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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/6/2015 2:01:22 PM   
Hotch


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Ah so you're not looking for an actual human being. That definitely leaves you out.


To this point I've been commenting tongue in cheek and playing to your so called "sarcasm gene"... But I take offense to that last comment. I don't like being told what I am or am not looking for by someone who doesn't know me. Yeah, you took a peek, but that doesn't give you the right to make such off base comments. Suffice to say, no, I'm not interested in you, so I could care less if I'm "out".

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/6/2015 3:03:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Hotch

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ORIGINAL: LiveSpark

Ah so you're not looking for an actual human being. That definitely leaves you out.


To this point I've been commenting tongue in cheek and playing to your so called "sarcasm gene"... But I take offense to that last comment. I don't like being told what I am or am not looking for by someone who doesn't know me. Yeah, you took a peek, but that doesn't give you the right to make such off base comments. Suffice to say, no, I'm not interested in you, so I could care less if I'm "out".


That you actually took that as a serious comment on what you might be looking for tells me all I need to know about you. That you consciously decided to be offended tells me even more. Seriously dude get over yourself.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/6/2015 3:36:55 PM   
Hotch


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ORIGINAL: LiveSpark


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ORIGINAL: Hotch

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ORIGINAL: LiveSpark

Ah so you're not looking for an actual human being. That definitely leaves you out.


To this point I've been commenting tongue in cheek and playing to your so called "sarcasm gene"... But I take offense to that last comment. I don't like being told what I am or am not looking for by someone who doesn't know me. Yeah, you took a peek, but that doesn't give you the right to make such off base comments. Suffice to say, no, I'm not interested in you, so I could care less if I'm "out".


That you actually took that as a serious comment on what you might be looking for tells me all I need to know about you. That you consciously decided to be offended tells me even more. Seriously dude get over yourself.

Ahh... Now I get it. Claiming sarcasm is your justification for being rude and allows you to deflect the blame on the person you're dissing for " not getting it". What a great system you've developed! Even making an allowance for the inability to judge inflection in this medium, your comment comes off as shrewish. Your inability to see this tells me everything I need to know about you.

Go ahead and get in the last word. I know your type needs to. I'm done.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/16/2015 3:53:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tend to ignore or delete messages from men who clearly haven't glanced at my profile for the two seconds it takes to realise that I'm not interested in men in the slightest. Rude, quite likely, but I also consider it fairly rude to send someone a demand for them to submit, or to beg them to dominate, without any reason to believe it'll be welcomed.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/16/2015 5:05:30 PM   
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No one has got to me, I'm not complaining, and I am not a findomme.


Simple test.

If you ask for money/tribute/gifts/etc, (and you're a Dom), then you're a Findomme.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/16/2015 6:55:34 PM   
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I left the old CM because it became a cluster fuck of bitchiness on the forums. Things have changed and I think the new CS is really refreshing compared to how it was. Granted I don't read every thread on here but this is the first thread I've seen that looks disappointingly familiar to the threads of old that we used to regularly see on CM.


Yep. I know exactly what you mean. Disappointingly familiar - and so damned tedious.



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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/20/2015 9:40:25 PM   
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I was expecting replies to do with the original question. I expect I would have got very different answers if my profile and pictures were hidden


I see you are unfamiliar with the internet. More specifically internet forums. The OP gets lip service for a few posts until we internet dwellers can find a (sometimes) logical way to sidetrack the discussion. Also complaining is generally met with hostility, even if you weren't complaining as you say in the OP, you are now.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/20/2015 9:51:40 PM   
DerangedUnit


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Status: offline 		I used to delete a lot of messages unread, until I started only going on cs on my phone... the delete button is in the message in mobile for so if it was short I can't really help but read it... if it's long, it gets a sentence or two to catch my interest before being deleted.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/21/2015 3:33:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: theprlncesslucy

I was expecting replies to do with the original question. I expect I would have got very different answers if my profile and pictures were hidden


I see you are unfamiliar with the internet. More specifically internet forums. The OP gets lip service for a few posts until we internet dwellers can find a (sometimes) logical way to sidetrack the discussion. Also complaining is generally met with hostility, even if you weren't complaining as you say in the OP, you are now.


So we don't have a right to expect people to answer our questions? Interesting, I wasn't aware of that because I tend to try to at least answer the actual question. It's called respect.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/21/2015 8:11:44 AM   
usememistress775


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So we don't have a right to expect people to answer our questions? Interesting, I wasn't aware of that because I tend to try to at least answer the actual question. It's called respect.

