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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/14/2014 7:30:36 PM   
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Of course lol, these are only what I would envision the perfect mate to be. There is no such thing as 'the perfect mate'
so, many of these would most likely fall by the wayside. I am ok with that as long as I get the things that are really important like: honest, loyal, male, Dominant/Alpha, financially secure, somewhat intelligent, not a bigot, racist, or homophobe.

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 8:07:21 AM   
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I don't know, I think men only think they can have sex 3 times a day.

I know I am old and forgetful so I have taken to marking them down in a notebook I keep on the nightstand.



But long term relationship and actually living up to it, I've never dated a man who can actually do it.

Perhaps you should broaden your search?



Maybe just the beginning , that's it. It will die down to 3 times a week or worst.

I think I read someplace that the average married couple is down for the bounce about once a month so you may be setting your sights a little high

I feel like they won't feel the desire for sex eventually if a woman is always available for him to fuck.
I think you are mistaken


I think all those wives who refuses sex often and keep them starving are on to something.

How to encourage their husbands to cheat on them.


And for me, I don't need alot to get into the mood. I just need to be touch, and I'm in the mood. Also the more sex I have, the more my sexual appetite increases, it does not decrease, sex is like foreplay itself that turns me on more for me. I think men's appetite decreases with more sex they have.

I think you have been dating the wrong kind of men.




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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 8:12:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well somebody needs to deliver this male sex god who can't get enough of sex to me!
I keep meeting men with low sex drive and they think I'm psycho and excessive with how much I want sex all the time.
I'm always getting feedback like, "You drain me!", "You suck the life out of me", "I'm sexed out!"
And it sucks!

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 8:22:46 AM   
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This means if it were possible to find someone who embodies what you want, need and desire in your ideal mate and life partner, what would he or she be like? You could view this person as your soul mate, twin flame or a kindred spirit, your Most Significant Other.

My ideal mate would possess these characteristics (in no particular order):

1.For ltr I think a pulse is pretty important.
2.I would perfer someone of the opposite sex.
3.Blind or at least some visual imparement might be usefull.
4.Horney.
5.Smokin' hawt.
6.Able to drive a stick shift.
7.Single.
8.Not afraid to run with scissors.
9.Kinkier than a can full of fishin' worms.
10.Ethical.


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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 8:28:12 AM   
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Well somebody needs to deliver this male sex god who can't get enough of sex to me!

He is not a god...he is but a mear mortal who lives in the deserts of the southwestern u.s.

I keep meeting men with low sex drive and they think I'm psycho and excessive with how much I want sex all the time.

I don't doubt that you are psycho and excessive in your sexual needs . Those are some of your positive aspects. The issue is that you are gud. Well there are other issues but mear mortals cannot walk on water.



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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 8:31:52 AM   
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The issue is that you are gud.

Did you just call me a Genital Ulcer Disease? That's not nice!

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 8:46:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		No Greta, GUD=Geographically UnDesirable, considering that you are way out in Singapore and therefore not local.

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 11:05:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
I don't know, I think men only think they can have sex 3 times a day.

I don't know any man that thinks this way (myself included).
3 times an hour maybe... but not 3 times a day!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75
But long term relationship and actually living up to it, I've never dated a man who can actually do it.

I do... frequently. As does my brother and my son.
I also know that my daughter's fiance does too!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75
Maybe just the beginning , that's it. It will die down to 3 times a week or worst. I feel like they won't feel the desire for sex eventually if a woman is always available for him to fuck.

I find quite the opposite.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75
I think all those wives who refuses sex often and keep them starving are on to something.

Yeah... a divorce!!!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75
And for me, I don't need alot to get into the mood. I just need to be touch, and I'm in the mood.

That goes for me and most men I know.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75
Also the more sex I have, the more my sexual appetite increases, it does not decrease, sex is like foreplay itself that turns me on more for me.

It does for a lot of people.
But try telling that to OrgasmDenial who seems to think the opposite.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75
I think men's appetite decreases with more sex they have.

Then from what other guys I know, you'd be wrong!

I think thompson was spot-on: your issue is you are GUD as well as the type of society that surrounds you.


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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/15/2014 4:54:59 PM   
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As does my brother and my son.
I also know that my daughter's fiance does too!


LOL! How do you know? You check out on them?

