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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 12/24/2014 11:54:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Shifty, you should try and go to,a spa for a few days. I have done that in the past and its great. Go to a health spa so your diet is taken care of.

I went to an amazing one called The Nemocolon Woodland resort in PA. They have 5 restaurants to choose from, great massage therapists and gyms, hiking trails, etc. no one bothers you.

Not cheap otherwise I would go back.

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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 12/24/2014 11:22:51 PM   
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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 1/3/2015 4:18:02 AM   
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Sea Fever
BY JOHN MASEFIELD

I must go down to the seas again, to the lonely sea and the sky,
And all I ask is a tall ship and a star to steer her by;
And the wheel’s kick and the wind’s song and the white sail’s shaking,
And a grey mist on the sea’s face, and a grey dawn breaking,

I must go down to the seas again, for the call of the running tide
Is a wild call and a clear call that may not be denied;
And all I ask is a windy day with the white clouds flying,
And the flung spray and the blown spume, and the sea-gulls crying.

I must go down to the seas again, to the vagrant gypsy life,
To the gull’s way and the whale’s way where the wind’s like a whetted knife;
And all I ask is a merry yarn from a laughing fellow-rover,
And quiet sleep and a sweet dream when the long trick’s over.


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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 1/3/2015 4:48:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Gauge

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I need encouragement. I'm having a difficult time lately. I don't want to get specific, but I am having more down days than I am good ones. I am struggling to keep my chin up and to keep going... I know that I won't give up, but I am tired... so tired.


Gauge I too wish you could disclose more, it would be nice to be able to give more than a generic boost but I understand. I'm sorry you're having a rough time of it. A couple of years ago when I was having a hard time I read a book called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. One of the things they recommend is to ask yourself how important the things you're stressed/depressed about will be a week from now, a month from now, a year from now. It helps put things in perspective. In any case it isn't forever, it's now. That may seem insurmountable but it isn't. In any case my inbox is open if you want to talk. Hugs to you.

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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 2/6/2015 7:15:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I need support because I still am so shocked that I got cancer. Anger is more like it.

I used to tell people, whatever is going wrong, at least I don't have cancer!

And then somebody up there just laughed.

I find that I have only myself to rely on for emotional support because I don't like to burden friends, I feel like i have to reassure and hold up my parents and family, shrinks cannot really help and I don't have a badass/empathetic Dom right now.

So it's me, myself and I who has to make decisions, take of myself, laugh, cry, rage, despair, be calm and get over myself.

However, I will take prayers even though I am not religious!



I am having a tough time responding to this, not because I don't know what to say, but because every time I write something it sounds like a myriad of platitudes.

It is terrible to have to to through something like this, to feel alone in doing so is even more difficult.

I have to tell you, that you should burden your friends, that is why we have friends, to share our lives with. Sure it may be fairly heady stuff with the cancer and all, but frankly, if they can't be supportive of you when you need it, then why do you have them as friends in the first place?

Answer this question: Would you be supportive of your friends if one of them came to you asking for support because they had cancer? If you answered yes, then there is no reason not to lean on your friends.

You are trying to be strong, and that is good, but frankly, you need a lift from those around you. Why not allow them to give it to you? Life is far too short to have to do everything on your own, sometimes we need help. They may want to help, but you aren't letting them.

You sound like a strong person, I am too, but never believe that you are above reaching out for help. The hard part is accepting it when it is offered because we aren't used to that.

Hang in there and fight like hell. If you need a boost, come on back here and I'll be more than happy to recharge your batteries.


Great advice, Gauge.
Wish I could take it myself.
Even seeing those that do reach out here, support sites, or in real life I still can't bring myself to do it. I wish I had the strength of those that do. I'll try to speak up but nothing comes out. I'll type up a long post then delete it before posting.
I have no problem sharing past issues I may have encountered, but not while going through something.
Breadcrumbs, something to just let it out, is all I can do.

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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 2/6/2015 8:07:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Gauge, we all languish, to varying degrees, and some people absolutely get the deep end of the shaft.

But when you feel like you're going down for the count, do yourself a favour.

Remember that every person encouraging you here has a hand out to help you back up and out of it. Mine included.

Take one if you need it.



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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 2/6/2015 8:20:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is a support group for those suffering from chronic pain and depression on FL. I joined there just to contribute to one girl in particular but the people who also advised her had been down that road as well and gave her wonderful and comforting words. We all have bad days, especially when life doesn't allow the opportune to be weak even for a moment but it is always darkest before the dawn. I am having my patience tried with other people lately but trying to be patient and keep my eye on the end game. Waiting for me is hard, even harder when deadlines aren't being met and I feel like everyone except myself are incompetent idiots. But I breathe deeply, indulge in nerd hobbies and wade through the waiting process while the snails operate 1000 times slower than me.

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RE: I Need Encouragement... - 2/6/2015 8:59:41 PM   
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Tomorrow.
A sweet, familiar scent.
A friend's smile.

There is nothing but now, and now, and all the nows to come. When you feel constrained in one way, think of all the ways you are not. And remember that all of you, and especially those free parts of you, continue to move forward.

How you take the next now is up to you, and your perception. And you own that perception.

Don't let it own you, you're better than that.

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