Not the intention of my post, but I can see where you would get that idea. What I was trying to say is that getting mad about ranging away from original topic is the least productive thing that can 've done on the internet which is saying something. All it does is encourage less discussion about said topic to instead focus on the poster.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/21/2015 3:13:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Especially because it's what people do. You start a conversation about what you watched on tv last night and in minutes someone else switches the topic to what they are looking forward to watching. Thread drift is endemic to humans. Even in verbal conversation.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/25/2015 11:21:56 AM   
crumpets


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Status: offline 		Partly based on helpful ideas in this thread, I just went through all my "sent" mail, and there was one "deleted unread" and three not read (in a while), so, what I did to ensure I don't bother those people is just put them on "hide".

That way, I won't accidentally try to contact them in the future.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/26/2015 9:18:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: crumpets

Partly based on helpful ideas in this thread, I just went through all my "sent" mail, and there was one "deleted unread" and three not read (in a while), so, what I did to ensure I don't bother those people is just put them on "hide".

That way, I won't accidentally try to contact them in the future.


That's one way. You could also wait a few weeks/months and try a different approach. If they don't respond to three different messages spread widely apart, they likely aren't interested and you can hide them. But you can't draw any conclusion from a single message that wasn't responded to.

And personally, I don't think your concern should be about bothering them. If they are bothered by you, they should tell you not to contact them or block you. Your concern should be about not wasting your time with someone who isn't interested in you

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/27/2015 9:36:19 AM   
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That's one way. You could also wait a few weeks/months and try a different approach. If they don't respond to three different messages spread widely apart, they likely aren't interested and you can hide them. But you can't draw any conclusion from a single message that wasn't responded to.

Dunno if that's a good approach. I've been on the receiving end of that tactic before and it just pissed me off even more. Then again, I seem to have a long memory when it comes to dudes messaging me, even if it's a little more than "hey, haven't I seen this guy before?" Maybe that's just me?

Honestly, I'd just go with hiding them after the first message isn't responded to. Especially if it's deleted unread. If the first message doesn't get their interest, any subsequent ones give the impression that you don't take no for an answer. Cut your losses and keep searching.

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/27/2015 2:14:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: seekingreality

That's one way. You could also wait a few weeks/months and try a different approach. If they don't respond to three different messages spread widely apart, they likely aren't interested and you can hide them. But you can't draw any conclusion from a single message that wasn't responded to.

Dunno if that's a good approach. I've been on the receiving end of that tactic before and it just pissed me off even more. Then again, I seem to have a long memory when it comes to dudes messaging me, even if it's a little more than "hey, haven't I seen this guy before?" Maybe that's just me?

Honestly, I'd just go with hiding them after the first message isn't responded to. Especially if it's deleted unread. If the first message doesn't get their interest, any subsequent ones give the impression that you don't take no for an answer. Cut your losses and keep searching.

Same here. It's not like the Message History isn't going to display. (Of course, with Bulk Mail, just your side of it will, not theirs. I have on-line pals who don't fit my Inbox parameters, and their messages get routed to Bulk. I wish there was a a manual override feature.)

Either they're hoping I won't remember they've already contacted me, or else they've lost track of it themselves. One guy had received a Not Interested response from me, his 2nd intro a couple months later was word for word what his 1st had been, so I informed him I would have to block him. He shot back quickly, Yes please block him so he wouldn't do that again.

Delayed attentiveness is the same as delayed obedience (=disobedience). It negates itself. Then there are always those guys you've brushed off after a few message exchanges who pop up out of the woodwork months later, or half a year or more down the road acting as if nothing had ever happened, as if they stood any chance! And still no recent photo in some cases...

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RE: Deleted Unread - 1/29/2015 1:39:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I've had that happen once with someone I'd blocked because they were only attempting to pester but somehow they became 'unblocked' and I replied kindly that I had no interest and they "deleted..." I took it as an unvoiced agreement that enough was enough? I didn't find it offensive though. I was thrilled actually. There are all types on this site and it's easy to get turned around by those who's wants do not match up with your own. Some have great egos others not so much. No harm no foul, it happens. So no, I don't find it funny I figure it's just par for the course. Enjoy those you can connect with on any level and 'deleted unread' those you can't or don't :) ?? Good luck to you.

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