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SusanofO -> How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 4:44:23 AM)

This isn't really a poll, or I'd put it in the Polls and Other Random Stupidity section.
I am simply wondering how many Dominants or Masters and submissives or slaves and Switches out there enjoy (or dislike) this realm of bdsm.

When I speak of begging - I am not talking about whining, annoying requests. 

I am speaking of the soft, sweet pleading for someone to allow someone else to do something, or for someone to stop doing something to someone (discipline, maybe)?

I know some people equate this with humiliation, but that comparison has just never computed for me, especially since I deeply trusted the person I was with when I engaged in this. I always thought of begging as simple, deep power exchange, mostly in verbal terms.

*In case anyone hasn't already guessed, I am a huge fan of this (but am also seeking honest comments about why people love it, hate it, or are indifferent to it. Or, perhaps, have never tried it).

Any comments? Who likes it? (or hates it) and why? Just curious...really.

I wanted to post a new question, and also have been curious about why other people like it, or not. As for me, I can honestly say it makes me feel like I am fully in another's hands, so to speak. That, plus, the person I was with at one time really appreciated it when I did it. But I fantasized about it before that, too.
But I certainly can understand why some might not appreciate it, I really can.

- Susan  



JessieMe -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 4:52:59 AM)

I have been told to beg for things before by a Dominant.. I hate it but only because I dont think I am very good at it. When someone tells me I must beg, my mind goes blank and I dont know what to say at all. Of course.. anytime I am ordered by a Dom to do something, my mind kind of goes blank and I go on auto pilot as I simply do as told.. This one is harder because it requires me to be verbal which I am not when I am on said auto pilot. LOL



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 4:59:38 AM)

Thanks for the reply. I am not sure I could beg if I were in "sub-space" (I have been there; I am hardly coherent, let alone verbal, then).

- Susan



amlonging -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:04:45 AM)

I love begging...it fulfills a need in me.  I also love to hear others beg, that also fulfills a need in me. Begging to have a cock thrust down my throat or used in my ass allows my submissive nature a release of sorts, a giving up of my mind and body.
When I have requested girls to beg for me or for the Dom in my life, it makes me realize another is willing to be totally giving and at the mercy of another ...something I value.  



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:40:43 AM)

Nobody wants to talk about begging? I know, I know....you're waiting for me to beg you. Okay! Please? I promise I'll be good. Thanks. (I am teasing). [:D]

- Susan



irishbynature -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:44:12 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

This isn't really a poll, or I'd put it in the Polls and Other Random Stupidity section.
I am simply wondering how many Dominants or Masters and submissives or slaves and Switches out there enjoy (or dislike) this realm of bdsm.

When I speak of begging - I am not talking about whining, annoying requests. 

I am speaking of the soft, sweet pleading for someone to allow someone else to do something, or for someone to stop doing something to someone (discipline, maybe)?

I know some people equate this with humiliation, but that comparison has just never computed for me, especially since I deeply trusted the person I was with when I engaged in this. I always thought of begging as simple, deep power exchange, mostly in verbal terms.


Any comments? Who likes it? (or hates it) and why? Just curious...really.

I wanted to post a new question, and also have been curious about why other people like it, or not. As for me, I can honestly say it makes me feel like I am fully in another's hands, so to speak. That, plus, the person I was with at one time really appreciated it when I did it. But I fantasized about it before that, too.
But I certainly can understand why some might not appreciate it, I really can.

- Susan  


For me, I think it's about the anticipation of what will come after I beg. Now, it would be a bummer if I begged and didn't get what I was begging for (lol).Perhaps that would be a punishment?

The begging is like a buildup I suppose. Honestly Susan, I never really thought of why I like begging--but it's something to think about[;)]
Irishbynature



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:46:10 AM)

Thank you! I appreciate the reply!

- Susan



DoctorDubious -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:52:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

This isn't really a poll, or I'd put it in the Polls and Other Random Stupidity section.
I am simply wondering how many Dominants or Masters and submissives or slaves and Switches out there enjoy (or dislike) this realm of bdsm.

When I speak of begging - I am not talking about whining, annoying requests. 

I am speaking of the soft, sweet pleading for someone to allow someone else to do something, or for someone to stop doing something to someone (discipline, maybe)?

I know some people equate this with humiliation, but that comparison has just never computed, for me, especially since I deeply trusted the person I was with when I engaged in this. I always thought of begging as simple, deep power exchange, mostly in verbal terms.

*In case anyone hasn't already guessed, I am a huge fan of this (but am also seeking honest comments about why people love it, hate it, or are indifferent to it. Or, perhaps, have never tried it).

Any comments? Who likes it ?(or hates it) and why? Just curious...really.

I wanted to post a new question, and also have been curious about why other people like it. As for me, I can honestly say it makes me feel like I am fully in another's hands, so to speak. That, plus, the person I was with at one time really appreciated it when I did it. But I fantasized about it before that, too.
But I certainly can understand why some might not appreciate it, I really can.

- Susan  


Hey Susan and all...

I don't equate this with humiliation at all.

Just last night I had an hour-long conversation
with a major Marin County masochist and complete sweeetie
(you know who you are, Darlin,  so the Irish are well represented)
about the artistry involved in taking your partner just past
her percieved limits or endurance... just barely past...
... and have her beg... or gently sob....

"Don't!... Stop! .. No... don't...stop... don't stop, don't stop, don't stop!"

And stopping there. Connecting. Whispering. Kissing.
Her not knowing if it has stopped.... but underneath the sensations,
the longing still there....

