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RE: How much have you changed? - 1/31/2015 3:32:13 PM

soraimo

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ORIGINAL: imtempting
I think if you do change its not because of the D/s part of it but rather your met someone who is needed in your life at the time weather it's vanilla or lifestyle and they are helping to make your more confident/relaxed or whatever your saying is changed.

It annoys me how people seem to think d/s is this life saving thing and without it they would be an asshole,stubborn, lazy, disrespectful and so on and so on

While I wholly agree with the last statement, I do think the D/s part may play a role in it.

In my case, I've definitely grown more confidant through the encouragement of my dominant SO. The impact on our relationship is somewhat mixed though: my grown self-assuredness is very much appreciated when applied to her benefit, but my tendency to say nay more often, is not always greeted with the same enthusiasm. Neither of us calls it topping from the bottom, but it has had an impact on our relationship dynamics.

As to could this have happened in a vanilla relationship? I wouldn’t know as I choose not to be in one. As a sub, the choice for a D/s relationship was already a positive choice in itself.

(in reply to imtempting)