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Even after looking that up, I can get no sense out of it.

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www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cock+block
Urban Dictionary
cock block. One who prevents another from scoring sexually. (with M3 even though it's still a pie in the sky dream.) [:D]

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
You'll see it all the time with messages on the other side. My inbox here and on Fet is flooded with guys who think that because we're on a kink site, the regular rules of engagement don't apply and it's perfectly acceptable to demand blowjobs and cam sessions.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
You'll see it all the time with messages on the other side. My inbox here and on Fet is flooded with guys who think that because we're on a kink site, the regular rules of engagement don't apply and it's perfectly acceptable to demand blowjobs and cam sessions.

Well, this thread is meant to be able the forums not people harassing you by mail, which I agree isn't ok.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Even after looking that up, I can get no sense out of it.

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www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cock+block
Urban Dictionary
cock block. One who prevents another from scoring sexually. (with M3 even though it's still a pie in the sky dream.) [:D]

But you don't have a cock, GM, on account of you're female.

Oh never mind. I have a headache.

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Dommes don't need to be physically equipped in order to "have" a cock.

Jus sayin

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

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ORIGINAL: domincalifornia

Just because someone starts a thread doesn't mean they are obligated to respond to everyone who writes a comment to them. They can step out anytime they want, and stop talking to anyone anytime they want.

Thanks for clearing that up for me. Of course that is the case, but for this thread in particular, where someone is taking a pot shot (and not their first one) at the community, perhaps sticking around would be a great idea so you can be heard.

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ORIGINAL: domincalifornia

It looks like he has stuck around. He's simply responding to some people, and not others.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

So just in case somebody hasn't heard my spiel by now I'm often horrified by the way new posters are treated around here. Upon stating this in the past I've received the response that usually the new poster does something to instigate the responses and I think that's true.

Sometimes it's the case that the poster has an uncommon kink that doesn't fit in around here, but should we really be throwing rocks over that, seems to me an awful lot like we're living in a glass house on this one.

Sometimes the poster stumbles onto a hotbutton topic, but really how can we reasonably expect someone new to know where all the mines are buried?

Sometimes it's that the poster makes some spelling mistakes or doesn't express themselves well. Thing is expressing oneself on a forum is a skill and we're talking about posters who are new. It's a very rare person who's perfect at well just about anything their first time.

Don't get me wrong, there are work arounds to these problems: learning to post elsewhere/a substantial amount of lurking. But isn't that setting an awfully high bar to be allowed to post here without getting heckled off the site?

I mean we're basically asking new posters to hit the ground running in the middle of a mine field, is it at all surprising that has a tendency of not working out very well!

About this time in my argument someone's apt to make a comment about this is just how it is. Thing is that's not actually true, I can point to examples both in meat space and on fet of communities who are night and day different, think about it for a second, can't all of you do the same?

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ORIGINAL: PandoraFoxxx

If you act like an idiot, people are going to make an example of you. Sadly, most of the new posters do just this. There is a difference between being new and just acting a fool. I was new to boards about 6 months ago and I never got "hazed." I'd actually say the opposite happened.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

So just in case somebody hasn't heard my spiel by now I'm often horrified by the way new posters are treated around here. Upon stating this in the past I've received the response that usually the new poster does something to instigate the responses and I think that's true.

Sometimes it's the case that the poster has an uncommon kink that doesn't fit in around here, but should we really be throwing rocks over that, seems to me an awful lot like we're living in a glass house on this one.

Sometimes the poster stumbles onto a hotbutton topic, but really how can we reasonably expect someone new to know where all the mines are buried?

Sometimes it's that the poster makes some spelling mistakes or doesn't express themselves well. Thing is expressing oneself on a forum is a skill and we're talking about posters who are new. It's a very rare person who's perfect at well just about anything their first time.

Don't get me wrong, there are work arounds to these problems: learning to post elsewhere/a substantial amount of lurking. But isn't that setting an awfully high bar to be allowed to post here without getting heckled off the site?

I mean we're basically asking new posters to hit the ground running in the middle of a mine field, is it at all surprising that has a tendency of not working out very well!

About this time in my argument someone's apt to make a comment about this is just how it is. Thing is that's not actually true, I can point to examples both in meat space and on fet of communities who are night and day different, think about it for a second, can't all of you do the same?

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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: PandoraFoxxx

If you act like an idiot, people are going to make an example of you. Sadly, most of the new posters do just this. There is a difference between being new and just acting a fool. I was new to boards about 6 months ago and I never got "hazed." I'd actually say the opposite happened.

Bingo. Plenty of new posters make it through unscathed simply because they didn't post dumb shit. Post dumb shit and you're going to get called on it no matter whether you're a newbie or not.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity
So when it comes down to setting a mandate for appropriate treatment of new posters around here...do we all use my standard of what constitutes being nice? Do we use yours? Do we use shifty's? Or perhaps DaddySatyr's? Or any of the other folks who offered their opinions? In my honest opinion, it's not my place to tell any of you how you should be or how you should act. I don't have that right. All I can do is be the best me I can be here. It's really all any of us can do. The rest really is out of our control.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
I coddle children, not grown ups. YMMV.

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

The first thing happens often because OP posts, leaves, forgets about it and doesn't come back to give clarification. Then the whole thread derails into personal opinion land rather than advice for the OP...because OP went *poof*

I don't see people getting "attacked" for having kinks that aren't popular here. What I DO see is people saying "Not many folks are into that here..." fairly often.

I agree about starting a thread that has been done before- the search feature on here sucks, and really if they have an ice cream cone- shouldn't be attacked. But again- I don't see that often. Unless the poster started the topic 6 months ago and said the same thing.

ETA- I had another thought...

I know you'd like it if more of us referenced where to find folks "into" some kinks that not a lot of folks around here are. Do you think these folks will stay around this forum if we hand them a link to fet? and why is it my responsibility to google something for someone? I found all these things by using my head. I think if they are coming in here to ask about some of these things its either a) deliberate laziness b) trolling or c) wank fodder/profile views seeking.