And he slowly starts again... building again...

She, the marin-mother-matron-aquiesence,
told me those were among the best beatings of her life,
and I... from the other side had to agree.

>>Who likes it ?(or hates it) and why?

I can't imagine either playmate not liking a space like that.

What's the kick.. the kink?
For me, it feels like the yin/yang dance
is just flowing....

Now, this conversation really was superficially about pain...
but the unspoken subject was, I think, connection.

And the ordeal doesn't have to involve nerve-ending/sensation space,
it could be anything where the trust and surrender are deepened...extended...
.... and the begging can be the with eyes, or the body language.... not just words...
in fact, I know it's more satisfying for me without the pain extremes.

How about a simple directive like
"stick your tits out like you're
as proud of 'em as I am...
and walk down this nude beach naked like the
Queen of the Servants...."

No pain there, no humiliation
but they eyes may beg... plead....
"don't make me do this yet, Sir..."

******************************************

Sure wish that "just past the edge" place wasn't so rare for me, but it is.

*******************
As for the more common sort of begging, that you describe...
to strictly answer your question...
... it seems to me that it's just a wonderfully verbal/auditory form
of the surrender-samba in vibrations of the air
instead of reverberations of the flesh...or implications of the command...

Those pleading words make tangible the exchange of power
that some of us auditory folk find stimulating and satisfying.
They give a form and substance to the invisible dynamic of power.

But strip away all the rationalizations,
and you come to the truth...

I love it 'cause I love it. Why not?

It's equally valid not to give a shit.

And usually I don't.
Who wants to drink champagne at every meal?

DD
ps... oops, edit added here...
please adjust for gender, kink, and power
political-correctness vocab.



sophia37 -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:54:21 AM)

Hmmm. Lets see. Begging. Do I like it? Do I want it? Do I need it? Oh I like it. Oh I want it! Oh I need it! 



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 5:54:57 AM)

Thank you, Doctor. I always appreciate your well-thought out answers, I really do.

Thanks to sophia, too. Nice to not feel alone - hey, I know I am not alone. But am wondering if this is a shameful topic for some? I don't consider it shameful.
I mean, is this any more shameful than, say, knifeplay? Or using a tens unit? If, so, I am not sure why that would be the case.  

- Susan



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:06:02 AM)

I LOVE to beg. My Master enjoys it alot too. We both really get very excited if you know what I mean. Of course it isn't done all the time, but alot.



DoctorDubious -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:06:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Thank you, Doctor. I always appreciate your well-thought out answers, I really do.

Thanks to sophia, too. Nice to not feel alone - hey, I know I am not alone. But am wondering if this is a shameful topic for some? I don't consider it shameful.
I mean, is this any more shameful than, say, knifeplay? Or using a tens unit? If, so, I am not sure why that would be the case.  

- Susan


The shame is in your mind,
not in the knife or the words.

Or not.

DD



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:08:08 AM)

I like it a lot, too (I know I already said that).
I never have considered it shameful. I've even felt greedy, at times, for doing it - even if it was requested. But - darn - it just feels so good.

- Susan



Caretakr -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:12:06 AM)

It's lovely to have begging as an affirmation of a need.

Especially when it's something rather humiliating, that a girl has a love/hate thing with.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:16:28 AM)

Yes! It is a blatant affirmation of need from a submissive person, and (I think) a blatant fulfillment of a need for affirmation of power for a Dominant person - and a raw power exhange, at the same time...I agree. And - it feels really good, too. 

Three cheers for begging!! [:)] [:D] [;)] [8|] 
God, I am in a crazy mood this morning...somebody help me before I hurt myself!...

Hey, despite the apparent one-sidedness of this thread, I hope people who hate it, or plain just don't care about it either way write in, too.

- Susan



DoctorDubious -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:18:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Thank you, Doctor. I always appreciate your well-thought out answers, I really do.

Thanks to sophia, too. Nice to not feel alone - hey, I know I am not alone. But am wondering if this is a shameful topic for some? I don't consider it shameful.
I mean, is this any more shameful than, say, knifeplay? Or using a tens unit? If, so, I am not sure why that would be the case.  

- Susan


then go check your frickin email
instead of makin me wonder
if I'm talkin into space for days
about U or Jennifer, or whatever.

go get it  NOW, ... you've been up all night like me anyways, right?

DD, a vulgar old goat



MrrPete -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:19:12 AM)

Susan,

I love when a woman uses her womanly wiles on me [beeging]
using her sweet syrupy voice, sometimes touguing my ear, rubbing
me.

Doesn't work but I love the attention.

Actually, it's the only time I allow a sub to "Top from th bottom."
Whether it works or not is entirely dependant on what she wants.
It helps tremendously if it's something I want anyway. :)



DoctorDubious -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:19:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Yes! It is a blatant affirmation of need from a submissive person, and perhaps a fulfillment of a need affirmation of power for a Dominant person - and a raw power exhange, at the same time...I agree. And, it feels really good too. Three cheers for begging. [:)]

Hey, despite the apparent one-sidedness of this thread, I hope people who hate it, or plain just don't care about it either way write in, too.

- Susan


didn't I say sometimes I don't give a shit?

DD



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:21:11 AM)

Yes, you did. And, okay. I will. - Susan



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:34:48 AM)

I do like making a woman beg. Her soft pleading as I merrily do what I will to her. Yep, it wouldn't be the same if I didn't make her beg.



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