them if they are right or wrong. As long as everyone is happy...none of my fucking business.

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

While it wasn't really a slave dynamic, I was with a guy who wanted a purely sexual relationship. After getting together once, he would do the expected routine of only contacting me when he got horny. Impulsive as hell, would make plans for us to get together that night... and not show up. Fell off the radar for weeks at a time. Then he'd try again like there was nothing wrong with it. Put up for it way longer than I should have, but that's done now.

So my experience with that is similar to what you've described if not worse. It really baffles to me to this day. You HAD casual sex, dude. Why'd you keep walking away?

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

how often do people looking for sex slaves actually use them for sex?
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why someone would search for a sex slave if they dont intend to use it as such?

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

how often do people looking for sex slaves actually use them for sex?
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why someone would search for a sex slave if they dont intend to use it as such?

This strikes me as strange as well, having a sex slave or calling your sub your sex slave and then under-utilizing her or him???

I could not have just a sex slave in the strictest sense, because I can't see using a man for sex and not wanting him to be my mate, companion and partner.
There's also no way that I would share him--I'm too possessive for that. This doesn't mean that I wouldn't joke around about him being my sex slave or my love slave.

I would think that the type of person who wants a sex slave for nothing other than sexual gratification would be a sex addict with a strong libido, expecting sex multiple times daily. Once a day or every couple of days at the very minimum. If not, then it might be an ego insecurity issue where he's being a poseur.
That's what I would presume and would fall in line with the attitude of wanting sex on call, or sex on demand. If it's only going to be twice a week, then that's not really having a sex slave (and if this s-type is performing other duties and functions, then s/he is serving as a slave or submissive in general within the D/s dynamic). The sex provider would be more like a booty call by providing the benefits of a free hooker.

The way I see it, if a sex slave is going to get passed around, then her/his Dominant isn't a Master so much as he's merely a pimp. Even if no money changes hands, he is still in the position of personal gain by barter or freebies, calling in favors as needed, perhaps having something "over" on another man that he can use as leverage by pimping out his slave.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Interesting because my first thought is that the only time he wants her to not be able to say no is when he wants sex, and that the rest of the time they're power equal.

Which isn't the same as a bedroom submissive who can have limits including no sex during migraines.