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/17/2014 9:12:49 PM   
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Like a real tiger

Funny that noone added the "appearance" aspect of the ideal mate
Am i the only one that is truely honest about this?

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/17/2014 11:13:45 PM   
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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/18/2014 3:10:50 AM   
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Funny that noone added the "appearance" aspect of the ideal mate
Am i the only one that is truely honest about this?

Probably just because we're trying to keep this list down to less than 20 items!
Yes, it is true that most of us have these near-"fetishy" predilections.
This isn't the "Compromise" thread topic, but I think that as you get older, intrinsic qualities tend to outweigh the extrinsic. (Not always, with some people)
When I was not yet in my 30s, like you, I valued outward appearances more.
For instance, I was only attracted to men with blue eyes who had neatly trimmed facial hair, preferably at least 4" taller than I am.
They couldn't be skinny or flabby, but other than that, I was (and still am) flexible about physique.
They also had to be well-endowed, but not a mutant. (This requirement hasn't changed. )

I used to take it for granted before I got married that most men in my dating pool would have a full head of (tuggable) hair. Not so anymore. So I do have an additional criterion that wasn't an issue in the past. The same with male sexual performance and virility, which should go without saying, but isn't always the case in my age group.

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/18/2014 8:22:06 AM   
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She needs a brand new house
On an episode of Cribs
And a bathroom I can play baseball in
And a king size tub big enough
For ten /s's plus me

She'll need a credit card that's got no limit
And a big black jet with a bedroom in it
Gonna join the mile high club at thirty-seven thousand feet

She'll need to get me a new tour bus full of old guitars
My own star on Hollywood Boulevard
Somewhere between Cher and James Dean is fine for me


I'll be great like Elvis without the tassels
she'll hire me eight body guards that love to beat up assholes
I'll even sign a couple autographs so I can eat my meals for free
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On a serious note, I have more virtues than weaknesses, but where may weaknesses lie, I need her (them) to have strength. A 100% participant in the dynamic of our lives, attentive, intelligent, and PRESENT is what I look for. (If the present part throws you, you're not really ready for a LTR)

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/18/2014 8:40:14 AM   
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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/19/2014 9:12:36 AM   
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Funny that noone added the "appearance" aspect of the ideal mate
Am i the only one that is truely honest about this?

You failed to note that I list "smokin hawt" as being only slightly less important than a pulse...

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/19/2014 12:03:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: thompsonx


ORIGINAL: NoyaQB

Funny that noone added the "appearance" aspect of the ideal mate
Am i the only one that is truely honest about this?

You failed to note that I list "smokin hawt" as being only slightly less important than a pulse...



Appearance isn't a big deal for me, I'm more interested in whats between a persons ears than how they look. I also wouldn't want to be with someone who only wanted me for some physical attribute - big boobs or whatever.

Intelligence is, I couldn't be with someone who was stupid, they have to be on a par with or be more intelligent than I am to dominate me. (Pretty hard to find because I'm like a genius :-)) Not just academic intelligence though, emotional intelligence too, plus some good old common sense.

I'm too lazy to write all the things that would make an ideal partner right now so I'll just stick to that one thing, it's probably the thing I look for above everything else.








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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/19/2014 4:32:34 PM   
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Appearance isn't a big deal for me, I'm more interested in whats between a persons ears than how they look.

A mouth is between the ears


I also wouldn't want to be with someone who only wanted me for some physical attribute - big boobs or whatever.

So being of the opposite sex is not on your list?

Intelligence is, I couldn't be with someone who was stupid, they have to be on a par with or be more intelligent than I am to dominate me. (Pretty hard to find because I'm like a genius :-))

Can you drive a stick shift?


Not just academic intelligence though, emotional intelligence too, plus some good old common sense.

How much common sense does it take to run with scissors?











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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/23/2014 9:10:48 AM   
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If I thought it was possible to find someone worthwhile, I would say someone who appreciates the essential me and not some idealized version of me that they construct.

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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/23/2014 7:47:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Assuming that the potential mate in question is both a sexual partner and a romantic partner (I've had romantic connections that didn't involve sex):

Highly intelligent
Adaptable
Healthy and active
Speaks some form of English that I can easily understand
Not old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son
Polyamorous or poly-friendly



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RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? - 10/24/2014 10:59:11 AM   
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